Ever suspect a MN post has been about you?

[Millano]

Have you ever read a post on MN and wondered if the OP was talking about you (or someone close to you), like.., actually you? If so, did you say anything to them? Or.. do you suspect someone might have written a post about you in the recent or deep past, but you can't find it (can't be arsed to search years back)?

@mog27

I often wonder this. The thread the other day about the OP not making bridesmaid because she was apparently too big for the dress the bride wanted was very outing. Saying that I also wonder how many of the posts are actually true as well.

Yes I saw this own- she posted a screengrab of the text from her friend - name blanked out- but still!

I'm sure. I'm a terrible arsehole IRL

I have definitely had posts written about me on here, not kind ones - and they were about my appearance, not personality.

I often wonder if the DIL ones on Gransnet have been written about me though.

No but I have recognised 2 people I know in Real life on here and one was posting about something very sensitive.
I've been recognised too

I often wonder how many posts are real or if they are made up by people or mumsnet employees? Is that even possible? I dont know!

Yes, my sister has a very recognisable writing style and provides a lot of details. I never bite but find it rather amusing.

Yes - well not me by my ex and my child - very specific details from his ex (left me for her) was very interesting to see things from her perspective when he was telling me how ‘crazy’ she was.

*but my ex

A few years ago a poster recounted a difficult situation they found themselves in which included an unfair description of my actions. Didn’t let on.

Not on MN, but on Trip Advisor I recognised myself in a review !
Apparently, DH & I were pommy whingers who spoiled the holiday for the rest of the small group in a distant country.
Effing joke; the Tour Manager was totally incompetent, the non-pommies had low standards & expectations, & I got about 40% of the cost back when I justifiably complained to ABTA about the shortcomings of a v. expensive holiday.

For those posters who say they recognise themselves but the OP was totally unfair and gave a completely misleading or incorrect account...might it be that it wasn't about you?

Yes, a few days ago. I am an awful neighbour (which I may be because DP has too many cars). I'd happily accept it if they'd realised they weren't that great themselves (annoying kids, weed smokers and rangers fans) :)

No, I am not exciting or important enough to warrant anyone posting about me. I guess that's a good thing, as some of the threads you read on here can be quite barbaric on some subjects 😊

Not on here but on a professional forum (that no longer exists) that members of the public could also post on if they really wanted to.

There was someone querying some information a professional had given them earlier in the day, it was very obviously a relative of a very difficult client I had spoken to earlier that day due to the timing and the very specific circumstance. Was quite satisfying anonymously watching the other professionals on the forum telling them I was right.

No but I suspect I have been recognised a few times - and I have definitely recognised other posters.

I would love to be the subject of a thread though, and I would definitely post on it. ‘Yes, YABU and here’s why....’

I saw myself mentioned on here.

Completely harmless on their part and I said hi

I do think that if you recognise yourself being talked about on mn it is going to be very one-sided and not in your favour generally because if someone feels strongly enough about something to post it, you are only going to hear their side and as we all know there are at least two sides to every story.

I remember ages ago someone was on complaining about her two sisters. It went on a while and most people were on her side. Then her two sisters appeared with their side of the story and that changed the whole context.

I’ve recently had a big fallout with someone and I can well imagine that if they posted it would sound VERY different from my perception of it!

I saw a teacher one once that reminded me of an interaction I'd had, though with some details changed. I did wonder...but it wasn't all that distinctive of an issue, so it very well could've been someone else.

Didn't engage with it but OP had her arse handed to her on it so I'm glad to know MN was in my corner. If it was her, she was an arsehole irl too.

I identified someone who I am sure lived on the same road as me once.
It was a thread were people were complaining about the parking situation on their street and one poster described the situation on our street exactly and also described a specific incident that had happened a few weeks earlier. I even knew which house she lived in.
I didn't mention it on the thread or remember the user name but it did remind me that's it's a small world and I am careful about what I post because anyone could be reading it and all my family and a lot of my friends know I use Mumsnet.

I have never read anything about me and I don't post enough to be recognised. Not sure what I would do if I was, probably leave as MN is my private place. I would feel weird reading and posting knowing someone I know could be reading it.

Yes, I read a post years ago that my sister 100% wrote about my young son, he was 1 at the time. It was so odd she was claiming she was sure he was autistic and if she should say to me and DH. She has a history of writing very made up stuff for attention and engagement. I found it strange but also hurtful, just for info he's not autistic and never had any trates she claimed he was displaying and on a side note she used to post a lot and was probably fairly well known on MN.

@pumpkin12 I’m wondering who she was now!

Didn’t see the bridesmaid one, did it get deleted?

I've started reading posts before and realised I know the people involved... so have closed the threads and tried to erase my brain. It feels intrusive.