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Ever suspect a MN post has been about you?

112 replies

Millano · 05/06/2021 18:27

Have you ever read a post on MN and wondered if the OP was talking about you (or someone close to you), like.., actually you? If so, did you say anything to them? Or.. do you suspect someone might have written a post about you in the recent or deep past, but you can't find it (can't be arsed to search years back)?

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JackieTheFart · 05/06/2021 21:25

@mog27

I often wonder this. The thread the other day about the OP not making bridesmaid because she was apparently too big for the dress the bride wanted was very outing. Saying that I also wonder how many of the posts are actually true as well.
Really? I thought that was the very definition of generic. I’ve read the same situation on here multiple times and I know people it’s happened to!
JackieTheFart · 05/06/2021 21:28

@Biscoffin

I have definitely had posts written about me on here, not kind ones - and they were about my appearance, not personality.

I often wonder if the DIL ones on Gransnet have been written about me though. Grin

Who would do that? Are you in the public eye?
ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 05/06/2021 21:30

no

but weirdly this morning I was thinking about if I'd ever recognise one about me.

get out of my fucking head dude!!!

AgathaAllAlong · 05/06/2021 21:33

Definitely not, no drama with folk likely to be on MN. I do have a situation I'd love to put to AIBU but am too worried that the family members involved would see it. Every now and again when I have to deal with this person I compose the post in my head, and add new annoyances as updates. Very sad, but it helps calm me down and keeps all those things in my head instead of out of my mouth where they'd only cause trouble!

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 05/06/2021 21:34

I reckon most people embellish/tweak enough details that it wouldnt be that recognisable.

Also truth is, what you hear on AIBU is one person's perspective of what happened. Human beings are shit at being objective! We are very prone to bias and misremembering details.

I think people also oftentimes don't get the answer they want on AIBU, so then drip feed in extra made up shit to try and bring people over to their point of view.

WhyMeLord · 05/06/2021 21:39

I once posted on a lighthearted 'what thing do you miss' type thread about item that had been discontinued about 20 years ago. My mum read it and sent me a link to the thread saying 'Look, it's not just us that loved X!' I had to break her heart and tell her that it was me and that we are the only people still hankering after them decades later 😂

romdowa · 05/06/2021 21:42

I don't think I've ever come across something posted about me but I've recognised a poster on here before from one of my Facebook groups.

Spanglebangle · 05/06/2021 22:36

I've read one that was definitely about DD's school. It was an email sent out and everyone was talking about it at pick up. I don't know which parent posted it though.

Dontwanttobeatwat · 05/06/2021 22:54

Someone started a thread about a phrase they hate - because I used it in another thread Grin don't know if that counts

SmokeyDevil · 05/06/2021 23:04

@IDontDrinkTea

A long time ago now. Someone posted to complain about their elective operation being postponed because of emergencies and I’m fairly certain I’m the person that made the decision Blush obviously I didn’t comment, but I did feel awful. Equally life saving ops have to come before elective procedures so I didn’t have a lot of choice
I wouldn't feel guilty about that. Emergencies are always a higher priority than elective, that's just common sense. Hmm
Loyaultemelie · 05/06/2021 23:13

I've recognised my aunt on here discussing my DM and also her then field of work. I also suspect one of the school mums recognised me from a lighthearted thread and kind of tested the water a few years ago so I name changed before posting anything "deeper"

WisconsinRaw · 05/06/2021 23:16

I'm a TV actor among other things and have seen posts here slagging off my acting and my looks. Grin

Not quite the same and I don't really mind cos in acting you put yourself out there to be judged. But did give me a start!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 05/06/2021 23:29

@WisconsinRaw

I'm a TV actor among other things and have seen posts here slagging off my acting and my looks. Grin

Not quite the same and I don't really mind cos in acting you put yourself out there to be judged. But did give me a start!

@WisconsinRaw

🤣
I often wonder about how many famous people are hiding in here.
I do know a famous comedian (he's on tv mainly) and if I mentioned him in a certain context and he saw my post he'd know immediately who I am.
I really want to know if by any chance you are him!😁

(don't worry, I'm not asking to out yourself. but it'd be funny)

Dustyboots · 05/06/2021 23:38

I found a post about me once - totally by accident. I wasn't looking on mumsnet at all - just googled the thing I was worrying about and up it popped on mumsnet - all about my family and our situation. It had been posted that very same day.

We PM'd the OP - and she/he didn't realise it was us for a while. I think they figured it out in the end.

It's made me realise that nothing you post on the internet is actually anonymous.

Sillawithans · 05/06/2021 23:46

Years ago there was a thread about me and mumsnet concluded that yes, I was indeed a prostitute. I'm not Grin

GappyValley · 05/06/2021 23:52

I’ve recognised 2 people I know on her after they posted threads about things they’d told me about

One was a really boring question about tax while on mat leave
But the other was about being uninvited to a wedding after the OP’s DH couldn’t go on the stag do, and she got a load of shit from people saying she was making it up, she sounded awful, there were probably other reasons she had been uninvited etc

Unfortunately I didn’t find the thread until it had died off, so posting a message in her defence would have looked really odd, but I felt quite sorry for her being accused of making it up

I also spent quite a long time convinced that a regular poster was exH’s new parter based in her mentioning her job and town on a couple of threads, and the ages of her DCs matching

But then she mentioned she was happily married so my theory was blown

Beachhuts90 · 05/06/2021 23:53

I often wonder about how many famous people are hiding in here.

Aren't we pretty sure the Duchess of Cambridge is on here? I always imagine her sneakily taking part in threads about her.

MissCruellaDeVil · 05/06/2021 23:54

I thought a work post was about me once, it was criticising the management (me) in their department, and was eerily similar to a relevant situation at the time.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 05/06/2021 23:59

@Beachhuts90

I often wonder about how many famous people are hiding in here.

Aren't we pretty sure the Duchess of Cambridge is on here? I always imagine her sneakily taking part in threads about her.

gosh, yes. I remember a few threads discussing that (I almost added it to my post!)

I would absolutely chime in if I was her or anyone famous! 😆

AIMummy · 05/06/2021 23:59

Cancel the cheque!

Losttheplotyearsago · 06/06/2021 00:00

Never happened to me. Some of my friends are on here but I've never been posted about.

AIMummy · 06/06/2021 00:00

Sorry lol wrong thread(!)

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 06/06/2021 00:01

@Sillawithans

Years ago there was a thread about me and mumsnet concluded that yes, I was indeed a prostitute. I'm not Grin
@Sillawithans 🤣🤣 brilliant!

did you tell them?

YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer · 06/06/2021 00:19

Not on here, but on an online group for parents of autistic children. It wasnt about me specifically, but about the school/class I work in. I work with Special Needs children and the mother of one of our kids was angry at the school and was looking for help with an upcoming meeting. Things she was claiming though (saying behaviors that the school was claiming her child exhibited never happened at home) were actually things she had posted about her child also doing at home in the past. I was very torn on whether to say anything to the school about the things she was planning to claim or not. In the end I kept quiet because the group was a private one and it didnt feel right (almost like I was spying on her). It all worked out in the end though, and both her and the school were happy with the outcome.

Sillawithans · 06/06/2021 00:34

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba yes I did. It was called something like "Where is my wife going at night" or similar. He was an abusive bastard and before the thread had spat in my face, broken 3 ribs, absolute animal. What he did to me one time was in the paper and a discussion on BBC Radio. I couldn't believe it when I heard it. Anyway...... he told me about the thread. I can't remember what I said to him but he said something to me like "did your mumsnet friendsctell you that" He knew I was coming here for support. He enjoyed telling me about the thread.

I told everyone I was the wife and another poster realised he was abusive and what he was up to.

We got married on this day in 2003 Grin I finally left him in 2014.

Met the nicest man in the world 6 weeks later. He's in bed next to me now eating a bowl of cereal.

The most gorgeous thing I've ever seen 😍