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I'm not your friend...

132 replies

Umwelt · 04/06/2021 20:44

...been told by my wife of, well, about 15 years...
Few weeks ago...
Didn't think much about it...
Tonight though- WTF??? So who are you woman???

OP posts:
Kissthepastrychef · 04/06/2021 23:47

😎

I'm not your friend...
SirVixofVixHall · 04/06/2021 23:49

In answer to your question, yes my husband is also my best friend, of course. I do understand why you would be hurt if that is how she meant it, it is just hard to tell if that was her intention.

me4real · 05/06/2021 00:15

@Umwelt What else did she say in the sentence/surrounding sentences?

I mean, if, as you say, you'd made plans, and you dropped the plans, if she said 'I'm not just a friend, that you can drop plans with when you can't be arsed hanging out with them,' then that would make a bit more sense.

I thought I understood your post at first, but think previous posters are right. If you really are concerned about her statement and it's meaning rather than just selectively quoting to us, then you could ask her about her statement and what she meant.

Lipz · 05/06/2021 00:33

This is like reading one way text messages,.

Although I am 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 at waxing the owl.... Everyone here is looking at me because I have my head down trying not to snot out of my nose.

PollyPepper · 05/06/2021 00:41

Wtf

BackforGood · 05/06/2021 01:00

YABVVVU to not explain what you are talking about, or answer anyone's questions after starting a thread to ask for advice, yes.

Context is everything in this conversation, as so many have asked you for.

Quite frankly, if you are this frustrating and annoying in RL, I can understand people not wanting to be your friend.

LavendulaAngustifolia · 05/06/2021 04:23

U Ok hun?

bishbashbosh99 · 05/06/2021 04:32

Clearly he (she/it) is taking the piss out of you all

Providora · 05/06/2021 04:58

If you just wanted to know if the majority of women consider their partners friends, why didn't you just ask that question?

Instead you're trying to get a bunch of strangers to decode a conversation you've had with a woman who you know and we don't. If you want to understand what she really meant, ask HER.

Longdistance · 05/06/2021 05:04

This is like driving through a thick fog. Taking a fucking guess where you’re going and the satnav’s broken.
I’m going to take up waxing an owl. Makes more sense than this drippy feed.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/06/2021 06:24

@Providora

If you just wanted to know if the majority of women consider their partners friends, why didn't you just ask that question?

Instead you're trying to get a bunch of strangers to decode a conversation you've had with a woman who you know and we don't. If you want to understand what she really meant, ask HER.

Almost like we are expected to do wife work.

Perhaps this is op’s problem? The self centredness of not treating his wife as an equal. Who knows with this one.

Blueskytoday06 · 05/06/2021 06:36

Yes I do.

Oneandanotherone · 05/06/2021 06:38

No he’s not my friend, I don’t own a house with/have children with/have sex with my friends.

KateTheEighth · 05/06/2021 07:15

Maybe he'll come back when he's sober

Or he'll have forgotten he posted

FritataPatate · 05/06/2021 08:15

OP: OK- for clarity,, this topic is super extra friendly, I'm just curious.

for clarity ?? No chance of that! Confused

Veryverycalmnow · 05/06/2021 08:34

Did she say anything else? My DH thinks we should be best friends, but I already have a best friend and what we have is different to that. We are married- so each other's main person. There's a lot more to it than friendship. As everyone else has said, it's hard to work out without the context or more information.

cocoloco987 · 05/06/2021 09:55

Well this was a difficult read. Sounds like an account of a falling out you get from a 3 year old when collecting them from nursery!

Ijustknowitstimetogo · 05/06/2021 09:58

OP you’re not communicating here very clearly. I’m finding you difficult to understand.

iklboo · 05/06/2021 10:19

Someone give the pre-cog a nudge. We're going to need her skills with this one.

TwoAndAnOnion · 05/06/2021 11:10

@Umwelt

...been told by my wife of, well, about 15 years... Few weeks ago... Didn't think much about it... Tonight though- WTF??? So who are you woman???
My husband was my best friend, confidante and the person who always had my back.

I don't know what to make of your wifes comment.

CandyLeBonBon · 05/06/2021 11:59

@iklboo

Someone give the pre-cog a nudge. We're going to need her skills with this one.
😂😂😂
SallyCinnabon · 05/06/2021 12:27

Was this written by AI?

CandyLeBonBon · 05/06/2021 12:35

@SallyCinnabon

Was this written by AI?
If it was, someone needs to turn it off and turn it on again!
SallyCinnabon · 05/06/2021 12:42

🤣 It’s just like those AI chat bots that try and write a story or even, like someone has just kept pressing the middle word on their predictive text 😆

Zzelda · 05/06/2021 12:47

In the time you have spent on cryptic posts you could have given the context to enable people to give useful replies.

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