To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate

[Mintsmints]

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

[quote SkedaddIe]@forinborin

"I checked out of interest and Catherine wore white (well, off-white / ivory) to Harry and Meghan's wedding too (although she could not have been a bridesmaid - or am I mistaken here?)"

I just checked that and I had no idea, unsurprisingly the bias press conveniently ignored it. But Kate is trash so I'm not surprised. [/quote]
That's a disgusting comment to make.

That one's not white though.

No it's black with a white hat, traditional mourning colours.

Ghastly. What a horrible woman. She should just not attend if she hates her SIL that much

Ask her does it come in black as you're looking for a funeral outfit.

Kate’s outfit at the Sussex wedding was actually pale yellow but the sun bleached it out in the photos. If you look at the interior chapel pics, it is clearly yellow.

OP you have been a good friend - even though she told you to FO, you still counselled caution. It’s totally the wrong way to go about things - she thinks she is going to stick it to the bride when in fact, all sympathy will be with the bride and she is going to look like a pillowcase/nutter in that trashy outfit.

At least the bride will have a memorable day. Let her wear what she wants.

I would love to know how this plays out.
It wouldn't be my taste in any colour. In white it looks even more embarrassing.
Yes people should wear what they want but equally if they're asking for opinions why shouldn't op say what she thinks.

@Amec

It sound really to me, why not, I love a woman who thinks for her self.

Amec. xx

I'm not sure brave and sexy is what you want for your brother's wedding. People tend to dress appropriately for the occasion.

Sounds horrific, let her crack on and make a literal tit of herself.

Dh's cousin turned up at our wedding in a see through white blouse, black underwear and a leather miniskirt. She was all over everyone and then tried to convert them to her form of christianity

I'm guessing her form of Christianity wasn't Amish

I understand the not wearing white, I’d never wear white to a wedding. Someone wore white to mine and it didn’t bother me. Everyone knows who the bride is. Also would a bride really care if someone wore something revealing? It really wouldn’t bother me.

@scrambledcustard

If your good enough friends you should be able to say 'mate don't do it'.

I agree with this.

Sorry just read your updates.

She sounds awful and you were just trying to save her from looking like a complete dick.

[quote MagentaDragon]@forinborin I agree I find the UK weirdness about wedding guests wearing white quite odd and specific to this country. I never even realised people thought this was an issue until I started reading mumsnet and I was born here! In some countries it is actually traditional for wedding guests to wear white (not bridal dresses obviously, but what the OP posted was as far from a bridal dress as you can get. 😂😂).

For me the issue with this outfit is that it's tacky and much too revealing for a formal event. Why would you want to flash most of your breasts at families and friends trying to celebrate a wedding? That's much worde than the colour. But that may just be my interpretation. [/quote]
It’s not weird at all and it’s not uniquely British. Many cultures have similar taboo colours for weddings. You’d have much the same response if you tried to wear bridal red or funereal white to a Hindu wedding.

How do you go to the loo in that outfit and come out uncratched, is there a hatch of some kind?

@FunMcCool

I understand the not wearing white, I’d never wear white to a wedding. Someone wore white to mine and it didn’t bother me. Everyone knows who the bride is. Also would a bride really care if someone wore something revealing? It really wouldn’t bother me.

It might not bother you personally but it goes very much against the etiquette of weddings and what is seen as respectful, so it's an insult even if it doesn't hurt your feelings. If nothing else, it's just showing disrespect to your wedding as a whole.

@SilverGlassHare

If I were the bride, this really wouldn't bother me - your friend will make a fool of herself and it'll be a topic of conversation for years to come - "Remember when SIL turned up at your wedding in a white jumpsuit with her tits out?! What a twat!". Let her get on with it.

That's exactly what the woman wants, though: to be what people remember about the wedding.

Is it even going to wind up on the bride or is the joke going to be on her for wearing the inappropriate outfit?
She'll stand out like a sore thumb and look sleazy. It's not even the colour, it's the t*ts hanging out. She might spill her soup on them 🙈

If it were my friend, OP, I'd write her an e-mail that she can read in private. I'd be telling her that whatever is going on with her and her sister-in-law-to-be, this is not the way to do it. She will make a statement that will have such long-standing ripples for her relationship with her brother and she may not be prepared for that.

I have to say though, the posters advocating that she 'gets a slap', you/they would deserve the assault charge and I wouldn't hesitate. Do people really behave like that?

If she does wear it anyway hopefully she is 7st wringing wet and that some clumsy person spills red wine on it. Oopsie daisy

Wow. Well your friend is an attention seeking bitch trying to spoil her brother’s wedding, isn’t she? Not sure you can do anything about it though, presumably she’s choosing to be a bitch and I guess you are choosing to be friends with her anyway.

Even without the bitch thing I can’t imagine being friends with someone who would wear that outfit she’s gonna look ridiculous 🤣🤣🤣

She sounds like an absolute delight. Intentionally trying to be the centre of attention at someones wedding.

I went to a wedding once where a guest was wearing very tight hot pink trousers and a cropped pink top which tied between her very ample boobs. It barely held them in and left very little to the imagination. She did draw attention to herself (I'm assuming that was the point of the outfit) but for all the wrong reasons and she looked bloody ridiculous. At least it wasn't also white though, but still incredibly inappropriate for a wedding.

Why would you even reply to someone telling you to F off?

What a way to speak.

She sounds rough and she's going to look it too at the wedding.

Why would you care?