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To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate

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Mintsmints · 02/06/2021 20:45

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

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MrsExpo · 03/06/2021 07:52

Tell her that, if she’s wearing it to score points over the bride, then she’s the one who will end up looking bad. Also tell her to grow up ...... !!!

diddl · 03/06/2021 08:13

[quote LookItsMeAgain]Is it like this one @Mintsmints - grlondonparis.com/home/30-79-structured-deep-v-neck-jumpsuit-iconie.html[/quote]
I'm getting old.

When I first clicked on that I thought-"ooh, dungarees".
BlushGrin

Echobelly · 03/06/2021 08:14

Yeah, I agree with @MrsExpo - OK, it might wind up the bride, but whatever your mate thinks of her, does she really want people who don't know her assuming she's a jealous ex? Is it fair on her brother for her to create gossip about her feelings for SIL and draw attention herself?

In fact that's how I might put it (unless she dislikes brother as well) - 'I think it's a bit unfair on your brother (and other family members) to wear something that's going to cause a stir on his wedding day?'

People do seem to forget there are people other than the bride invested in a wedding and it is quite selfish to make onesself a discussion point just to get at one person.

RedElephants · 03/06/2021 08:14

This is Raquel Welch at her sons wedding.

A little revealing, but not as bad as the description/look a like photo the Op posted..

To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate
Ellmau · 03/06/2021 08:17

That one's not white though.

Bluntness100 · 03/06/2021 08:18

@RedElephants

This is Raquel Welch at her sons wedding.

A little revealing, but not as bad as the description/look a like photo the Op posted..

Yeah but it’s not white and it’s Raquel Welch.😂
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/06/2021 08:20

I’d say something, but TBH it sounds as if she’s determined to raise eyebrows, so I doubt she’d take any notice. Very immature behaviour.

FishyFriday · 03/06/2021 08:25

This sort of thing might piss off the bride on the day, yes. But ultimately she'll look like a total nightmare to everyone at the wedding. For years afterwards her brother and SIL - and their friends and family - will be talking about his bloody sister and her wedding outfit tantrum. There'll be loads of photos to laugh about.

She'll just be setting herself to be a huge joke for them by making a tit of herself at a memorable public occasion. Why would she want to do that?

BeyondMyWits · 03/06/2021 08:27

All the comments about it being white... to me that is the least of the reasons why it is wrong for her brother's wedding.

SkedaddIe · 03/06/2021 08:29

@Mintsmints

I think the one she has is better quality then the picture. The material looks like it is more of a satin feel and she does spend a lot on her clothes so it is prob a quality made item. Just not fit for a wedding. I have just texted back and said “ok but do me one favour and run it by your mum please”
You're a really good friend OP. You've been calm, thoughtful and really tried to help. Anything that happens is on her.
ScribblingPixie · 03/06/2021 08:33

When Raquel Welsh wore that outfit she was widely accused of trying to steal the bride's thunder. I think your messages & asking her to run it by her mum were perfect - you're a good friend, OP.

MiddleParking · 03/06/2021 08:35

Does she realise this looks like she wants to shag her brother? Does she want to shag her brother?

Roystonv · 03/06/2021 08:36

It's her poor Mum I'm thinking of as well and her Dad will not know where to look. Such a horrid thing to do all round - makes the whole day unpleasant instead of joyful.

Kissthepastrychef · 03/06/2021 08:38

Meh, nobody will mistake her for the bride given that presumably they all know the bride and groom and that SIL won't be accessorising with a veil, flowers, bridesmaids or be the one at the front going through a wedding ceremony.
It wouldn't have bothered me, I suspect I may have found the spectacle rather entertaining . If your friends SIL2b really loathes her she might find it very funny that she's made a total tit (boom boom) of herself

MiddleParking · 03/06/2021 08:38

Not to mention that unless she’s seven stone wringing wet she’s going to look fat as fuck in that, as anyone would, which she’ll realise about an hour in when the novelty wears off and she catches sight of herself in an overlit bathroom mirror, and it’ll be too late for her to do anything about it. She sounds like the type to be bothered by that if nothing else.

Kissthepastrychef · 03/06/2021 08:39

And I think most people just ignore would-be bride upstagers so it is likely to backfire anyway

MinnieJackson · 03/06/2021 08:39

Please update us after the wedding!

SilverGlassHare · 03/06/2021 08:43

If I were the bride, this really wouldn't bother me - your friend will make a fool of herself and it'll be a topic of conversation for years to come - "Remember when SIL turned up at your wedding in a white jumpsuit with her tits out?! What a twat!". Let her get on with it.

Kissthepastrychef · 03/06/2021 08:44

Jesus I just looked at the picture of it ! Oh my eyes ! It even looks foul on the model.
As someone else said so eloquently, unless she's 7 stone wringing wet it's going to look awful. Plus when she sits down.....
no no no no

SkedaddIe · 03/06/2021 08:44

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isthismylifenow · 03/06/2021 08:45

I think it's a wind up OP

lovelybitofsquirrell · 03/06/2021 08:49

'It's a lovely jump suit for a different occasion, but not really suitable for your brothers wedding'

Beseigedbykillersquirrels · 03/06/2021 08:50

I agree that this has serious 'it should have been me' vibes. Almost creepy. She's going to look horrendous and there is no way she'll get through the day without at least one comment. I bet she'll want the ground to swallow her up within 20 minutes of being there and want to go home to change into something less hideous. I'm not sure what would be more embarrassing - her continuing to wear it all day or going home and turning back up in something else.

GelfBride · 03/06/2021 08:55

Dh's cousin turned up at our wedding in a see through white blouse, black underwear and a leather miniskirt. She was all over everyone and then tried to convert them to her form of christianity.

Everyone just thought she was a twat and twenty one years later people still talk about what an asshole she was that day.

Let nature take it's course is what I say. She'll make herself look like a dick but it's best people know what she is really.

Amec · 03/06/2021 08:56

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