To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate

[Mintsmints]

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

I don't think she would welcome any advice. Leave her to it but please come back to tell us how the wedding went!

She's doing it on purpose.

I'd just point out she's being a cow (which she already knows anyway) and leave it at that.

Nasty woman though, winding the bride up like that on her wedding day.

Sounds to me like she’s chosen it on purpose to wind up the bride.

If I was the bride I'd get all hand-gestury with a glass of red. Oops.

I would laugh at her and tell her if she wants to ruin her brothers day she is going the right way about it and not to come crying to you when the shit his the fan, then let her do whatever she wants. She an adult, she can deal with the fallout.

I'm with those suggesting you respond as if it is a joke and not intended.

She's winding you up, OP, or thinking what'd she like to wear. I highly doubt she'll wear it.

Well it's not exactly a classy look, is it? Does she think she'll get positive attention if she wears it? If so, who from?

It's obviously completely inappropriate and it's equally obvious that that's why she's doing it.

You've done your part, you can't stop her or get involved. It's not on you.

Everyone will think she looks tacky, let her carry on

She'll be kept at the back of the photos 😂

Could you say "it's not the kind of thing I would wear to a wedding"

Another friend to has got the message with the pic has just texted me and said
That outfit-WTF
Inhave messaged and said you can’t wear that to a wedding and deep down you know it. It will be you who comes off badly and you will make your mum so embarrassed. (True her mum is very prim and proper) My other friend has done the same.

To tell you the truth I know the SIL and she will prob just laugh at how stupid she will look. My I haven’t seen this friend as much as a used to even before lock down and now I am starting to think twice about the friendship, so if she takes offence so be it.

I was at a wedding were a girl wore almost the same outfit in a different colour and when she walked into the church you could hear the sniggers

I'd keep out of it! And just reply "Gosh! Daring!" and leave it at that. Clearly she is doing it to wind them up.

Meh... not your problem. A friend of the bride will likely 'accidentally' decorate her outfit with their red wine. Then we will get to read about it on here post wedding from the prospective of the bride.

I think telling her that many of the other guests, including her brother and other family will think really badly of her for a long time afterwards. They will then most likely always view her as a troublemaker in any other dispute.

Another friend to has got the message with the pic has just texted me and said

Sounds more and more like she's joking to me.

My SIL wore a white trouser suit to our wedding. We were having a fairly low key wedding. Fortunately I’d gone for full length emerald green 😊

She will only end up making herself look a fool .
Well done for doing honest

Good that you've been honest with her.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 02-Jun-21 20:46:32

I’d say “thank goodness you’re winding me up. I nearly believed you for a minute! Show me your real outfit”

^this^

Ask her whether she wants to end up on social media wedding shaming pages, on Reddit AITA and in the Daily Mail, because that’s exactly what will happen if she wears it

Is she usually clueless in social situations?

Does she dress appropriately for work?

If the answers are no and then yes.I would assume it’s deliberate.

I think telling her once is the right approach. If she goes ahead... well she’s only demonstrating her own poor judgement.

People will either think badly of her or laugh.

She has texted back saying fuck off

Ok then..... obviously I had to say it was gorgeous and everyone will fall at her feet in worship and the bride will be outshone.

She'll get a slap and be the laughing stock at the wedding if she's serious.

@MrsTerryPratchett

Let women wear what they want without criticism.

Normally I'd agree but flashing your chest at a wedding isn't comme il faux for men or women.

I don't know if this is a deliberate mashup or a mistake but I love it.