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To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate

304 replies

Mintsmints · 02/06/2021 20:45

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

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MagentaDragon · 03/06/2021 02:19

@forinborin I agree I find the UK weirdness about wedding guests wearing white quite odd and specific to this country. I never even realised people thought this was an issue until I started reading mumsnet and I was born here! In some countries it is actually traditional for wedding guests to wear white (not bridal dresses obviously, but what the OP posted was as far from a bridal dress as you can get. 😂😂).

For me the issue with this outfit is that it's tacky and much too revealing for a formal event. Why would you want to flash most of your breasts at families and friends trying to celebrate a wedding? That's much worde than the colour. But that may just be my interpretation.

Kokeshi123 · 03/06/2021 02:29

She sounds like a rude and difficult person, to be honest. Karma suggests she'll get her period suddenly in the middle of the ceremony...

SympathyFatigue · 03/06/2021 02:34

Why did she ask If she didn't want your opinion?
I'd just say to go for it. Why go looking like Mick Jagger To a wedding to annoy someone. What a treat she is.

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1forAll74 · 03/06/2021 02:44

She may regret wearing it at the end of the day, people will probably make comments about it. and it may get grubby later, if she sits on any benches or on the grass. etc.

JeremiahHeapOShite · 03/06/2021 02:51

I’m struggling to think of an occasion that outfit would be appropriate. It’s tacky and attention seeking and everyone is right, she’ll get loads of attention for all the wrong reasons. She’ll be the talk of the wedding but only in terms of ‘did you see THAT womanHmm’ - everyone will be on the bride’s side.

I almostfeel sorry for her, she’s going to make such a fool of herself.

user1473878824 · 03/06/2021 03:21

@MrsTerryPratchett

Let women wear what they want without criticism.

Normally I'd agree but flashing your chest at a wedding isn't comme il faux for men or women.

IN WHITE
thedogtookit · 03/06/2021 03:43

You were very measured in your response considering she told you to fuck off. I would've told her she was a fool and blocked her.

OhHarry · 03/06/2021 03:46

She'll look like a scorned ex.

pictish · 03/06/2021 05:49

Good response to her ‘fuck off’.

Somehow I don’t think she’ll be any great loss.

ApolloandDaphne · 03/06/2021 06:16

That's not a great look for a wedding in any colour, never mind white!

ChaToilLeam · 03/06/2021 06:27

She sounds a real charmer!

You’ve told her, she has given her reaction, not much more you can do now. But after the wedding, when she has been snubbed and left out of photos and generally shown the cold shoulder, don’t let her come and whine to you. She knows exactly what she is up to and it’s tacky.

TwoAndAnOnion · 03/06/2021 06:30

@Mintsmints

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

It would be funny if the best man incorporated it .... here's a stripper/pole dancer from the stag do come to wave you off
threeteenstaximum · 03/06/2021 06:44

164 comments in, almost everyone is agreeing with you OP . Glad you've told your friend the outfit is inappropriate for a wedding. Shame she hasn't listened to you

It's obvious she's trying to upset or upstage the bride. It won't work. She'll look desperate and get a few sniggers

It's like watching a slow train crash coming - is the wedding this Saturday or soon? Let's hope she listens to someone and has time to get a different outfit

Roselilly36 · 03/06/2021 06:44

I think I would have asked what her mum thinks of the outfit, I am sure she will put her straight!

spacedandtimed · 03/06/2021 06:45

I agree I find the UK weirdness about wedding guests wearing white quite odd and specific to this country.

Every country has their own set of traditions. Doesn't make us odd.

Clumsyvolcano · 03/06/2021 06:51

That is absolutely hilarious. 🤣 Stupid outfit but she sounds like a rude bitch, suggesting she’s a bitch in general not just over the wedding.

I wouldn’t even try to discourage her from wearing it. I’d tell her she looked lovely and then leave her to make a massive fool of herself and get a drink thrown over her Grin

Maddox33 · 03/06/2021 06:54

Didn't Raquel Welch wear something similar to her son's wedding? She looked ridiculous and your friend will too.

Birminghambloke · 03/06/2021 07:13

@Unsure33

I know someone that wore a long white dress to her sons wedding . She did ask the bride and she was fine about it . However everyone who looked at the photos drew an intake of breath . And it was not low cut or anything.
Oh goodness. That feels weird. When it’s your son getting married, why would you aim to possibly get mistaken for the bride?
cookiecreampie · 03/06/2021 07:14

She shouldn't be wearing it but not for you to to do anything about. You've told her it's not appropriate, if she still insists on wearing it, then that's not your problem and I wouldn't say anything else about it. As you say you're not really friends anymore, I just wouldn't really care about this.

YanTanTethera123 · 03/06/2021 07:16

Let me carry on, her choice so she can deal with any furore it causes.
I would stand back and watch 🙂

SJaneS49 · 03/06/2021 07:19

Tell her long term it’ll backfire on her & only cement the terrible relationship with SIL for ever. Which will also be as long as the photo’s last as well. Is she going to be pleased for pictures of her looking like a happy slapper being viewed by younger generations of the family for years and years to come?

She’s asked for your opinion, she knows it’s inappropriate & I think I’d reinforce that what she sees as a good laugh will turn into a long term ‘mare.

SadieCow · 03/06/2021 07:20

Omg I'd love to be a fly on the wall at that wedding!

sashh · 03/06/2021 07:23

Is it a church wedding?

Tell her she may not be allowed in the church.

Do you know any of the ushers? Just in case she does turn up they can be given the nod to not let her in, or to provide her with a cover up.

Do you know the bride and groom? They could send out a, "We've just been given the dress code for the venue, sorry we didn't let you know earlier but it is ..."

It might sound far fetched but some weddings do have dress codes. Royal weddings are the big ones but as more and more people have friends from other cultures a lot of weddings are the first time someone has been in a particular setting.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/06/2021 07:45

@BruceAndNosh

She'll look a right tit. And a left tit.
Grin
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