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Original poster

To tell friend this outfit is inappropriate

304 replies

Mintsmints · 02/06/2021 20:45

Can I just say I am usually let people wear what the hell they want without criticism.

My friend has sent me a photo of her in a outfit for her brothers wedding. It is a white jumpsuit that is cut right down to the navel, she has big boobs so basically all that is covered is her nipples. I am guessing she must have some kind of body tape keeping it in place.
She doesn’t get on at all with sister in law to be so I think this might be to wind her up.
I have mentioned the colour and said you don’t wear white to a wedding but she has come back with it’s a jumpsuit and not a dress.
She is not going to come off well is she?

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MadMadMadamMim · 02/06/2021 22:34

The model in that picture is absolutely gorgeous, with a lovely figure.

And she looks cheap and tacky as fuck. But presumably that's what your friend is going for.

It's tacky to try and ruin your brother's wedding, even if you don't like his partner. I'd not continue the friendship.

QioiioiioQ · 02/06/2021 22:36

@Mintsmints

She has texted back saying fuck off

Ok then..... obviously I had to say it was gorgeous and everyone will fall at her feet in worship and the bride will be outshone.

She deserves whatever she gets I hope you keep us updated
Moretimetobefullyvaccinated · 02/06/2021 22:37

Maybe she was being tongue in cheek with her reply? That dress is really just a few bits of string isn't it....

MarshmallowAra · 02/06/2021 22:37

That's club-wear.
(Or even occasionally pole dancing wear).

If she doesn't know not to wear club-wear to a wedding (or chooses to in spite of knowing it's inappropriate) then .... What can you do,she's obviously determined to make a spectacle of herself.

Her arse is presumably going to be really conspicuous too in a stretchy, figure hugging white jumpsuit .. only relatively expensive garments are fully lined with heavy)thick material so presumably it's going to show every bump and line from behind too.(as well as emphasising even a v slim woman's arse).

She'll look trashy as fuck .. her attitude seems to.mstch that so ..

MarshmallowAra · 02/06/2021 22:39

If her partner doesn't protest, he's as much a fool as she is.

QioiioiioQ · 02/06/2021 22:40

Hopefully someone will shout no love you've got the wrong day the pOrn shoot is tomorrow

MimiDaisy11 · 02/06/2021 22:42

It's good you say that the bride will likely laugh it off. That's good. So she'll just be making a fool of herself. Imagine looking at the photos in years time. I would just be mortified if I wore something like that.

fashionablefennel · 02/06/2021 22:43

She doesn't get it, does she.

The bride doesn't get outshone, but your friend will look completely ridiculous.

As any try-too-hard-dressed-in-white guest to any wedding.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/06/2021 22:49

Awful. Looks like it could be used in a porn shoot.

She’s going to be eaten alive at the wedding. Do they do a crotchless version?

Mammyloveswine · 02/06/2021 22:49

I once went to a wedding where the brides sister in law wore a. Full length cream gown and a tiara!

It just looked really tragic tbh!

RonSwansonsChair · 02/06/2021 22:50

She obviously wants to cause drama - god love the poor B&G!
She won't "upstage" the bride in any kind of good way - it's so obvious that everyone will think she's completely nuts. Unless she is someone that you want to stay friends with, I would just let her off.

Beautiful3 · 02/06/2021 22:51

Thats awful. She cannot wear that to a wedding!!!

Flowers500 · 02/06/2021 22:57

If I were there, I’d pour a glass of red wine. On her crotch

Happyd · 02/06/2021 22:58

I thought everyone knew about not wearing white to a wedding, but it seems not ! a friends daughter did the same ( white jumpsuit) but it was definitely mentioned that she was wearing white

HollyBen · 02/06/2021 23:04

I don't get the 'don't wear white to a wedding' thing myself. I wouldn't have cared. Surely everyone knows who the bride is?!? I actually find all the 'someone will spill some red wine on her' comments more distasteful than the crime that is wearing white to a wedding.

thefourgp · 02/06/2021 23:04

I wouldn’t reply to a so called friend who told me to fuck off. She’s going to look like an attention seeking nutter in that outfit at the wedding.

Theunamedcat · 02/06/2021 23:08

Why doesn't she wear green if she hates her that much

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Mintsmints · 02/06/2021 23:11

I think the one she has is better quality then the picture. The material looks like it is more of a satin feel and she does spend a lot on her clothes so it is prob a quality made item. Just not fit for a wedding. I have just texted back and said “ok but do me one favour and run it by your mum please”

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Southwestrunningmum · 02/06/2021 23:12

Not sure why you are friends with someone who would do this

AdobeWanKenobi · 02/06/2021 23:12

Not sure she's much of a friend op. I can honestly say if I told my bf that I thought something probably wasn't right for the occasion she'd thank me and suggest lunch and a shopping trip not tell me to fuck off.

I think you're better off out of this one.

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Mintsmints · 02/06/2021 23:16

I did say earlier in the thread I was reevaluating the friendship which was slowing dying out anyway.

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ACPC · 02/06/2021 23:16

If it looks like a tit and quacks like a tit... let it be a tit. I think that makes sense, I've been drinking op, clearly your pal has too. What an eejit she is.

forinborin · 02/06/2021 23:18

A culturally insensitive question here from a curious foreigner. In my culture there's no bans re white worn by guests at the weddings, so while the outfit is horrendous in any colour as wedding attire, I am not alarmed by white, would not probably even notice it.

So. Did not Pippa M wear white (and in a very "bridal" style too) to her sister's wedding? Why has there been no outrage?

HerMammy · 02/06/2021 23:22

@forinborin
She was the bridesmaid and the bride will have chosen her dress, not the same
thing.

nocoolnamesleft · 02/06/2021 23:23

@forinborin

A culturally insensitive question here from a curious foreigner. In my culture there's no bans re white worn by guests at the weddings, so while the outfit is horrendous in any colour as wedding attire, I am not alarmed by white, would not probably even notice it.

So. Did not Pippa M wear white (and in a very "bridal" style too) to her sister's wedding? Why has there been no outrage?

Pippa was a bridesmaid. So Kate would have had significant input into Pippa's dress. Different scenario.