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Spidey66 · 02/06/2021 16:45

[quote LadyMargaretBeauforte]@Myusernameisnotmyusernameno If you had carried on reading you would see that the OP posted :

"but I just can’t see a free weekend over the next few months what with moving house and saying goodbye to dp/my family".

I read that as OP is not moving with DP . Why else would she be saying goodbye?

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I think she just worded it wrongly. I understood it to be her and DP were saying goodbyes to both families. I did have to read it twice to come to that conclusion though.

Sometimesfraught82 · 02/06/2021 17:11

@threeteenstaximum

It's weird that PPs criticising "op has had no time for her friend in a year" (a friend that lubes a travel distance away) aren't factoring in that - U.K. at least- has been in COVID lockdowns and many restrictions for a large part of the past year.

Many Many of us haven't seen our friends (who are a travel away) for a long time, and only seen family that aren't local, once or twice in 14 months due to shielding etc

Sure I haven’t seen some friends during this entire period

But they sure as heck aren’t “close” friends

My close friends? We made a concerted effort to get together during the times that we have been permitted to.

Confiscatedfidgetspinner · 02/06/2021 17:23

If you don’t have children then yes it’s pretty poor.

Sometimesfraught82 · 02/06/2021 17:26

@Confiscatedfidgetspinner

If you don’t have children then yes it’s pretty poor.

She doesn’t

AGirlsGotToDo · 02/06/2021 17:27

If she means the world to you, you'd make it happen!

Icanhearyoubutiwont · 02/06/2021 17:36

I’m amazed people think the OP is being unreasonable for not being able to spend a whole weekend away at the drop of a hat?!

I’m not an especially busy person but just checked my diary and it would be mid August before I could do that unless I bail on some of my pre arranged commitments - family get togetherness, birthday parties for adults and kids, holidays (if they happen), work commitments for either myself or my DH meaning I have childcare to cover... life is busy and this friend sounds very high maintenance!

Sometimesfraught82 · 02/06/2021 17:48

@Icanhearyoubutiwont

I’m amazed people think the OP is being unreasonable for not being able to spend a whole weekend away at the drop of a hat?!

I’m not an especially busy person but just checked my diary and it would be mid August before I could do that unless I bail on some of my pre arranged commitments - family get togetherness, birthday parties for adults and kids, holidays (if they happen), work commitments for either myself or my DH meaning I have childcare to cover... life is busy and this friend sounds very high maintenance!

The friend suggests a “day or two” Not a whole weekend away

RampantIvy · 02/06/2021 18:03

I guess that I am always amazed at how busy people are because we have a small family, don't live near any of them, neither of us has a demanding hobby or sport, I have a very introverted DH who is not interested in making new friends, we have no weddings on the horizon and DD is at university. So most of our weekends are free.

JellyTumble · 02/06/2021 18:06

YABU. I’m sure in several months you’d be able to find a single weekend.

musicalfrog · 02/06/2021 18:46

@Icanhearyoubutiwont

I’m amazed people think the OP is being unreasonable for not being able to spend a whole weekend away at the drop of a hat?!

I’m not an especially busy person but just checked my diary and it would be mid August before I could do that unless I bail on some of my pre arranged commitments - family get togetherness, birthday parties for adults and kids, holidays (if they happen), work commitments for either myself or my DH meaning I have childcare to cover... life is busy and this friend sounds very high maintenance!

Mid August is sooner than OP can make. I didn't see anyone asking for her time at the drop of a hat.

Icanhearyoubutiwont · 02/06/2021 19:18

@Sometimesfraught82 well 2 days away would be the whole weekend....

Icanhearyoubutiwont · 02/06/2021 19:20

@musicalfrog depends how you define “the next few months”. I’d refer to mid - end August as within the next few months, and obviously this isn’t soon enough for the OPs friend or she wouldn’t be posting?

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/06/2021 19:22

@Spidey66

I think she just worded it wrongly. I understood it to be her and DP were saying goodbyes to both families. I did have to read it twice to come to that conclusion though.

Thank you so much! My DP even got this but @LadyMargaretBeauforte was insistent I'm some kind of idiot.

FierceBarrie · 02/06/2021 19:35

@RampantIvy

I guess that I am always amazed at how busy people are because we have a small family, don't live near any of them, neither of us has a demanding hobby or sport, I have a very introverted DH who is not interested in making new friends, we have no weddings on the horizon and DD is at university. So most of our weekends are free.

The ‘very introverted DH’ is your answer.

If not for that, I’m sure your weekends would be much busier, too.

RampantIvy · 02/06/2021 19:38

Yes, you are right @FierceBarrie. We do sometimes go out with friends at the weekend, but DH is usually happy to stay at home most of the time. Fortunately he doesn't object to me meeting up with friends for a night out.

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/06/2021 20:05

Where has the OP gone?

Cornettoninja · 02/06/2021 20:32

@Myusernameisnotmyusernameno

Where has the OP gone?

Busy. She did say

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/06/2021 22:05