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user1471538283 · 01/06/2021 09:00

I think people have different ideas of busy. I worked with a woman who claimed that everything was such a rush and yet she walked slowly around the building most days.

My idea of busy is fitting in full time work, studying and raising a child. Compared to that I am not that busy now!

user1471554720 · 01/06/2021 10:08

A liot of these people are busy, but it is busy doing 'their own work'. They are gardening, decorating, housework. This is all their own work. How do they think people working fulltime fit all this in!!!!

A person said to me they were busy did x hours of gardening, housework. I said to them that I feel so upset and guilty, I can't do x hours of gardening after working all day. If I did the same gardening and housework as them after doing my 8 hours at work, I would get no sleep. I told them my schedule and asked them how I too, could do the same gardening and housework as them. Funny I haven't heard them telling me they are 'busy' since.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 01/06/2021 10:15

@user1471554720

A liot of these people are busy, but it is busy doing 'their own work'. They are gardening, decorating, housework. This is all their own work. How do they think people working fulltime fit all this in!!!!

A person said to me they were busy did x hours of gardening, housework. I said to them that I feel so upset and guilty, I can't do x hours of gardening after working all day. If I did the same gardening and housework as them after doing my 8 hours at work, I would get no sleep. I told them my schedule and asked them how I too, could do the same gardening and housework as them. Funny I haven't heard them telling me they are 'busy' since.

Busy is busy though. That means you have plans, or a full day , or not sat doing nothing (which is actually my favourite hobby).

InTheDrunkTank · 01/06/2021 15:30

A person said to me they were busy did x hours of gardening, housework. I said to them that I feel so upset and guilty, I can't do x hours of gardening after working all day. If I did the same gardening and housework as them after doing my 8 hours at work, I would get no sleep. I told them my schedule and asked them how I too, could do the same gardening and housework as them. Funny I haven't heard them telling me they are 'busy' since.

This is a bit of an odd comment on your part. Unless this person was suggesting it was essential to do 8 hours of gardening a day surely they do that much gardening because they have the luxury of having that much time available and wouldn't expect someone in a full time job to match them.

WhatsGoingOnHereThen · 01/06/2021 15:51

A person said to me they were busy did x hours of gardening, housework. I said to them that I feel so upset and guilty, I can't do x hours of gardening after working all day. If I did the same gardening and housework as them after doing my 8 hours at work, I would get no sleep. I told them my schedule and asked them how I too, could do the same gardening and housework as them. Funny I haven't heard them telling me they are 'busy' since

Probably because they think you're a bit nuts?

NannyPlumsSnarkyWand · 01/06/2021 17:45

Sometimes people say any old bollocks just to say something. I say things I don't really mean all the time when I'm making small talk.

DrSK2 · 01/06/2021 17:49

I am proudly one of those busy types. One child. Professor with teaching and research responsibilities. Before academia full time exec. roles. Kiddo not going to school as yet. Half day when he starts. Doing justice to everything I do - clean, hygienic, well-fed (home cooked fresh food 3 times a day) child, taken out every day, sleep times with me. Maintaining an acad career whilst doing all that. So I have always been busy. I think it all depends on your understanding of quality of doing things.

user1471554720 · 01/06/2021 17:53

WhatsGoingOnHereThen

Sounds like you are a bit nuts

They are immature and insensitive, boasting about all they are doing. I don't boast about what I am doing at work to them and about my training and what I earn.

PerplexedWife · 01/06/2021 18:04

I retired and kept myself as busy, looking after my animals/gardening/with various hobbies/cooking etc as I was when I used to work. I have now come out of retirement and am working again and am just as busy as I was during my first two 'incarnations'. Busy people enjoy being busy and find things to do. Not sure what your problem is with that OP? You do sound jealous and as though whatever is keeping you busy is somehow more valid/important than whatever is keeping other people busy. I advise you to concentrate on your own life and forget about what other people are doing if they're not actively harming you. It will lead to greater contentment on your part I'm sure. HTH

Ugzbugz · 01/06/2021 18:06

Its like people at work who claim they are so busy and they aren't. My team think they are so busy but to me is dead compared to my last team where you barely got to draw breath!

peppermintpat · 01/06/2021 18:08

I was fortunate enough to not work for 12 years. That was 5 years ago and I now have two jobs. The amount of nasty comments I got from two members of my family and even and old neighbour recently still
bought it up about not having a job back then. I can only presume it's jealousy as it didn't impact them in anyway.

QueeniesCroft · 01/06/2021 18:14

People without jobs can tend to get other people's chores dumped on them , since they "aren't doing anything else". So perhaps the performance busyness is a warning not to ask her to pick up your dry cleaning, collect your kids or take your parcels to the post office?

jwpetal · 01/06/2021 18:27

None of us really know the backstop of the individual. Some people wear business as a badge. Some are trying to fit an Image. Or maybe have mental health issues to feeling overwhelm can fee like this. So many reasons, but compassion can be the answer

Gilly12345 · 01/06/2021 18:42

I think you are judgemental, just because this person doesn’t work doesn’t mean she isn’t busy, we all have houses to run, clean, food shopping, cooking, laundry, errands to run, she may help her parents out with errands, I know I do as my Mum is a Widow and doesn’t drive, I am always driving her to appointments and weekly food shopping.

Maybe you should mind your own business.

Ireolu · 01/06/2021 18:48

Weird bitter post.
If someone says they are busy I guess they are. Not going to spend any time second guessing If they really are.

caspersmagicaljourney · 01/06/2021 19:01

Maybe work/tasks expand to fill the available time?
It's all relative isn't it.

Barney60 · 01/06/2021 21:38

i gave up work for 3 years, i was busy busy, in fact ive gone back to work for a rest, joking aside its just a different busy, im one of those that cant relax if something needs doing so id be on the go from 9am till 7pm often too tired to cook in the end i started walking to get me away from "jobs at home", i got fitter but decided enough was enough went into a new job part time, i feel i have the happy medium now.

ufucoffee · 01/06/2021 22:06

People like this count the mundane tasks that some of us don't even mention as being busy. Like the people at work who if you ask them what they are doing on Saturday will reel off the household chores they have to do. I wouldn't mention them and I wouldn't include them in anything I count as making me busy

SkodaKodiaq · 01/06/2021 22:16

@Darkdecent

People who don't work, haven't worked for years, have one child in full time school. She's always busy, busy, super busy today! How busy can you be?

Why do they say this? I know people who are genuinely busy but never mention it.

Is it some sort of insecurity that they feel they should be doing more?

These are my circumstances and I had an extremely busy day yesterday! We're not all sat around doing bugger all you know......

I'm in & out of hospital appointments GP appointments, various other monotonous appointments

LovelyIssues · 01/06/2021 22:52

Yes I think they're paranoid about doing not a lot all day so think they have to make out they are "so busy" one of my friends does this but spends a couple hours a day napping whilst children are at school. Bizzare

littlepattilou · 01/06/2021 23:16

@peppermintpat

I was fortunate enough to not work for 12 years. That was 5 years ago and I now have two jobs. The amount of nasty comments I got from two members of my family and even and old neighbour recently still bought it up about not having a job back then. I can only presume it's jealousy as it didn't impact them in anyway.

Definitely jealous of you! Some people get very annoyed with people who don't work/don't have to work. Mainly because THEY have to.

littlepattilou · 01/06/2021 23:16

@Gilly12345

I think you are judgemental, just because this person doesn’t work doesn’t mean she isn’t busy, we all have houses to run, clean, food shopping, cooking, laundry, errands to run, she may help her parents out with errands, I know I do as my Mum is a Widow and doesn’t drive, I am always driving her to appointments and weekly food shopping.

Maybe you should mind your own business.

This. ^

Stolengoat · 01/06/2021 23:26

@arethereanyleftatall

Maybe she is, maybe she isn't.

The question you need to ask yourself, is why are you questioning it?

Just be happy yourself, with your own choices, and you won't feel this need to feel superior to others.

Said in a superior tone 🤣

Runnerduck34 · 01/06/2021 23:30

She probably isn't doing nothing all day!
Ok shes not juggling work and DC and she has just one child at school so pressure will be off but she may be looking after elderly parents, volunteering, studying , pursuing hobbies or running the house and garden to perfection!
I wAs a sahm ( admiitedly 4 dc and returned to work.when youngest was at school) but I was constantly busy, looking after dc, housework,gardening ,life admin etc.
Anyway its not a competition, but yes if you are flat out juggling work, children and running a house its a more stressful type of busy

littlepattilou · 01/06/2021 23:31

I didn't read @arethereanyleftatall's post in a superior tone.

Guess people hear things how they want to hear them, depending on their view on the issue.