Lovely day, neighbours playing music in garden

[WilsonMilson]

Live in a detached house, so it’s not as though we have anyone too close, and reasonable sized gardens, but we do have other houses around us, so don’t expect silence.

Neighbours over the back are in their garden as it’s a lovely day, fair enough so are we, but they have also got their music playing. Loudly.

Aibu to think it’s the height of rudeness to have music blaring in the garden knowing full well others around can hear it too? It’s Christian easy listening type of music.

Tempted to put a bit of Motörhead on the Sonos, but that would be a bit passive aggressive. So I’m just stewing in silence and posting here instead - it’s certainly not making me feel very Christian!!

@impressivelycunty

Put on Tubular Bells, take an upside down cross and start hissing at them over the fence.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@CoffeeWithCheese

Last year we had the horror of the self-appointed DJs putting on "lockdown discos" blasting music for the benefit of the entire street. If you criticised it you would think you'd personally shat on the NHS.

I live in a village and we had this last year. The DJ had massively, massively got the mood wrong. They unilaterally decided that Good Friday afternoon for 3 hours was a good time to have music blaring and their inane chitchat across the countryside. It didnt- 30 mins stopped and their Mum pipes up on social media it was to cheer everyone up. whats the problem. Absolutely oblivious.

I honestly think it’s the height of ignorance. If you want to play loud music outside move somewhere where you’re not going to bother anyone with it

This is brilliant

Last year, I heard my neighbour command,”Alexa! Play the new Justin Bieber album!”

Play the new Justin Bieber album!

There should definitely be a law preventing that .

@CoffeeWithCheese

Last year we had the horror of the self-appointed DJs putting on "lockdown discos" blasting music for the benefit of the entire street. If you criticised it you would think you'd personally shat on the NHS.

We had a musical recital on the estate up the road from someones kids playing an assortment of instruments in the middle of the street from violins to an organ. Thank christ I couldn't hear it. It didn't go down as well as anticipated though.

We have a neighbour who plays loud music in the garden on nice days. I’m usually pretty tolerant of noise in gardens, especially over the last year, but I find music intrusive and annoying. It’s invariably shit music and it’s loud enough to be aggravating.

Last summer they went away and let their grown up children use the house. It was excruciating. Deafening shit rap music all fucking afternoon. I was sitting in the garden and got my noise cancelling headphones out, then I suddenly realised DH was trying to attract my attention. Like you do when you can’t hear yourself, I essentially shouted back at him, ‘SORRY, CAN’T HEAR YOU, THE NOISE CANCELLING ON THESE IS BRILLIANT!’

The music was turned down straight away. 🤣

Neighbour over the back is obviously deaf (genuinely isn't) and has to talk (shout!) at full volume whether on the phone or in person. We're sitting in our back garden chatting and knowing full well they can't hear us...it's horrible! Shut up, dial the volume down ffs!

I think this is a really divisive topic!

Personally it annoys me to constantly hear tinny music floating in while I’m sitting outside. I know others are less bothered but if I’m reading or chatting it can be quite distracting.

I don’t think it’s the end of the world if you have people over on a nice day once in a while and there’s music playing, but it can start to grate when it’s every time the sun starts peeking out.

My neighbours play the piano, badly, the recorder even more badly, and scream at each other all the time. I was reading my book In the garden earlier and was subjected to Titanic theme tune on a recorder, over and over. It made me want to commit murder. I'd be happier with someone playing proper music to be fair 😂

Next village over had bagpipers making a racket.

We have teens with terrible music on one side. They sit around a smelly firepit that makes me think there's a fire in my house as the smell comes straight in and I've been in a fire so it scares me.

The other side leave their dog barking and the kids bouncing a ball off the wall and driveway constantly. I'm autistic and it really distresses me, it's relentless howling and banging.

*making a racket during lockdowns.

I remember when I lived in a tenement near Edinburgh University and about 30 students were having a sing song with a guitar in the shared drying green - quick blast of Sonic Youth at their most dissonant out of my window sorted out the singing studes in no time and peace was restored.

"We are all prostitutes" by The Pop Group is an excellent choon to get rid of troublesome noise makers.

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

Moronic behaviour. Everybody has the right to enjoy their garden - that means decent people need to keep the noise and music within their own boundary - not inflict it on others. So, if you want to listen to music, wear headphones. If you want drunken louts yelling through the night, keep the, in your house. Having a garden doesn't give you the right to annoy everybody else in the neighbourhood.

Sinkgirl, Im the same. Three different types of music. Also the never ending bloody barking of their dogs. My immediate neighbour, their dog barks at every mortal thing, even when there is nothing there. I would ban music in gardens, it is selfish and inconsiderate. What makes people think you want to listen to their music?

@Notimeforaname

Had a great time in my garden yesterday listening to my neighbour blasting the Beatles. He's making a habit of it recently as his wife just died. He gets out to the garden every day and puts on her favourite music I dont find it rude. People are enjoying themselves. Ive heard him and other neighbours sing along to my garden music at times.

Well of course you don't find it rude, you are very much the fucking problem.

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

You really don't understand how it's rude? You are taking away the enjoyment of other peoples gardens with your SHITTY music.
The people around you were also lucky enough to buy a house with a garden but massively unlucky to have a selfish prick for a neighbour, i.e YOU.

It is not OK because it's YOUR garden if your horrific choice of music spills into THEIR garden. Is it fine for me to pile my garden high with horse shit because it's MY garden? It would whiff over to your Garden of Hell, but surely that's okay as the shit is just in my garden? I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden, I will keep 6 tonnes of actual shit in it if I want, thank you very much.

@Imapotato

I think during the day people can do what they want in their gardens. It’s only really annoying if very late at night and it’s keeping people awake.

If you feel you want to put on your own music, go ahead, it’s your garden.

Yes, because if everyone did that...

Why can't people be considerate?

@Crazycakelady17

Oops DH is outside with his friend laying a new patio with music playing I don’t think it’s rude it’s just as annoying as our local church bells chiming every hour of the local school kids playing out we have two within 100 metres Put some headphones in or go inside

It's not the same at all.

For a start, the church and school were there before you moved in.

And music as such is not a problem. It's the volume

@StoneofDestiny

How is it rude & offensive to play music in your own garden?. I was lucky enough to buy a house with a garden & I will bloody well use it. I will play some music, my kids will have nerf wars out there & camp out with their friends. I will have friends over for drunken bbq's, hell I might even get a hot tub this year. All of that is OK because it's MY garden

Moronic behaviour. Everybody has the right to enjoy their garden - that means decent people need to keep the noise and music within their own boundary - not inflict it on others. So, if you want to listen to music, wear headphones. If you want drunken louts yelling through the night, keep the, in your house. Having a garden doesn't give you the right to annoy everybody else in the neighbourhood.

Exactly - EVERYONE has the right to enjoy their garden. For some thats with music for some it's without. Why can't the two live together and get their way sometimes? It doesn't have to be all or nothing either way. All the "I deserve to be able to enjoy my garden in silence and anyone who disagrees is an inconsiderate twat" brigade REALLY can't see how hypocritical is it to expect things their way or the highway? Really? Why do your needs trump all else?

Unbelievable.

Because frearful if everyone decided to play music in their garden, or rev their car whil they’re tinkering with the car, or let their kids scream endlessly or let their dog bark for hours without telling it to be quiet or bring it in just because they could the neighbourhood would be a really unpleasant environment to live in. People who inflict their noise on others generally expect others not to do it to them so they can hear their perfectly curated choice of music otherwise they wouldn’t be able to hear it over the din of everyone else’s perfectly curated choice of music. Just wear headphones ffs.

*Headphones while you’re listening to music

@fearfulfran because music really carries. You are making multiple neighbours listen to music they didn't choose, and it's ongoing and regular, in a way that even construction or child noise or dogs aren't. How would you feel if your new neighbours felt the same about playing their Black Sabbath or grime or just singing loudly outdoors on a sunny day?

Their quiet doesn't disturb you at all. If you want to listen to music regularly in your garden, than the neighbourly thing is absolutely to use headphones or move somewhere with fewer neighbours.