Lovely day, neighbours playing music in garden

[WilsonMilson]

Live in a detached house, so it’s not as though we have anyone too close, and reasonable sized gardens, but we do have other houses around us, so don’t expect silence.

Neighbours over the back are in their garden as it’s a lovely day, fair enough so are we, but they have also got their music playing. Loudly.

Aibu to think it’s the height of rudeness to have music blaring in the garden knowing full well others around can hear it too? It’s Christian easy listening type of music.

Tempted to put a bit of Motörhead on the Sonos, but that would be a bit passive aggressive. So I’m just stewing in silence and posting here instead - it’s certainly not making me feel very Christian!!

My neighbour plays her guitar and sings Christian songs in the garden.

I just want to kill her really.

I'd be sticking on Motorhead for a bit personally

YANBU. Wish it were a fucking criminal offence to blast your fucking music EVER. I'm so bloody sick of people foisting their fucking music on others. NO ONE ever wants to hear your music. There's no end of ill I wish on such inconsiderate cunts.

I'd go for Slipknot myself.

I just asked my DH if he's on MN when I read this - although our neighbour's choice is more Ibiza style (we're late 50's so it's not really our taste). We've been passively aggressively discussing what shite is playing and the Shazamming it so we can announce the song and singer. They don't seem to be taking the hint. At the moment it's just Dad & 2 DCs but I know when she gets back from work later it will ramp up a notch and she will sing along too! Plus they'll yell to each other so they can hear themselves over the music. I was tempted to play some Shostakovich on Alexa in retaliation but may hold that one in reserve for later. All other neighbours - including those with small DCs keep it down at a considerate level - it's just the one's over the back who lack the self awareness.

It is inconsiderate to have it playing at a level where it's bothering other neighbours. You wonder if people are hard of hearing or just selfish.
It's a certain type who dictate what the whole street listens to and prevent other people being able to enjoy some peace in their own home. I'm sure they'd hear it just fine if they turned it down a bit.

I always wonder about these threads, as someone who never plays music at all in the garden, how loud the people playing the music think they are being. Do the realise that everyone around them hears it too, or do they think that the fence/hedge/garden wall blocks it completely? I think I'm wondering if they are 'don't know' or 'don't care' about their neighbours.

@Crazycakelady17

Oops DH is outside with his friend laying a new patio with music playing I don’t think it’s rude it’s just as annoying as our local church bells chiming every hour of the local school kids playing out we have two within 100 metres Put some headphones in or go inside

Church there before you and most probably school

I find it annoying too.
Nobody seem to have any respect for anyone anymore when it comes to 'noise pollution. '

I'd rather that than my current soundtrack...

Her next door who sounds like Vicky Pollard aged 65... thick accent 'yer but no but yer but no but ennit tho... yer but no but i know wot yer mean e's such a DINLO...'

She's working her way through her phone book, telling the same tale to each relative, bitching about one of the kids girlfriends, each time she tells the tale the villain of the piece gets exaggerated just a little bit further.

She's got zero volume control and her fag smoke is stinking out my living room.

Want to swap?

Inflicting your choice of music on other people is selfish. People can listen to it through headphones or earbuds if they need music in the garden. Neighbours can't escape from it and it's intrusive and annoying. I suppose you could ask them to turn it down, but most people seem to either ignore reasonable requests or turn it up these days.

Sitting here knackered and headachy after a tiff with our neighbours last night.

Every bank holiday weekend in the last year - never mind covid, never mind social distancing or any other thing - just at bed time - the volume gets cranked up, their mates all troop in, the noise level escalates and then they wonder why we get upset.

Selfish little bastards (and for the record I dont give a flying fuck about how many there are, I just don't want to hear them).

Neighbour (music playing one)is now mowing the lawns so we can only hear the boom boom boom now over the sound of the Flymo - not sure which is worse!

OMG - Flymo now off and he's just said 'alexa turn up the volume. I willing DH to lean over the fence and shout 'Alexa turn down the volume!

Giant paddling pool + small herd of suncream greased toddlers for me today

I can't hear a thing, listening to a very sedate gardening podcast, occasional misty eyed glance over the fence.
Best £35 I've spent.

I feel your pain! Over the last year, our neighbours have started playing music whenever they sit in their garden. They’ve lived here for years and so this is a new, surprising turn of events. A couple of weeks ago, they were playing Paloma Faith’s ‘Only Love Can Hurt Like This’ at full volume on a lovely sunny, Sunday afternoon and I felt quite murderous. There’s only so much Olly Murs, James Morrison and Alexandra Burke on a loop that people can be expected to tolerate. I’ll definitely go round the next time it starts up so it’ll either get better, or much, much worse!

My neighbour has all family around, must be about 20 of them, the children just scream and shout and the adults are the same. My neighbour is a very quiet person, so don’t know how she puts up with it. They’ve got music on, I don’t know why. A balloon has just come over my garden, which my dog enjoyed playing with.

I love to hear a bit of music in the garden if it's not too intrusive. Where I am now, in my garden with the radio on, I can hear someone else's music further up. It's loud but it's just background noise and I can still hear the birds singing in the nearby trees so it doesn't feel too much.

Try not to let it bother you because otherwise you'll never use your outdoor space and it'll annoy you every day.

There's a reason why the US Military use music and sound to mentally torture people. It works.

@Crazycakelady17

Oops DH is outside with his friend laying a new patio with music playing I don’t think it’s rude it’s just as annoying as our local church bells chiming every hour of the local school kids playing out we have two within 100 metres Put some headphones in or go inside

I really hate this argument. Surely it's for the people who want to listen to loud music who should wear headphones or go inside, or go live in the middle of nowhere.

And no way is playing music for hours just as annoying as an hourly church bells

So rude and inconsiderate.

@Imapotato

I think during the day people can do what they want in their gardens. It’s only really annoying if very late at night and it’s keeping people awake.

If you feel you want to put on your own music, go ahead, it’s your garden.

Clearly you don’t have this sort of utterly selfish shit to contend with

It’s absolutely not ok to inflict your music at loud volume all day in a residential garden. I bet if the shoes was on the other foot they’d be round there remonstrating

I live in the middle of nowhere and have just one neighbour. Lovely lovely people but they built a summerhouse last year which faces towards us and they play music non-fucking-stop every weekend. They do turn it down when they know we're at home but it honestly does my head in as I can always hear it.
I just want silence!

YANBU, I hate people who feel the need to "share" their taste in music!
Of course they have the "right" to play the music... but it's bloody annoying!

I'll swap any of yours for the constant 'white boy rap' that's been playing for hours in the garden across from mine!
Factor in home owner also has a laugh like Woody Woodpecker ! It drives me crazy every time we have a rare but of Sun.
Trust me, the family are NOT the type to take kindly to being asked to it down.