Lovely day, neighbours playing music in garden

[WilsonMilson]

Live in a detached house, so it’s not as though we have anyone too close, and reasonable sized gardens, but we do have other houses around us, so don’t expect silence.

Neighbours over the back are in their garden as it’s a lovely day, fair enough so are we, but they have also got their music playing. Loudly.

Aibu to think it’s the height of rudeness to have music blaring in the garden knowing full well others around can hear it too? It’s Christian easy listening type of music.

Tempted to put a bit of Motörhead on the Sonos, but that would be a bit passive aggressive. So I’m just stewing in silence and posting here instead - it’s certainly not making me feel very Christian!!

I feel your pain and would like advice too. The a*hole neighbour over the back of me has been playing loud music every day and night in their garden for a least a week now. His front and back gardens are a complete mess, he has now dumped lots of rubbish in the field and against my other neighbours fence, he seems to think he owns the place.
I'm not good with confrontation and tend to be either passive aggressive or blow my top so not said anything yet. Although if any rubbish finds it's way behind my fence, will be phoning the council. Also tempted to play Radio 3 on my phone as close to his garden as possible but don't want to disturb other neighbours. How his neighbours on either side of him put up with it I don't know. Don't know if he works, keep hoping he just effs off!

@JFD0201

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Why does your right to enjoy music trump my right not to hear your music so I can enjoy my garden??

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Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Horrid selfish attitude. I suspect many people would want a quiet, detached house where neighbours don’t intrude thoughtlessly. Many can’t afford that though - so need neighbours who are considerate.

Your ‘music’ is other people’s noise. I like opera and sacred music. How would you feel about Schubert’s Ave Maria on frequent repeat at high Volume? I would enjoy that, but understand others might not.

@JFD0201

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Since you haven't bothered to read the thread...its because your "enjoyment" ruins everyone elses enjoyment of their gardens. In modern estates, one selfish self centred garden user can ruin the day for 30 other gardens, with their noise.

I have no problem hearing other people's music at a sensible volume but it is rude and inconsiderate to have music blaring so loudly you can't have a conversation in your own garden. The people out the back of my neighbours do this all weekend, every weekend when it is warm . It is annoying enough for us, but my neighbours can't read or have a conversation. Asking them politely to turn it down has the opposite effect.

PP who said you should move to the country if you don't like noise - I'd agree if OP was complaining about hearing music at all, but there is a limit to what is acceptable. Too many people only care about themselves.

@JFD0201

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Because you are polluting other people’s outdoor space. It’s selfish and self-entitled. If someone played loud organ music next to your garden, I doubt you would see that as someone “just enjoying themselves in their own garden”! 🙄

If it’s not everyday then I think it’s ok. One of my neighbours does this all day and evening all summer. Absolutely blaring. I don’t mind their music taste but would really like to listen to my music sometimes

I totally get where you are coming from. I do sometimes wonder if my neighbour understands that not everyone shares his taste in techno or that my other neighbour needs to move on from playing the same 5 bars of Coldplay’s ‘yellow’ repeatedly for 3 hrs on his Yamaha keyboard. And don’t the people 5 doors down ever tell their daughter that she can vary the pitch and time of her voice rather than just screaming at volume 10 every time she opens her mouth. However, I try to be pragmatic - it’s not all day every day and I could have neighbours that do much worse things - my last neighbour stalked me and I had to get the police involved and eventually I moved house to get away from him so by comparison I think I can live with a bit of techno every other weekend xx

Adding sympathy and support! (Haven’t read the whole thread).

Mine have children playing (nice) men talking overly loudly (less nice) loud music (awful) and one of the me thinks part of our garden is part of his for sitting - this feels weirdly invasive. (I don’t want do go out and aggravate things - we’ve had a couple of run ins).

I would love to live in the country. Can’t afford it at all.

It could be worse, I live in a flat and one of my neighbours appears to have acquired a saxophone

Play some rap. The vibrations of the bit are more annoying than guitar with the added ofense of dirty lyrics

Oh Bitter... I feel for you. My husband got one of those and I can't scape the sound from anywhere in the house with all doors shut I can still hear it loud and clear. It drives me insane. Imagine it must be the same in a flat. Thank god it doesn't seem to travel outside our house. Detached house with thick walls. We tested.

I have had to deal with my neighbours building a bloody extensive for weeks/months. Weeks and months still to go.

Or it's the another neighbour having a tree felled. Or my other neighbour putting up various sheds and fences and decking.

Or very loud mowing in the early hours.

Or the CONSTANT burning of shit. It's bloody open fires and wood burners all white and then bbqs and bonfires all summer. The summer is the worse as I then have to sit in a stupidly hot house with all my windows shut and can't use my garden.

So if I want to play some music on occasion in my garden in the summer. I bloody will do.

@LemonRoses

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Horrid selfish attitude. I suspect many people would want a quiet, detached house where neighbours don’t intrude thoughtlessly. Many can’t afford that though - so need neighbours who are considerate.

Your ‘music’ is other people’s noise. I like opera and sacred music. How would you feel about Schubert’s Ave Maria on frequent repeat at high Volume? I would enjoy that, but understand others might not.

This!

@JFD0201

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Because this is spoiling the neighbours' enjoyment of their gardens. It's really not difficult and anyone who doesn't understand that is selfish and inconsiderate.

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Because your enjoyment ruins everyone else's enjoyment. If you want to do what you want without thinking of others you should move to the country. If you live with close neighbours you need to be considerate.

Headphones any use to you?

🤣 Yes OP why don’t YOU put on headphones so you can’t hear the noise THEY are making. I’ll go out in my garden and spray manure and people can just put pegs on their noses if they don’t like it. I’ll play around with some radioactive material and people can put a hazmat on if they don’t like it 🤣

Stupid examples I know, and not comparable in any way but why is it always ‘person put headphones in’ not ‘person turn down the blaring music.’ Are we just so used to putting up with people’s crap that we don’t see anything wrong with changing what we do and putting ourselves out because of other selfish people?

I don’t mind the odd bit of quiet music wafting over in the summer it’s (inevitable that’s how sound works) but there’s no need for loud blasting music. Imagine if everyone did it at that level it’d be unbearable. People should be able to sit in their gardens and enjoy this mini warm spell without having to put headphones in.

@SallyCinnabon

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Why does everyone object to people enjoying themselves in their own garden - its daytime for goodness sake. Go and live in the country if you don't like neighbour noise

Pop your address on here and I'm certain enough people will help you to understand.
Between us I'm sure we can drop the following round in the daytime for you to enjoy ....a few barking dogs, screaming kids, parents who scream at their kids, loud thumping music that covers the neighbourhood gardens, party goers that shout over the thumping loud music, drunken asses who just love to swear and guffaw at any inane comment and maybe the odd un-oiled trampoline rammed against your fence so kids can watch your every move as you enjoy your space.

Thankfully I don't have any of this happen near me, but read enough on Mumsnet to know that there are inconsiderate arses who inflict all this on their neighbours 'because it's my F'n garden and I can do what I want'.

@SallyCinnabon and it's not just with the noise. It's with so many things! I think I once asked on another topic, why does the person suffering have to be the one to make allowances, not the other one.

Oh my goodness - we might be that neighbour 😳
We have speakers in the garden. Don't put them on all day everyday but I am currently outside, music on low and reading my book. I tend to play a lot of 80's or 90's music. If that wins me any good neighbour points 🤷‍♀️🤣

No, not really. Put your headphones on and have some consideration for others - that will win you good neighbour points.

@MummyMayo1988 No, there are no ‘good neighbour points’ with speakers in the garden. Just know that you are probably ruining someone else’s enjoyment of their garden.