Lovely day, neighbours playing music in garden

[WilsonMilson]

Live in a detached house, so it’s not as though we have anyone too close, and reasonable sized gardens, but we do have other houses around us, so don’t expect silence.

Neighbours over the back are in their garden as it’s a lovely day, fair enough so are we, but they have also got their music playing. Loudly.

Aibu to think it’s the height of rudeness to have music blaring in the garden knowing full well others around can hear it too? It’s Christian easy listening type of music.

Tempted to put a bit of Motörhead on the Sonos, but that would be a bit passive aggressive. So I’m just stewing in silence and posting here instead - it’s certainly not making me feel very Christian!!

I live in quite a young area, people like to socialise and we’re all quite understanding of each other’s garden noise. I’ve never known anyone in rl care about a bit of music like they do on mn.

I don't mind the odd party. It's the constant loud music day in, day out that is annoying. My old neighbour used to have such loud music that I couldn't hear my radio on inside my house.

Also have you actually asked whether they are understanding of your garden noise? They might very well hate it!

Feel for you - there's always one selfish ignorant twat.

Our neighbours are doing the same but at least we had a note to tell us this time. Can't complain really.

What I don't understand is having the music so loud that you have to shout over it. Why have it that loud - surely it's background music not a night club scenario .....

@Vodkaandballoon

Honestly I'm not an anti-social dickhead, I'm a perfectly nice person & I get along well with all of my neighbours. I like to use & enjoy my garden & sometimes that will include listening to my perfectly put together sunny afternoon Playlist. If my neighbour asked me to turn it down I would but she's more likely to stand & chat over the fence. I guess we all live in very different worlds. Party on with your headphones 🎧

Yeah, like she and the others have to live in a world where they don't get to choose their own playlists.

In our crowded London terrace row we have noisy family get togethers, the old couple who smoke weed, the squabbling kids, the yappy dog and the cats that crap in my vegetable patch. All normal city living stuff. Yet the only thing that really annoys me is the normally nice family a few doors down who spend every sunny weekend chilling to the best of the 90s.

Music for relaxing is so personal, and enforcing it on others is so rude - in some ways more because unlike a party or some building, it is likely to go on as long as your neighbours are there, and is low level enough that you usually don't want to make a fuss.

My neighbour was sat blasting trance shit out the other night sat in his van outside his house. I tell you this I completely get it as I was sat raging at him, put some music on and do the same back until it sinks in with them

Our 70s and 80s music is currently competing with next door's Alexa playing music post-2000 (bits of which I do recognise but most of it is crap). I would feel for the neighbour the other side but for the fact that her son's friends rev their cars and bikes under our window at 2am, and she has a voice like a foghorn...

Some of the parent /child arguments can be entertaining....

@MaMelon Because I don't want to use headphones and as I previously stated my neighbours and I are perfectly normal people who are not constantly irritated by petty crap like folks using their gardens.

Last year we had the horror of the self-appointed DJs putting on "lockdown discos" blasting music for the benefit of the entire street. If you criticised it you would think you'd personally shat on the NHS.

I'd probably play some music of my own as a mild hint that if they can hear you, you can hear them. No need to blast them with high volume, though.

@CoffeeWithCheese

Last year we had the horror of the self-appointed DJs putting on "lockdown discos" blasting music for the benefit of the entire street. If you criticised it you would think you'd personally shat on the NHS.

I am so glad we didn't have that😂

Music can be quite nice when it's for just a bit, not all the time. And when everyone coordinates, not making se ridiculous mash ups here with different neighbours 😂

Once in a blue moon might be fine but regularly is just rude.

My neighbours bring their TV outside, they have attached it to the outside wall and watch football/sport. You can hear it from the front of the house. Drives me crazy as I hate sport! I’d rather hear music any day!

Yeah, that’s two fingered response I knew you’d have vodka

I live in a tiny village and have fields on 2 sides of my back garden. Neighbours on the attached side are lovely, but with 2 screeching kids who run up and down the garden screaming like that bloody haribou advert! As kids do.
If I sit in my garden with music, I always use headphones, because I like it loud. Why would I inflict my music on anyone?

@mumwon

those damn birds - no consideration -they start at 4 in the morning singing their heads off having a competition with the next door nest & don't get me started on those pigeons - why do they have hoot down the chimney? & than all through the day non stop until the sun sets - & beyond

Our Cockrel starts as early as 2 AM and never stops but I love hearing him!

Feel for you - there's always one selfish ignorant twat
Or 30% if going by this thread. Makes it very frightening to buy a new property with so many people believing that others should be wearing headphones because they themselves can't be bothered to do so. Selfishness as bad as it gets.

It is selfish sunny day or not!

What is Christian music?

@CoffeeWithCheese

Last year we had the horror of the self-appointed DJs putting on "lockdown discos" blasting music for the benefit of the entire street. If you criticised it you would think you'd personally shat on the NHS.

Oh yes, we had this with over the road neighbours on the VE Day bank holiday last year. She started off with very loud Glenn Miller at 10am, it rapidly changed to Amy Winehouse and even a bit of Motörhead to get us all in the wartime spirit!

What is Christian easy listening music?

(I know I'm missing the point!!)

YADNBU.

There used to be an unwritten rule that it's selfish to play music in the garden. That seems to be being eroded now, alas.

It's lovely to be able to enjoy the peace and quiet in the garden. It's just not the same if someone is playing music -- even if it's music that you generally like.

YANBU. Wish it were a fucking criminal offence to blast your fucking music EVER. I'm so bloody sick of people foisting their fucking music on others. NO ONE ever wants to hear your music. There's no end of ill I wish on such inconsiderate cunts.

Are you me?! Totally 💯 agree. It makes your garden unusable and then you get the inevitable ‘Well, go and live in the middle of nowhere if you want silence.’. Of course we all earn enough to do that! Dumb argument.

I agree with you.

This may be outing but someone on FB had a relative who "entertained " their neighbours during lockdown with their music until the local council came calling and shut them down. Such indignation, how dare someone complain when they were trying to help. There is just no way to explain that some people like peace and quiet and don't want noise firced on them.

It's rude.
If everyone did the same thing it'd be chaos.