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Original poster

Should I do more? DH doing everything

126 replies

peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 15:57

I feel guilty I don't do enough around the house. We have a 7 month old and I'm loving life. I used to get stressed about an untidy house, but my expectations are far lower now! In 7 months I've cooked, put a wash on, been shopping a handful of times. My husband does everything. Bakes bread, makes hummus, makes my lunch, dinner, cleans, does the washing, groceries, and works full time. I have tried to do a bit more recently, but I seem to have become lazy! The baby isn't even that demanding. I could probably do more. I'm just really enjoying time with my baby and going for walks. He says he can cope with it all, but I'm worried he's going to resent me!

If this was the other way around I know what the answer would be!

OP posts:
knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 15:59

Nice try op.

Original poster
peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 16:00

I should add that I will be working in September and we will get a cleaner then so that should ease the burden somewhat.

OP posts:
ChrissyPlummer · 27/05/2021 16:01
Hmm
starbrightstarlight8888 · 27/05/2021 16:01

Is this a joke?

Freecuthbert · 27/05/2021 16:02

If you know what the answer would be, why are you asking? Hmm

Embracelife · 27/05/2021 16:02

But is he changing nappies?

knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 16:02

I think the op overegged the pudding somewhat.

Embracelife · 27/05/2021 16:03

Spending time with baby as well?

SoMuchForSummerLove · 27/05/2021 16:03

Well I would resent the fuck out of you. You're supposed to be partners, and you're definitely not acting like one. Being a mum doesn't replace everything else in your life! Or shouldn't anyway.

Original poster
peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 16:04

He changes nappies and spends as much time with her as he can. At the weekend more than me because I use them as a chance to catch up on sleep.

OP posts:
knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 16:04

Decorating the house in his spare time?

MoiraNotRuby · 27/05/2021 16:04

Makes hummus Grin

WhoEatsPopTarts · 27/05/2021 16:04

Why are you all surprised?

katy1213 · 27/05/2021 16:05

LTB

Original poster
peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 16:06

@MoiraNotRuby

Makes hummus Grin
Lol. Sometimes banana bread and flapjacks too 🤣 I need to do more. I don't know where the day goes!
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Freecuthbert · 27/05/2021 16:07

So you lay around in bed while he bakes bread, makes hummus and changes nappies? You sound incredibly lazy.

knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 16:08

I get that you intended some kind of clever satire here op, but who's the target?

SecretWitch · 27/05/2021 16:09

Low effort. 4/10.

knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 16:10

@SecretWitch

Low effort. 4/10.
That much?
Original poster
peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 16:11

@Freecuthbert

So you lay around in bed while he bakes bread, makes hummus and changes nappies? You sound incredibly lazy.
I mean, he sleeps through the night and I'm up every 2-3 hours usually. So I do lie in at the weekend until 9 or 10! He bakes sourdough twice a week, once at the weekend, once during the week. He's literally superman. Run-commutes to work to get his workout in.
OP posts:
Howshouldibehave · 27/05/2021 16:11

Wow-you really are a dream partner; why would your partner not be lucky to have you?! Hmm

Original poster
peanutbutterporridge · 27/05/2021 16:11

Do people think I'm lying?!

OP posts:
GreenLeafTurnip · 27/05/2021 16:13

🤣

littleredberries · 27/05/2021 16:14

"Ain't nobody got time for this"

knittingaddict · 27/05/2021 16:14

@peanutbutterporridge

Do people think I'm lying?!
We don't think, we hope.
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