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Not served alcohol with a meal.

336 replies

GingerFreaker · 25/05/2021 17:57

I'm slightly miffed today.

We went out to lunch. We being grandparents, myself and 19 year old grandson. We booked a table. We ordered a bottle of wine with our meal. They refused to give the strapping 19 year old a glass, because of challenge 25, and the twit did not take his driving licence.

It stupidly "spoilt" a lovely long planned meet up.

Since we can legally buy a 16 year old alcohol with a meal, am I right to be annoyed it was refused today?

A pub chain, if it makes any difference.

OP posts:
Babbly · 25/05/2021 18:00

If this "spoilt" the meet up then I think you need to chill. It's incredibly annoying but I'm not surprised. I'm a married professional mother with a mortgage and I still get ID'd every single time - it's to be expected unfortunately.

Coldilox · 25/05/2021 18:01

It depends on the conditions of their licence whether they are allowed to serve alcohol to someone 16 or over.

It was your sons fault for not having his licence.

greensnail · 25/05/2021 18:02

Why wouldn't they accept his driving license?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 25/05/2021 18:02

YABU. They are doing a job. I still get asked at age 30 in supermarkets.

speakout · 25/05/2021 18:03

The meal was "spoilt" because someone couldn;t have a glass of wine?

Hmm
greensnail · 25/05/2021 18:03

Oh sorry, I misread it.

seadreams · 25/05/2021 18:03

The pub can be fined thousands or even shut down for serving alcohol to those underage and the server would be fired if found to have served underage. Peoples livelihoods are not a joke particularly when this industry has been hit so hard this year. Tell your 19 year old to buy a wallet, bringing ID is just what you do at that age.

TheMNChicken · 25/05/2021 18:03

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migmogmash · 25/05/2021 18:04

@greensnail

Why wouldn't they accept his driving license?
It says he didn't bring it Smile

OP- this is very much on your son needing to have ID with him. You can't expect places to take the risk of serving someone who may be underage.

RickiTarr · 25/05/2021 18:04

Why would a meal be spoilt because the teenager - or anybody- has to forego wine? Confused

lockdownalli · 25/05/2021 18:04

It stupidly "spoilt" a lovely long planned meet up.

Are you serious? Do you always feel like that if one of your party cannot drink when they want to - because they are on antibiotics, driving, whatever?

This 19 year old man was dreadfully upset he couldn't drink whilst out with his granny was he? Confused

Not sure which one of you has the actual problem here but it's not the pub management.

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 25/05/2021 18:05

I hope you're exaggerating that it split your meal, all over 18s know that no ID = no alchohol

If you're annoyed with anyone is should be your son but also maybe worried that a meal was spoilt by a lack of alcohol

AtoZed · 25/05/2021 18:05

Well, he’ll remember his ID next time, won't he!

steff13 · 25/05/2021 18:06

@RickiTarr

Why would a meal be spoilt because the teenager - or anybody- has to forego wine? Confused
To be fair, I do find that alcohol consumption makes spending time with certain people more tolerable. But I generally just try to avoid those people. Grin
Susie477 · 25/05/2021 18:06

YABU.

Pubs & retailers have to be strict on age verification for alcohol sales because local authorities use ‘sting’ operations to catch & prosecute businesses which serve booze to under 18s.

It’s a lesson learned for him. He will take his proof of age next time.

NoMoreHGTVPlease · 25/05/2021 18:06

Yabu. Enjoyment is not based on alcohol being consumed ffs. Do you think people who dont drink never have any fun?

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 25/05/2021 18:06

Surely the only response was for your son to say 'no worries, I'll have a lemonade this time' and for there to be no fuss?

Why should they risk a huge fine because he hasn't brought his ID at an age where he's likely to get ID'd?

RickiTarr · 25/05/2021 18:06

@greensnail

Why wouldn't they accept his driving license?
He forgot to take it with him to the pub (for which his Gran charmingly calls him a twit Hmm).
DeeleysMum · 25/05/2021 18:06

@greensnail

Why wouldn't they accept his driving license?
He didn't have it. Plus it would have shown he's only 19, not 25.
Exhausted4ever · 25/05/2021 18:06

Dramatic much? Lunch spoilt because a 19 year old forgot his ID and couldn't drink some wine? Really?

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 25/05/2021 18:07

@DeeleysMum challenge 25 means that they'll ID you if you look less than 25, bit that you have to be 25 to drink.

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 25/05/2021 18:08

[quote therearenogoodusernamesleft]@DeeleysMum challenge 25 means that they'll ID you if you look less than 25, bit that you have to be 25 to drink. [/quote]
Sorry, that should say 'NOT that you have to be 25 to drink'

RickiTarr · 25/05/2021 18:08

He didn't have it. Plus it would have shown he's only 19, not 25.

They challenge anyone who looks under 25. You don’t have to prove you’re over 25, just that you’re of legal drinking age.

MalingeringMary · 25/05/2021 18:08

He should have ordered a cider

ViperAtTheGatesOfDawn · 25/05/2021 18:10

Top parenting tip #7369
Teach your kids that they can only enjoy a meal out if they consume alcohol.

Fucksake, OP, this is a really shit attitude.