to veto a godparent?

[culfeather]

Dp wants his sister to be the new baby's godmother. I do not.
She is bossy, controlling, opinionated and beleives in all sorts of new age therapies that I do not.
she gave my current baby a new age gift on his burth that I threw straight in the bin because it was so mad.
I really hate to think she would look after my child if somethign happened to us.
but I have no alternatives, having used up my only relative on the first child and DP says we have no choice as it would look odd if we chose someone other than her.
but she could not give a shit about our first child unless its trying to tell us how to parent him....
do you think I should just give in to keep the peace?

Liking your style Culfeather.

god mother or father looks after the faith of your child only.

ergo your dh is stupid to have a crystal toting hippie to look after HIS christian beliefs when he dies.

the parental guardian of your child upon both your deaths is NOT THE GODPARENT.

i think this is sufficient evidents to denounce crystal toting hippie from godmother job.

That's that, then, culfeather.

She ain't making it as a godmother

What's the origin or your name? It reminds me of Culpepper, some vague 16th century reference?

As a rationalist, I find it quite amusing that dippy-hippy crystal-gazing New Age purple aura holistic healing shite earth mother type is deemed inappropriate, whereas if she believed in the Great Imaginary Sky-being it would all be OK.

It's all made up, so does it really matter what kind of "spiritual" leaning she has?

It's more important what kind of person the godparent is. You can be a non-goddy "god"parent (I am one).

sorry but I think you were extremely childish and rude in throwing her present away, it was a gift for your child and whether you like it or not it wouldn't have hurt you to accept it graciously.

As for the godparent thing I am assuming you go to church every Sunday and are a full practising Christian as this side of it seems to mean so much to you. If so, I would have thought someone from your church who shares your belief system would be a better choice.

If on the other hand you are not then what's the difference between angels and crystal/ hippy dippy shit or the holy trinity?

ah unquietdad she believes in both.
The colour of the god doesn't matter to me but it does to my DH so I have always respected his views at least when they have been sensible and family friendly (my little family that is )
However being a godparent is a special relationship - more than just a spiritual advisor I would have thought. The thought of my baby asking her her opinion on some important life choice and being told to swim with the dolphins then sit down to a nourishing cup of placenta tea is almost too much to bear. What if he/she is told to ask the angel on her/his shoulder and SIL perceives its spirit is covered in old teabags and tena lady minipads?

I think what a godparent is needs to be decided between parents and godparent - it can be as goddy or not, as you like. But I agree you all need to be singing from the same hymn sheet (!) for it to work swimmingly...

PMSL at Tena lady minipads on shoulder spirit!

in the true religious sense, a godparent is someone who will help with the child's emotional, moral and spiritual development. when it came to deciding my DS's godparents, as a catholic, i found it quite hard to pick someone who ticked all those boxes mainly due to the spiritual side, it was hard finding people close to us who still believed. in the end we chose my parents. a non political choice, really, they covered everything and they also covered the guardianship role if anything every happened to me and DH. also asked my bro to cover this if my parents were too old.

i think the spiritual aspect evolves a bit if people are not so religious to cover more of the guardianship, moral and emotional aspects, but you could use the spiritual argument to your benefit if you could nominate someone who is more religious...