WIBU? Parent A vs Parent B

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Parent A has a hobby which takes them out of the house 2-3 afternoons per week and 2 evenings per week.

The afternoons do not affect family life as Parent A is usually back on time for the DC finishing school.

The two evenings per week are not an issue as Parent B also gets some time out once per week or fortnight depending on plans.

On the two evenings per week, Parent B picks up the slack for dinner, baths , bedtime etc as well as walking the dogs. The same happens on the one evening Parent B goes out.

Parent A is really enjoying the hobby and now wants to do this four evenings per week as well as two afternoons per week.

Parent B thinks this is unreasonable.

The DC are junior school age but one has additional needs and needs lots of support and attention so evenings tend to be chaotic. It also means that Parent B would need to pick up the slack for the majority of the week. Parent B is also chronically unwell.

Parent A thinks Parent B is being unreasonable.

WIBU?

A is unreasonable.
The running/cycling need to wait or be done only after the DC are in bed.

(you are B).

Well you're obviously parent B because parent A couldn't possibly be so blind as to believe they're actually being reasonable to expect to opt out of most family evenings for a hobby!!

2 afternoons and 2 evenings is plenty. Any more and you're taking the piss.

There are FAR too many variables here. I do think Parent A sounds a bit unreasonable here though - wanting to spend 6 sessions per week on one hobby. Parent B only gets time out once a week or once a fortnight by comparison.
If DC are in school then that means that Parent A will pretty much only see them at the weekend.
Do Parent A and Parent B both work full-time?

Parent A is being unreasonable. 4 evenings a week on child-free hobbies when they have young children is taking the biscuit.

I can't even imagine being able to do something I liked and enjoyed 6 times per week (other than watch TV I suppose)! It sounds brilliant but not at the expense of the other parent having a crap time!

Parent A is opting out of being a parent in favour of their hobby. Not cool

Parent A needs to get their head out of their arse and realise that 2 afternoons and 2 evenings of hobby time is plenty when you have two children one of who has additional needs

Parent A is being unreasonable

What happens at weekends?

Parent A thinks Parent B is being unreasonable.

On what basis?

You've explained why B thinks A is unreasonable. I'm curious for A's reasoning.

Parent A is an inconsiderate arse! 2 evenings is plenty, especially as they also get 2 afternoons. Parent B needs to find a new outlet so they also get to have 2 evenings to themselves per week.

What do they both do during the day? If Parent A has a full time job and Parent B is a SAHP then 4 evenings a week is still potentially less leisure time than Parent B has. However, if Parent A does this I would expect them to maximise spending time with the DC in the mornings / other evening and weekends.

Parent A is selfish and a complete pisstaker

Sounds like parent A needs to get a job

Parent A is a selfish twat. They already have ample time for their hobby, they don’t need to let parent B pick up the slack more than half of the week so they can fuck off cycling/running/playing golf. When you have children you have to accept that your own needs come second, they need to actually help parent B parent their children.

You're clearly Parent B.

This poster asks relevant points:
What do they both do during the day? If Parent A has a full time job and Parent B is a SAHP then 4 evenings a week is still potentially less leisure time than Parent B has. However, if Parent A does this I would expect them to maximise spending time with the DC in the mornings / other evening and weekends.

I am parent B (and knew I was right ).

Parent A works part time freelancing so has the afternoons free to do his hobby before the DC return from school.

Parent B (me) is not currently working due to redundancy last September. However, I pick up the slack for almost all of the household stuff. I’m happy to do this as I’m not working but I don’t want to have my load added to for an additional 2 evenings per week.

Parent A feels it won’t make much difference and I can just keep the DC up until 9pm on school nights and he will deal with it when he returns.

What this means in reality though, is MY evening then being cancelled out because the DC with additional needs , needs me more in the evenings.

Parent a is taking the piss. Both parents should have equal access to relaxation time and not have to shoulder the majority of the parenting burden

He is being unreasonable and selfish

Parent A is already out far too much at 2 eves and 2/3 afternoons p/w! Never mind a couple of extra sessions. Parent A will have very little family time and what about quality time with Parent B?!

Parent A is clearly unreasonable.

Do they work and the afternoons are during their off time? Just wondering if Parent B covers family time whilst they are working at other times (and therefor the afternoons do impact becaus they should be doing other stuff at home to take the burden for Parent B)

A is madly unreasonable.

Nope would be my answer

Or he takes them with him 😈

So Parent A doesn't get to have the 2 extra evenings, and Parent B needs to make sure that that have time allocated for them.

Given both parents are at home a lot (as in part time work and not working) there is no reason why both parents shouldn't have appropriate hobby time and share household responsibilities.