DH and Laundry Accident

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I feel very silly for being so upset about this.

DH pulls his weight round the house, but can be really careless and a bit of a Half a Job Bob at times.

I was emptying the dryer and found my favourite item of clothing in a crinkly ball amongst all the kids stuff.

A dusky pink pair of Lucy and Yak cord dungarees- I fucking love them. They make me feel cool and fashionable and I just feel great in them.

I tried them on once I’d managed to uncrinkle them and it was like trying to step into a condom. They’re out of stock so I can’t replace them.

I’m so (unreasonably?) upset at DH. He’s in a senior management position, smart and capable but somehow won’t or can’t follow washing instructions? He’s very apologetic but I’m fucking RAGING. I know it’s just “stuff” but it’s even the fact that the little 1950s housewife in the back of my brain is saying “Ah sure, at least he’s trying to help.”

RIP dungarees

These?

Oh my god! I’ve got 5 pairs of L&Y dungarees. My fave being Martina I think

I’d be devastated if they got ruined

Have you tried the facebook preloved pages?

His working position is of no importance in this . It’s like saying he drinks 2 pints a week but can’t repair an in yet tune on a bike

Can’t repair an inner tube

I'm sorry about your loss OP. If it makes you feel better I bought a lovely cream wool jumper from a charity shop and, for some unknown reason, washed it on a 60° 3.5hr cycle with some black leggings and a black long sleeved tshirt. Let's just say I now have a doll sized jumper and very, VERY hairy leggings and tshirt! I can't even blame anyone as I live alone!

@diddl

These?

If they are only 9 minutes left 😳😳😳

We have a separate basket for 'weird' stuff. Everything else goes in the tumble dryer.

Effectively you're expecting your husband to look at the care label of every single item of clothing that doesn't belong to him to make sure it can be tumble dried.

It's far more efficient and will lead to fewer disasters if you separate out things you don't want to go through the normal process. When I worked at a dry cleaner, we put a different coloured label attached with double safety pins. So even professional cleaners have a system and don't expect people to look at the labels of every single item of clothing.

Wrong colour? lucyandyak.com/products/the-organic-original-corduroy-dungarees-in-grape?currency=GBP&variant=32420106862695&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=11652363257%7Cnon_brand%7Cgoogle_shopping&utm_content=480730113095&utm_term=&matchtype=&adposition=&device=t&gclid=Cj0KCQjwna2FBhDPARIsACAEc_WFiOwhvv7KlngM8Tz2DaJC5CeS2bgLxxc58E8Lbir9k6AV__PDOkYaAhLiEALw_wcB

I have a mesh bag in the laundry basket for delicate/odd stuff.

This means its easy to teach the children how to do the laundry, as everything in the coloured basket can just be bunged in a wash.

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread but I recently sold my dungarees that were the exact ones you've lost, they're called Originals in Ash Pink. There are loads of active dungaree buying and selling groups on Facebook and I guarantee if you post on them someone will have a pair they're willing to sell you. Good luck

These? Loads of other colours too.

lucyandyak.com/collections/all-dungarees/products/the-organic-original-corduroy-dungarees-in-grape

I don’t read labels, I do not have the time and can’t be arsed. Everything is sorted by colour, delicates in a separate bag and that’s it. I don’t tumble dry my clothes because It knackers them quicker and makes them a bugger to iron. The dryer is exclusively for towels, face masks and ‘I’ve got PE in three hours and I need my...’ items.

I feel your pain, rage away and then let it go, it was an accident.

Update- I sent a sheepish DH to the Spar for fabric conditioner and they’ve been stretched after soaking for an hour in the bath. Seems to have done the trick and on the plus side upstairs smells incredible.

The Dungaree Gods must’ve seen this thread

It's fine to be annoyed and upset but it's unreasonable to be angry at a person for an accident, especially if he is, as you say, very apologetic about it.

We had this with daughter’s extremely expensive, and almost brand new competition sports kit. Every week he watched me hand washing them, but the week I had flu he assumed it was fine to stick them in the washing machine, then in the tumble drier. Two hundred and fucking fifty quid’s worth of kit. I was furious about the cost, but even more furious about his attitude that obviously all the care I had taken with them was unnecessary and that he knew better.

Oh, and yes, that WAS after me telling him they all had to be hand-washed.

Glad you saved them op.

I'm on a couple of Lucy & Yak selling pages and the dusky pinks come up on them regularly, as well as on depop.

I live in L&Y and R&F dungarees.

If its in the washing basket it goes in the wash at 40c. I separate colours from whites. I do not check labels or pockets. If they put jeans in the wash with a tissue in the pocket ( glares at DH here), then they are responsible for removing the bits off the clothes / re washing / wiping down the washing machine. Simples.

Am I missing something?

Just put them back in on a rinse and spin then dry as you like. They will relax back into the size they were. Won't they?

I think you are absolutely justified in being so angry with him. That's an utterly shit move and I get why you're annoyed.
However, it does sound like an accident. Get him to buy you something else. Pick another lovely pair of dungarees (maybe even a bonus dress or pair of shoes/he makes dinner on Friday while you sit and sip wine) but you know what I mean. Make sure he makes it up to you.

Oh I am really sorry OP. Is it worth contacting them to see if they might have a pair around.

Other than having sharp words about adult responsibility, which I would (also - he needs to pay for an equivalent) would it be helpful going forward to have lights, darks and delicates bins. I do this to make things quicker but have also reduced washing disasters.

Hmm on the fence about this. My DP has done that once before but to be fair he does not own a single item of clothing that needs dry cleaning or has particular care instructions (other than his 2 suits). So it did not occur to him when we moved in together that I may have stuff that can't go in at 40 degrees etc. He was apologetic and I was gutted for my brand new expensive dress but I said it would only be fair I separate my sensitive/silk/dry clean only stuff from our general laundry basket.

He made a mistake. Forgive him and move on

@LadyofMisrule

We had this with daughter’s extremely expensive, and almost brand new competition sports kit. Every week he watched me hand washing them, but the week I had flu he assumed it was fine to stick them in the washing machine, then in the tumble drier. Two hundred and fucking fifty quid’s worth of kit. I was furious about the cost, but even more furious about his attitude that obviously all the care I had taken with them was unnecessary and that he knew better.

And what did he say when they were ruined?

@Mummytea24

He made a mistake. Forgive him and move on

that's what i think. wish i still had my DP around to make as many mistakes as doesn't matter. nothing compares with the emptiness of loss. i understand that it's annoying. but think : you seem to be putting a material item above your chosen beloved. you seem to have a generally happy family life. and half of that is down to him. it's so easy to take people for granted. cherish him while you can. all the best.