DH and Laundry Accident

[TerribleCustomerCervix]

I feel very silly for being so upset about this.

DH pulls his weight round the house, but can be really careless and a bit of a Half a Job Bob at times.

I was emptying the dryer and found my favourite item of clothing in a crinkly ball amongst all the kids stuff.

A dusky pink pair of Lucy and Yak cord dungarees- I fucking love them. They make me feel cool and fashionable and I just feel great in them.

I tried them on once I’d managed to uncrinkle them and it was like trying to step into a condom. They’re out of stock so I can’t replace them.

I’m so (unreasonably?) upset at DH. He’s in a senior management position, smart and capable but somehow won’t or can’t follow washing instructions? He’s very apologetic but I’m fucking RAGING. I know it’s just “stuff” but it’s even the fact that the little 1950s housewife in the back of my brain is saying “Ah sure, at least he’s trying to help.”

RIP dungarees

Ohh @TerribleCustomerCervix I sympathise. I would kill my DP if he did this to my l&y. There’s an official sell/buy group I’m part of on Facebook that’s easily findable and the ash pinks pop up on there (I recently sold a pair that are now too big!) so I suggest you join that and he can replace!

I'd go apeshit tbh. And I've made the decision to do all our laundry (he does most of the washing up and we share cooking). I don't find it much of a chore either, to just bung clothes in a washer. I have piece of mind that way. My partner would shove everything in if he did it.
Sympathies op.

I was also going to say eBay! At his expense.

I've just paid £49 to replace my size M 30" copper Lucy and Yaks that went missing with a holiday suitcase last year and was never found.

You can save the search on eBay and check once a week or so. Or DH can.

And I can confirm that the cotton one works on some fabrics - not my error, I was helping out the much hated PoisonousSIL and she wasn't even grateful when it worked. just moaned about the amount of fabric softener it took to unshrink 3 pairs of brand new and expensive cotton twill trousers

His solution was that he would never wash anything of mine again

My solution was that he washed EVERYTHING of mine and god help him if he ruined anything else

@CuriousaboutSamphire

I agree with about 99% of your posts, I look forward to seeing your name on a thread

This post is perfection though!!

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This is why my DH was banned from doing laundry for a very long time. Unfortunately due to ill health I’ve had to back down and let him do more. He’s still not allowed to touch my clothes though, I don’t care how “helpful” he’s trying to be. It amazing how absolutely everything he washes comes out completely creased.

I’m sure you’d be able to find a pair on the companies buy and sell page. It’s called ‘Lucy & Yak Official Buy/Sell/Trade’

Alsp not blaming you OP..just pointing out it's easily done and theres lots of "shoulda, woulda, coulda" in hindsight that could have avoided this, notbjust him checking the label....but what's done is done

You are being a teeny bit unreasonable. If it’s in a communal basket, I wouldn’t expect it to need any special treatment - I just grab the basket, sort whites/ coloureds and in it goes.

If something needs special treatment, it’s isolated from the main wash. There’s no way I’d check every label - everything normal goes in at 40 or 60 degrees.

@SimonJT wow, that is a gamechanger.
How did I not know that?

My mum once shrank a hand-knitted pair of cashmere socks that I’d made for myself - they were gorgeous but ended up tiny, thick and felted

She was staying and decided to help without being asked while I was out & then blamed me for putting them in the linen basket

I also hated the fact she’d been into my bedroom to get the dirty linen!

Like everyone else you will only look once, the first time a garment needs to be washed!

Precisely.

It isn't a 'man thing' either. My DH does around half of the laundry in this house, and if I get a new item of clothing he will ask before he washes it for the first time. He doesn't need reminding or telling, he is a competent adult.

People may make mistakes every now and then, but if someone routinely does a half-arsed job it's because they don't care and don't want to have to do it again.

Are they not in stock? I just googled? Maybe not your ones though? lucyandyak.com/products/easton-cord-dungarees-in-boroque-rose?variant=32421016043623

@SecretWitch

Oh, op. I’m sorry..

I lost a gorgeous lavender wool sweater in almost the same manner. It was so small it would not have fit my 10 yo. I asked him not to put it in the wash before he started the laundry. He forgot. I think what he really meant was “ I can’t be arsed to sift through the laundry for your special things”.

We made a trade. I take care of the laundry and he loads and empties the dishwasher. At least he can’t shrink cutlery or glass.

THIS. I do laundry and he does the dishwasher. And Lucy and yak have got some lovely special edition twill dungarees in Stock atm. Xx

If I had something that needed special care I would keep it separate. Mistakes happen, unless he purposely does a bad job to get out of it then it's just one of those things. I can't believe how many people would go apeshit over a genuine mistake.

@Thevoiceofreason2021

Shrink his favourite sweater. Put it back in the closet/ drawer - say nothing

Utterly ridiculous & spiteful

Why the hell would you do that to someone your supposed to love?

My former supervisor (a careless idiot) washed almost all his wife's dry clean only career dresses and suits and acted upset she was passed they were ruined! My MIL threw a gorgeous sweater my SIL got from BIL as a birthday gift into the washer and dryer and it shrank to toddler size-she was upset but didn't replace it-I'd have been requesting her to replace it-she's got very little common sense and is typical of things she's done. Both disasters I described was under the guise of "helping" Fuck that keep your help to yourself

If you wash cotton things again, you can sometimes stretch them out while wet, it works for some teeshirts.

Wow so over the top about clothes I have never ever checked a label for washing instructions in over 25 years if you have something that needs extra care pop it in a second basket simple really, my dh has also never checked a label only thing we do is separate whites from the rest everything is washed on a 40 cycle and jumpers never go into dryers thats it

We do all our laundry separately. It makes life much easier and I never need to worry about him damaging my stuff or vice versa. Maybe something to try OP.

“You can unshrink some materials, a dilute borax solution and some towels for stuffing will unshrink cashmere, cotton can generally be unshrunk by soaking in dilute fabric softener for an hour or so. I haven’t tried the cotton one but I can confirm the cashmere one works.

Thank you Simon, you’ve just saved my marriage 😂

One of my teen DC has the same dungarees but in the burnt orange. DH did the same, the first time they were washed.

By coincidence Lucy and Yak asked for a review and I said the dungarees were perfect but my husband had shrunk them in the tumble drier (i.e. it was totally his fault). Lucy and Yak insisted on giving us a replacement.

I love that brand! Plenty of repeat custom from our house....

I, an average woman, do have to be told to take care. When I get a new item of clothing I check the label then, and as I don't have a huge amount of clothes I know from memory how to treat them. I don't know my husbands clothing in the same way, which is how I shrank a lovely lambswool jumper of his to literal toddler size about a year ago.

So you check labels for your clothes but not his? This kind of proves the point. You didn't check, because you're not really that bothered about his.

I only check the labels once when I wash things, and then remember. But I do the same for both my and DH's clothes.