To not talk to MiL until after I give birth?

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I’m due to give birth in two weeks. Have just come off a phonecall with a a sobbing MiL pleading for me not to give birth until the 15th June when they’ll have finished the renovations on their new home and have properly moved all their stuff in. Because apparently she doesn’t want to miss a single moment of the baby being here, but she also won’t be able to come and stay with us until she’s finished all the work in the house. So now it’s my job to ‘please please please hold on’.

Have mentioned that at my last scan, the baby was measuring very large (had to have a fasting blood glucose test to rule out diabetes), and that I don’t want to go over. Completely ignored.

Yabu simply because you actually ended the call without telling her how ridiculous she was being

WTF?

Like others have said, there's no way you can 'hold on' and give birth on a specific date...surely she knows this as she's given birth before?

What was she like with your firstborn?

I laughed.
She's being ridiculous.
Be unavailable.

I'd be having the baby immediately to spite her

Just get your DH to tell her you can't talk anymore because you're holding your breath till the 15th June to keep the baby in. Science.

Yup, she’s batshit crazy!

I hope your due date is well before 15th June and that MIL’s wishes don’t come true.

I also hope you’ve told DH about the call and now refuse to speak to Mil until after 15th June!

Good luck.

Just tell her you'll cross your legs and hope for the best.. this woman is a nutcase! Your baby will come when your baby wants to come. If she doesn't understand it's not your choice and she's ignoring you then I wouldn't stress about talking to her first unless she talks to you.

Woman's a lunatic. Babies come when they're ready.

I'd be doing anything right now to encourage baby to come now.

YANBU, and hand all comms over to your DH.

Raspberry leaf tea
Pineapple
Curry
Orgasmic sex

That should get you going!!

Does she just want you to cross your legs or...?

She's ridiculous. I'm guessing she knows you can't just hold it in right?
I'd just say. I'll tell you what. If I have the baby before 15th I won't tell you so as not to cause you any stress about not being able to visit

You big meanie OP. Just pop a cork up there and hold your breath until your MIL is ready.

That's how it works, right?

I would "lose" my mobile & unplug the landline. You know how long it takes to get landlines mended during covid 😉

It sounds like she’s guilting you not to accept an induction if it is offered early? Absolutely batshit crazy of course, this is a decision is between you and your medical team.

I don't understand the drama from your mother in law. She is a mother and therefore knows perfectly well that, short of being induced, you cannot order the time and date of a birth, The baby will come when it is ready. Both of mine were 4/5 days early. That's just how it is. She should also know not to stress you out! Mother in law is being ridiculous.

In addition, I don't get why she cannot leave her renovations to the renovators for a short while. I'd have thought that would make a welcome change. I hate being at home with builders and decorators, went through that some years ago and would never do it again.

Pay no attention. When she calmed down I expect she realised how silly and unfair she had been. Maybe your husband can have a word in her ear but I think she should apologise to you without that being necessary.

Good luck with your birth; despite the warning signs you have had in your pregnancy, you and your baby will no doubt be fine and arrive when he/she is supposed to. Quite exciting! However.....you could try crossing your legs firmly :-), tie them together at night.

Not 'your birth', 'the birth'; you're already born.

I had the opposite situation with one of my babies. I was going to have an elective c section after a previous c section. Exdh relentlessly tried to pressure me into scheduling it as early as possible so that it would coincide with a visit from his parents (they live in a different country and had booked a visit to see us prior to my becoming pregnant). Dick.

Until you give birth?
Totally unreasonable - I'd aim for avoiding her until the "baby" is 18 - at least.

I think it's hilarious! What a nutty thing to say to you! I mean, nature will take its course??
Just say " I'll try not to" and change the subject. Just keep saying that on repeat.
No point arguing with such lunacy.

My MIL had scheduled c sections for both children and would say odd things like this (there wasn’t crying trough ) which I just eye rolled at. Bonkers!

She's a fruit loop.

Fight stupid with stupid. Mil you must make sure that on whatever day I give birth, the renovations have finished!

I'm assuming she wasn't making a joke, or you wouldn't be posting.

If she was actually being serious then she sounds like a fucking loony toon and I would not be taking any further phonecalls from her until after you've given birth, because you will probably need a strong drink to be able to deal with them.

I think I'd cut contact permanently with anyone who started weeping down the phone at me about what she wanted!

Have you got time to move? Or emigrate?

Omg! Let DH field the drama.

If we could control when the baby was born then things would be a lot simpler!!