To not talk to MiL until after I give birth?

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I’m due to give birth in two weeks. Have just come off a phonecall with a a sobbing MiL pleading for me not to give birth until the 15th June when they’ll have finished the renovations on their new home and have properly moved all their stuff in. Because apparently she doesn’t want to miss a single moment of the baby being here, but she also won’t be able to come and stay with us until she’s finished all the work in the house. So now it’s my job to ‘please please please hold on’.

Have mentioned that at my last scan, the baby was measuring very large (had to have a fasting blood glucose test to rule out diabetes), and that I don’t want to go over. Completely ignored.

"To help". It's 10 days when they're toddlers that you need the help.

If you do now give birth after the 15 th of June she will forever think you did it to please her...ha ha
Now this could work in your favour.....but I fear it could become a bit of a pain...her telling you her friends the neighbours the post man that you waited until she was ready to give her a grandchild !!! Lol

I wouldn't have anything to do with this nutcase. I honestly can't handle people like her. I'd be done.

What a fucking lunatic

Yes you're MIL is being unreasonable. You know she's being unreasonable. It's quite obvious to any sane person that your MIL is being unreasonable.

Why not call her out on her behaviour and sort it out once and for all?

ive never had a child so not familiar with giving birth but logically how do you hold a baby in till a certain date if it snearly time

fucking batshit some people

Ime it can be done!!
(PROB)
Dd was due Xmas eve. I willed her to stay put!!
The dc were desperate I didn't miss Xmas!!
I help her on until nye!!
< boast >..
In your shoes I would be pushing right now...

Not seeing the problem. Everyone knows babies come to order. You’re really VERY unreasonable.

God it's ludicrous. She probably in some weird way is trying to tell you she wants to offer you her uninterrupted support though. Presumably she means well.

Have a curry and go for a bumpy car ride.
Loony MIL.

Sounds like she could make any situation about herself. Nightmare. Don’t tell her you’ve had the baby until a week after they arrive

And how on earth is she expecting you to manage that??? Yanbu, she sounds completely batshit.

@supersop60

Have a curry and go for a bumpy car ride. Loony MIL.

Was thinking the same 😂

Is she mentally ill in some way?

Surely you don't want her around after you've had the baby, if this is what she is like before?

Absolutely don't speak to her until the birth. It might sound dramatic to some but you do not need the stress of dealing with her sobbing at you (wtf?) over this. Ideally you'd have passed the phone straight to DH as soon as she started.

She was cring and pleading she does know baby will come when it’s ready not when she is !!!

I'd be telling her not to worry, it won't be an issue at all, because there's no way in hell she's staying that soon after the birth!

My MIL wanted me to go early, so DD2 would be born on her birthday. She cried when I wouldn't ask for a section on the date.

Ok any way you could ( anonymously) tell her that the renovations will be delayed . Bribe who is doing them.
Then start spring cleaning and have a bumpy sail or anything. Have baby and do not tell her for a month. Tell her due to covid or anything that you cannot have visitors.

I’m sorry OP but this really made me giggle. YA definitely NBU. What is it with some MILs and babies?! My own MIL was a nightmare with my first. She kept calling me at work demanding the number of my midwife so she could ask her things about my pregnancy. Hmmm no thanks.

My mother in law continually told me that I couldnt give birth on the birthday of her late husband...as if I had any control over it! What silly women we know eh!? Ignore her

I hope your baby comes on, or a
Little before your due date OP!

I do remember my MIL Saying she would come to stay to help me when the baby arrives. Luckily she read the look of horror on my face and never did

I'd be doing everything I could to evacuate the baby, just so she could never think I held on at her request.

Vindaloo for dinner, anyone?

If there's a next time just tell her that with the amount of shagging you're doing with her son, it's bound to be early!!