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thisisbull · 2021-05-22T21:45:52+00:00

I know this is grim but help settle an argument! We're remodelling the bathroom and I would like a bidet *because I have Crohn's disease and frankly when it's awful I can't use too much loo roll so I'm having 10/15 showers a day to feel clean* it's either a bidet or a washing loo I need to not feel horrendous. DH thinks the idea of a bidet is gross and a bum washing loo is ridiculous because they're so expensive but it's something I need to cope with my illness Aibu to not back down on this and just tell him we're getting a bidet and to grow up?

Hellcatspangle · 23/05/2021 08:16

Of course you shouldn't back down! Your DH is being a bit of a twat.

5zeds · 23/05/2021 08:18

Is a shattaf/bum gun cold water fed? Our water is freezing and I honestly don’t think could be used directly on your arse without causing discomfort.

BarbaraofSeville · 23/05/2021 08:39

Another vote for a bum hose. Only time I've used one was on a dive boat in Egypt and I was apprehensive, but needn't have been, it was great.

Your DH is a dick but I'm sure you already know that. If he doesn't like the idea of a bidet or other solution, he doesn't need to use it does he? But his opinion doesn't trump yours.

partyatthepalace · 23/05/2021 08:44

Jesus tell your DH not to be such a wanker. Of course you should have one. They are rather brilliant and should be revived - also good for watering plants and soaking hand washing.

Also do get a loo with a bum gun - if your DP moans about that tell him they are super fashionable and environmental.

At some point I would really pull him up on this, he’s your husband - he’s supposed to be in your corner.

Cupcakeschocolate · 23/05/2021 08:46

I never understand the British mentality on this. No amount of toilet paper will make you clean after going for a poo. You need to wash. Especially when you have a condition as OP. We don't have a bidet. We just moved and will be getting a hose. But all our friends and family fill up a water bottle or old milk carton etc if we can't get a hose or bidet. There's no excuse for a dirty bum!

KarmaNoMore · 23/05/2021 08:51

YANBU but I would do for the middle ground with one of these: [[https://www.bigbathroomshop.co.uk/milano-mirage-modern-wall-hung-douche-spray-chrome-69108?gclid=CjwKCAjw-qeFBhAsEiwA2G7Nl4xzKuS6t_WW9bUT6WgOZozKyLqZgOQ6mgtNu1AARI8_12uIG1OwOBoCx8MQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds]]

It does the work of a bidet without taking the space.

Treemama · 23/05/2021 08:52

My parents got rid of their bidet and got a douche hose installed beside the loo instead. They find it very handy.

AIMummy · 23/05/2021 08:53

@KarmaNoMore

YANBU but I would do for the middle ground with one of these: [[https://www.bigbathroomshop.co.uk/milano-mirage-modern-wall-hung-douche-spray-chrome-69108?gclid=CjwKCAjw-qeFBhAsEiwA2G7Nl4xzKuS6t_WW9bUT6WgOZozKyLqZgOQ6mgtNu1AARI8_12uIG1OwOBoCx8MQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds]]

It does the work of a bidet without taking the space.

Yup it's known as a douche on the continent (common in some European countries).

TheQueef · 23/05/2021 08:55

@5zeds

Is a shattaf/bum gun cold water fed? Our water is freezing and I honestly don’t think could be used directly on your arse without causing discomfort.

Mine is a mixer. Plumbed on to the hot/cold feed for the hand basin. DIY with speedfit was a doddle.

ChairmansReserve · 23/05/2021 08:56

I hate those hoses (spent a lot of time in India) but i would love a bidet or even better a Japanese toilet if I had the space and money.

KarmaNoMore · 23/05/2021 08:57

You can Aldo get one that connects to the water inlet of the toilet without having to do building works: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B07PLZH8YZ/ref=ox_sc_act_image_1?smid=A1HC8CM0O7OM58&psc=1&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

KarmaNoMore · 23/05/2021 08:57

Also, not aldo

AIMummy · 23/05/2021 08:57

@5zeds

Is a shattaf/bum gun cold water fed? Our water is freezing and I honestly don’t think could be used directly on your arse without causing discomfort.

Our one is warm water fed. We used an Asian bathroom company to get it installed (and do the rest of the bathroom).

SimonJT · 23/05/2021 08:58

@5zeds

Is a shattaf/bum gun cold water fed? Our water is freezing and I honestly don’t think could be used directly on your arse without causing discomfort.

You can get either, ours are all cold water fed, but you can get mixer ones.

Itsokthanks · 23/05/2021 09:01

Yanbu. I have a prolapse and can't get clean with loo roll and have to shower after using the loo. I'd love a bidet.

101jobs · 23/05/2021 09:08

Yes I would definitely get a bidet

SuperSecretSquirrels · 23/05/2021 09:27

I have so many questions!

How do you use the hose/shower/shattaf? I can’t figure out how it would work without getting water all over the toilet. At the risk of being too direct, do you spread the cheeks and direct the water right at the area, or is it more of a general aim at the lower lower-back and use a hand to wash? Is it high or low pressure?

With the bidet-seat / Japanese toilet - how does it stay hygienic? Given that the nozzles are below the seat, how do you know the nozzle hasn’t been splattered or sprayed by the previous visitor? And are they not a bugger to clean?

Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 23/05/2021 09:29

Bidets are great. We couldn't live without one now.

Your DH though, not so great.

rwalker · 23/05/2021 09:34

Another on for a muslim tap make sure you get a thermostatic one . No one want the rinse there ring with ice cold water.
Lot easier no fuss and bidet are just another thing to clean in the bathroom.

Also taps/hose brilliant for cleaning the toilet as well

IReallyNeedMoreGin · 23/05/2021 09:42

@Northernsoullover

Disco minge

Read this out to hubby...we're both 🤢 and 🤣 in equal measure! 😆

goldpendant · 23/05/2021 09:46

We lived overseas in the Middle East and the bum gun (never heard it called this, amazing!) was a feature of every bathroom. I loved it. As pp said, I'm surprised they haven't taken off in this country. Get a bum gun!

PhilCornwall1 · 23/05/2021 10:05

Mine is a mixer. Plumbed on to the hot/cold feed for the hand basin. DIY with speedfit was a doddle.

That could go one way or the other, freezing cold or a ring of fire!! 😫😫

ElderMillennial · 23/05/2021 10:08

What about a bum gun (bidet hose). We have one. It doesn't take up much space and wasn't too expensive. Connected to warm water. I expect it will do the job.

Octopuscrazy · 23/05/2021 10:19

@SuperSecretSquirrels

I have so many questions!

How do you use the hose/shower/shattaf? I can’t figure out how it would work without getting water all over the toilet. At the risk of being too direct, do you spread the cheeks and direct the water right at the area, or is it more of a general aim at the lower lower-back and use a hand to wash? Is it high or low pressure?

With the bidet-seat / Japanese toilet - how does it stay hygienic? Given that the nozzles are below the seat, how do you know the nozzle hasn’t been splattered or sprayed by the previous visitor? And are they not a bugger to clean?

At the risk of being crude, apologies, basically you hold the shattaf with your right hand aim from the front, between your legs and direct the jet up towards your bum. Then you use your left hand to wash. Dry with a few sheets of toilet paper

Puttingouthefirewithgasoline · 23/05/2021 10:20

It's ironic that he thinks something that cleans the rear is gross? Many of our continental cousins feel we are disgusting for not having bidets. I'd love to have one op, definitely.