This man was rude or am I being an idiot

[Queenie6655]

So walking out of shop today with my 3 year old DD a man was walking close behind us
It was a narrow walkway so we both sped up as he was indicating he wanted to get by
As he rushed past us my DD fell and everything in her hands fell onto the ground
She hurt her hand and knee
He stood watching
I had to drop everything in my hand to help her up
Everything was on the ground
He got in his car
Sat watching us
I rushed her to my car to get her comfy
Ran back to the pavement to gather up everything (shopping - fruit , veg, etc)
He sits in car still staring
So I stop and look over at him And threw my hands in the air
He prob thinks I'm bonkers
He's an idiot
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Ugh 🤦🏼‍♀️

Well we weren’t there so hard to gauge how he behaved, but from what you say it doesn’t sound like crime of the century. I can imagine him standing awkwardly and watching to make sure you were both ok but not knowing hire or when to intervene. I’d think it odd if someone did pick up child or shopping at the moment and some people would find that even worse and not helpful given fear of infection, so perhaps he was not really malevolent but just awkward.

Yeah. It’s definitely clear that you’re pissed off that it’s your fault because you rushed your daughter and she fell.

Next time don’t rush a wobbly toddler. He hasn’t done anything wrong, your anger is misplaced.

Good manners would have been for you to turn round and apologise for holding him up. That's what I would have done.

Someone's ok after a fall
She's a toddler with her mother, not an elderly lady 🙄
You shouldn't have rushed her. I'm confused as to why you tried to hurry her out of his way in case he got too close, then bemoan the fact that he didn't stay to help pick up your shopping 😂
How much could your toddler have been carrying anyway?!

I wouldn't want anybody else to help. I'd have stopped to let him past or given the toddler a piggy back.

If the walk way was wide enough for you to be holding your child’s hand to walk side by side then it was wide enough for him to pass. You should have moved your child in front of him to let his pass.

This ^

Nor am I sure why, if she is young enough to still be at the stage of falling easily, she is walking along with her hands full.

YABU.
Even the way you describe it, I can't see what the man has done wrong here.

So he didn't knock her over but she fell because you were rushing her to walk faster. He was a bit of dick for coming up behind you and not saying excuse me so you paused to let him past (although I'd have just stopped if I saw someone behind me in a hurry), but I can't see how he was at fault for not helping because we're meant to be socially distancing still.

Oh, it's one of those I AM NOT BEING UNREASONABLE threads...
Honestly, op. A row of kisses for the only poster who agreed with you?
🤣🤣🤣
Why bother asking?!

@Queenie6655

Narrow walk way

He was right up on our heels and made me feel uncomfortable
Hence why I increased my pace

He was a rude arse
No way should he have got that close to us

Oh and I couldn't carry her my hands were full

I'm sure someone will be on to say I should have had empty hands blah blah 🤣🤣

Wide enough to walk side by side with your daughter, so why not stand with back against wall to let him past.

Ah lads. Fault schmault. Covid schmovid. If a 3 year old falls you at least offer a little “aw” of sympathy surely or ask if she’s ok, even if not your fault. Maybe there are extenuating circumstances blah blah but I don’t think YABU OP. He was a bit of a shite.

What at @RedLemon said!

He's a shite! Covid didn't make him one, he was already!

@Viviennemary

Why didnt you stand aside and let him go past. I cant stand being behind dawdling folk who've got all the time in the world.

So do I but it’s no excuse to shove them out of the way especially a child! I also have something called a voice and a choice of word when people dwaddle it’s called excuse me .

shove them out the way?!? Not even the OP was so dramatic... He didn't touch them!

You need a bag.

Nobody shoved anyone, folks. Let's not start rewriting op's script as if you were there.

I'm with you op

To be fair, I think most men would be a little reluctant to go to the aid of an unknown hurt child, especially when their mother is obviously on the scene so no need for external help. If he had gone to help, OP would likely be posting how inappropriate it was and he should have left her to it.

YANBU. People who walk too close behind you and make you feel like you're in their way (when you're not intentionally blocking them) are rude. They're the pedestrian version of those drivers who sit on your rear when you're already driving the top legal speed.

Sitting and staring was also rude. The least he could have done was to pretend to be engaged with something in his car, so you didn't feel under his microscope.

If this ever happens again, I would take my time, not rush, let the person behind me take a breath and accept that there are other people on the pavement, and not everyone walks at the same speed. As long as you aren't just standing there blocking the path, it's okay to continue at the toddler's pace. You'll eventually reach a place where the person behind you can safely pass.

@UserAtRandom

To be fair, I think most men would be a little reluctant to go to the aid of an unknown hurt child, especially when their mother is obviously on the scene so no need for external help. If he had gone to help, OP would likely be posting how inappropriate it was and he should have left her to it.

Mine isn't going anywhere near any child unless it's an absolute medical emergency. He is bit brownish (which yeah, imho it does make an extra issue in these cases) and I won't have him called peado on SM or something.

I think next time move her to one side, and let the person pass. That's what I used to do, as toddlers cannot be rushed. To be honest, the guy didn't do anything wrong, apart from get too close. He didn't push past and knock her over. He probably shouldn't have stared at you from the car though, just being nosey!

@FuzzyPuffling

You need a bag.

😂

@GreyhoundG1rl

Nobody shoved anyone, folks. Let's not start rewriting op's script as if you were there.

He shoved because he was hurrying to see one of his mistresses. I bet ya😁

Personally I wouldn't have expected him to do anything. It wasn't his fault.
The fact he hung around probably meant he was feeling a bit uncertain as to whether you blamed him for the mishap and probably debating with himself whether to apologise/ ask id your child was OK, but wondering if you would misinterpret it as him overstepping the mark being a stranger/ not wanting to intimidate you/ worrying about the social distancing etc etc.
Toddlers fall often and their parents just deal with it as you did.
Yes, he maybe was a little impatient, but aside from that he did nothing wrong.

He shoved because he was hurrying to see one of his mistresses. I bet ya😁
Keep going, guys, we'll get a Mills and Boon blockbuster out if it yet 😂

Yup an arse but not worth focusing on. Tea and cake and let it go.