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Is anyone here on Only Fans?

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MissGendered · 21/05/2021 11:19

Or do you know someone that is? I'm curious how many real life people are actually on it.

I'm not a journo, the Daily mail is a shit rag.

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apalledandshocked · 23/05/2021 10:17

Sorry - I should have said "almost lost her job" but other people have lost their jobs. Whereas I would be amazed if anyone risked not getting hired/losing their jobs for subscibing to only fans as a consumer - the punishment only goes one way. Same as always.

IJustWantSomeBees · 23/05/2021 10:24

@ShrikeAttack

I actually feel that I want to shout 'I'm Kink negative', fuck off pervos. Just bugger off with your nonsense.
This. "kink-shaming" isn't a real thing. Shame is a completely natural, healthy emotion for humans to experience and I would argue that men who are sexually aroused by female pain, humiliation and degradation; men who are sexually aroused by incest, men who are sexually aroused by racism and men who are sexually aroused by paedophillia and haebophillia; should absolutely feel ashamed of themselves.

I cannot believe that the sex pozzy crowd are trying to argue that any of the above is a healthy form of sexual expression, or that people should not be "kink-shamed" for partaking in them. They argue that the above is 'just fantasy', which is ridiculous and offensive to all the women and children who are being harmed by these 'kinks' becoming normalised.

Until their kinks stop normalising violence and oppression, I will continue to be a proud kink-shamer.

IJustWantSomeBees · 23/05/2021 10:28

@apalledandshocked

Sorry - I should have said "almost lost her job" but other people have lost their jobs. Whereas I would be amazed if anyone risked not getting hired/losing their jobs for subscibing to only fans as a consumer - the punishment only goes one way. Same as always.
Exactly. This is another reason why women are being naive by thinking that they control the sex work industry or that being a sex worker gives you power over men. Men control the industry and they always will. Women as a class will always be the ones who bare all the risks associated with sex work, while men as a class only ever benefit.
WinterIsGone · 23/05/2021 11:53

Agree, and on the other hand what's driving it? Sad, pathetic, lonely, worthless men who have to pay to get a woman to talk to them.
I think that's a bit of a misnomer. Many of these awful men are just average, and are married or have girlfriends, have plenty of friends, and hold down normal jobs. You can't tell by looking on the surface what kind of a person someone is underneath. It's totally pervasive in society.

MrsMackesy · 24/05/2021 09:15

@Grellbunt

I don't agree with it and if that makes me "judgy" I really don't care.

If it affects wider society and in particular my kids then I care and it is my business.

Agreed.

Similar to the dreaded Kardashians and their ilk, it adds to the pornification of society, especially in the impressionable and forming minds, opinions and self-images of our children and young people - our boys as well as our girls.

MrsMackesy · 24/05/2021 10:40

@Ussernayme

Do you know what pisses me off no end? That many women campaigned for the end of lads mags and page 3, presumably hoping that the next generation of girls would grow up without having to encounter images of scantily clad women displaying themselves for men every time they went into a shop. Only for other women to insist on exploiting themselves on bloody sites like Only Fans. I absolutely hate the normalisation of pornographic images and the insistence that if it's women doing it then it's OK. Well, it still isn't OK for the young women who are growing up in a society that insists that something like Only Fans is a legitimate choice. I despair, thank god I'm old enough to have had those formative years without the internet as it is now.
And now the images and worse are being beamed directly in - and sadly sometimes out - of primary and secondary school pupils' bedrooms via phones and other tech alongside their homework.

We can't just turn the magazines and newspapers over in the newsagent and supermarket or avoid the one sleazy sex shop in a run down part of town anymore to protect our children and young adults from thinking this is the acceptable norm.

MrsMackesy · 24/05/2021 10:46

Returning to the thread today and reading through it, there is some merde being spouted. It is almost as if some posters are trying to normalise and recruit to OnlyFans via Mumsnet. Are you up for that, Justine and MNHQ? I think some posters need to be checked out.

MrsMackesy · 24/05/2021 11:35

I recommend taking a look at the current OnlyFans related thread in AIBU, 'Has Dubai become a coded word on the Internet for prostitution?'

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NeedATan · 24/05/2021 12:23

How many women on OF have chosen to do that rather than get a different job? How many had the option to, say, work in retail (which seems to be the pits if you listen to teenagers and young people), or hospitality, but chose to go down the OF route because it gave them more flexibility, less 'hassle', and possibly the ability to earn more? I have no idea whether women turn to OF only when they have tried every single other route but I'd be surprised if a large chunk isn't there of their free will and would rather do that than earn money some other way.

debbrianna · 24/05/2021 13:36

I think you were looking in the wrong place towards the end of lads mags. By that time all of those images had moved on to tumblr. Tumblr had to clean up its acts and this probably contributed to the growth of Onlyfans. Not just lockdown.

debbrianna · 24/05/2021 13:37

@debbrianna

I think you were looking in the wrong place towards the end of lads mags. By that time all of those images had moved on to tumblr. Tumblr had to clean up its acts and this probably contributed to the growth of Onlyfans. Not just lockdown.
I was quoting somone above re-lads mag
debbrianna · 24/05/2021 13:46

@Smurfsarethefuture

I can see how there's a market though — I was on University Challenge, and you'd be surprised (or maybe not) how many men commented on my voice and appearance on Twitter/Facebook/Youtube. When somebody said they'd pay to hear me read the phonebook, I'm pretty sure it was hyperbole, but perhaps I could have paid off my student loan doing that! It's very much the thin end of the wedge though, I know.

Have you thought about reading audio books?

@debbrianna

Is it the same in some way? Exploiting women ? I cant work it out

Not really. Some people just have more pleasant voices. I have recieved calls at work and Some people you can't bear the sound off and others can say anything and they won't annoy you. It will just encourage more audio book listening. Nothing todo with onlyfans here.
apalledandshocked · 24/05/2021 17:05

@NeedATan

How many women on OF have chosen to do that rather than get a different job? How many had the option to, say, work in retail (which seems to be the pits if you listen to teenagers and young people), or hospitality, but chose to go down the OF route because it gave them more flexibility, less 'hassle', and possibly the ability to earn more? I have no idea whether women turn to OF only when they have tried every single other route but I'd be surprised if a large chunk isn't there of their free will and would rather do that than earn money some other way.
But this is where the link to MLM, ponzi schemes, all sorts of other scams come in... Yes - it is made to seem a lot more attractive than other jobs. The amount of money you can make is exagerated, what you have to do is downplayed. The costs (emotional, time, future consequences) are also massively downplayed - including by some on here. I believe in free will. But if anyone pointing out there are downsides is labelled as "anti-woman", "slut-shaming", "jealous" then how can there be an informed choice?
NeedATan · 24/05/2021 17:16

On a 'related' note, employers are likely to not take too well to a candidate they may find on OF. But by the same token they won't think too highly of someone who posts dubious stuff on their social media feeds. So yes, OF may hinder career opportunities but some people are already doing that by posting controversial stuff on their feeds.

CardinalLolzy · 24/05/2021 19:26

@NeedATan

On a 'related' note, employers are likely to not take too well to a candidate they may find on OF. But by the same token they won't think too highly of someone who posts dubious stuff on their social media feeds. So yes, OF may hinder career opportunities but some people are already doing that by posting controversial stuff on their feeds.
How does any employer know who is posting? Do they carry out any verification that any name displayed publicly is the genuine name of the person posting (and the correct one, if it's a common name?
NeedATan · 24/05/2021 20:19

@CardinalLolzy I mean on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc...

CardinalLolzy · 24/05/2021 22:03

[quote NeedATan]@CardinalLolzy I mean on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc...[/quote]
Yes, I understand what social media is.
If you're an employer and get an application from, say, Peter Hughes, and you find a racist Peter Hughes on Twitter, does that inform your hiring choice?

NeedATan · 25/05/2021 10:51

@CardinalLolzy if I knew for a fact that that is the same Peter Hughes I'm interviewing, yes, that would affect my decision.

CardinalLolzy · 25/05/2021 11:30

[quote NeedATan]@CardinalLolzy if I knew for a fact that that is the same Peter Hughes I'm interviewing, yes, that would affect my decision.[/quote]
Right, so my question was how do you know?

NeedATan · 25/05/2021 16:01

If the feed has been around for a long time, there are posts about the person, their friends and family, that kind of thing. If in doubt you'd ignore it of course. But what percentage of long-standing, regularly updated social media profiles of 'normal' people are fake?

User135644 · 25/05/2021 17:39

@NeedATan

How many women on OF have chosen to do that rather than get a different job? How many had the option to, say, work in retail (which seems to be the pits if you listen to teenagers and young people), or hospitality, but chose to go down the OF route because it gave them more flexibility, less 'hassle', and possibly the ability to earn more? I have no idea whether women turn to OF only when they have tried every single other route but I'd be surprised if a large chunk isn't there of their free will and would rather do that than earn money some other way.
Millions of women are taking the opportunity to earn a living/top up their income by sitting on their arse all day, just as millions of men would if there were enough losers around to want to pay for their photos.
MrsMackesy · 25/05/2021 18:59

It's amazing how much you can get to know about a person when you put the jigsaw pieces together of all their different online platforms and records. Sometimes this method is used by potential employers, by the police and by stalkers.

Poppynit · 25/05/2021 20:28

My sister makes between 3-3.5k a month by selling pictures of her hands and feet on OnlyFans!

I’m certainly not bitter that I inherited stubby oversized toddler hands and trotters from my father.

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