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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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Bahhhhhumbug · 19/05/2021 01:34

New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.

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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.

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OP posts:
PinkSatinMoon · 19/05/2021 18:09

@wewereliars

You being abusive OP in subjecting your neighbour to completely unnecessary noise nuisance that she has told you is bothering her.

Behave 😂🤣

daisypond · 19/05/2021 18:11

I have the radio on most of the day. I work from home too. And TV goes on in the evening when radio goes off. Do all these posters objecting to the radio never put on their radio or TV?

wewereliars · 19/05/2021 18:12

Yes having your life wrecked by other people's selfishness is hilarious

PinkSatinMoon · 19/05/2021 18:15

@wewereliars

Yes having your life wrecked by other people's selfishness is hilarious

It's not abusive, you are undermining the real victims of Abuse by chucking it around for a neighbour having a radio on.

Shameful to even compare them.

DynamoKev · 19/05/2021 18:16

[quote Bahhhhhumbug]@littlepatilou
Yet you are telling people you are NOT being unreasonable, and everyone who says you are is 'wrong!' confused. What is the point in posting for views and opinions, and then telling everyone who disagrees with you that they're wrong, and you are right?

Where on earth am l saying any of that and less than two thirds is hardly 'most' people. Over a third agree with me, getting on for 40% last time l looked. Hardly a negligible number of views to be dismissed.
None of my posts have been about who's wrong and who's right just mainly me explaining layout of my house, why l can't do certain things suggested and why l have done certain things.... and oh... defending myself against some of the vitriol on this thread where l have been called this that and the other. That's not people disagreeing with someone that's abuse and hell will freeze over before l stop defending myself against that.[/quote]
and less than two thirds is hardly 'most' people
What do you think "most" means? Would you prefer "The Majority"?

osbertthesyrianhamster · 19/05/2021 18:17

Why'd you start the thread then? You have no intention of turning off the fucking radio.

Twoforthree · 19/05/2021 18:22

My bum is sore from sitting in the fence for this one. I can see both sides.

wewereliars · 19/05/2021 18:24

There are diffenet types abuse, for the benefit of the hard of thinking.

PinkSatinMoon · 19/05/2021 18:28

@wewereliars

There are diffenet types abuse, for the benefit of the hard of thinking.
I'll say it again...

It's not abusive, you are undermining the real victims of Abuse by chucking it around for a neighbour having a radio on.

Shameful to even compare them.

BusyLizzie61 · 19/05/2021 18:28

@Bahhhhhumbug

Previous neighbours were lying in bed next door though every night and weren't backward in coming forwards if there was a problem as lve said
Matters not, she is inconvenienced.

I too do the radio and light thing. However I'd never do this in an echoey kitchen. Also if it has any of those Alexa type announcements, they always appear to be a lot louder than the set volume.

For her to know you have it on in the first place, she must have heard it!

Can you not move the radio to a carpeted room?

I also wouldn't expect it to be a real deterrent if people know the house hasn't got people coming in and out regularly.

VillanellesOrangeCoat · 19/05/2021 18:32

@Bahhhhhumbug

More than a third of people think lANBU hardly 'Everyone' Should l and the rest of the third plus just agree with the majority and abandon our views on it.... like a mob rule type policy?

Mob rule or democracy?! Brexit was won on a slimmer margin Grin

FantasticButtocks · 19/05/2021 18:50

The neighbour is working. She works from home and has mentioned that to op a couple of times. So perhaps the daytime slots are actually worse for her than the late ones. Because trying to work and having this unnecessary and regular disturbance probably makes that difficult.

littlepattilou · 19/05/2021 19:02

We're all wasting our time on here. The OP is determined that she is right and anyone who disagrees with her is wrong.

And the fact that she thinks almost 63% of the posters voting isn't 'most people' is hilarious.

And saying 'I have had 'aggressive' posts disagreeing with me, and 'nice' ones agreeing with me' is priceless.

So people agreeing with her are sooooo lovely, and the ones who disagree with her are mean bitches. This is such a classic 'bad loser' reaction. Grin

I haven't seen such an argumentative, childish, obnoxious OP on here for a long time. These self absorbed, me me me, 'I will do what the fuck I want' types are exasperating to the extreme.

I hope the neighbour complains to everyone about the OP, and it gets out that the property is empty, and she gets a load of squatters setting up camp in there...

Mdghteryhddhh · 19/05/2021 19:23

Sorry haven’t read the entire thread but who on earth would a radio be left on in an unoccupied house?

Vivi0 · 19/05/2021 19:31

[quote Bahhhhhumbug]@youshouldseemynewhouse there has been lots of aggressive posts disagreeing with me and several nice ones agreeing with me without being detrimental to the neighbour or me. But yes there have been both sorts in both camps. Some people can't make a point or disagree without being abusive sadly[/quote]
I think people are putting themselves in the position of your neighbour and are reacting accordingly.

You clearly couldn’t give a fuck as otherwise you would have just switched the radio off. Switching it off doesn’t affect you in any way.

I honestly can’t wrap my head around why you won’t just switch it off?

Bahhhhhumbug · 19/05/2021 19:32

@Littlepatilou Hahaha, that'd be great for the new neighbour that your so keen to defend.
You just don't know how to debate or argue without getting personal or nasty do you?
I haven't said all those who agree with me are lovely and those that don't are awful at all and well you know it. Did you forget to add the next bit in your cutting and pasting where l said But yes there have been both sorts in both camps Also that was in defence to a statement by a previous poster that the third or so that agreed with me all seemed to have a 'sod you l'll do what l want attitude' . I was just pointing out that the opposite also occurred.

OP posts:
Mdghteryhddhh · 19/05/2021 19:35

Completely unhinged to be so obsessed with the idea of a break in to run a radio intermittently all day, especially when there already is an alarm, and therefore extremely unlikely to be convinced by any reasonable views. Feel sorry for your neighbour, hopefully someone more reasonable, who has some sense of give and take, buys your place.

Divineswirls · 19/05/2021 19:36

Just turn it off OP

RunningFromInsanity · 19/05/2021 19:42

Literally this. She can hear it. YABU

TrentonFulch · 19/05/2021 19:46

I know I'm missing the point of the thread (sorry!) but if the radio is on intermittently, how does it make the house more secure during those times it's off? And if there's no difference, then why not switch it off altogether? I don't know your area and I don't know what advice is around to do with home security there so apologies if they're daft questions.

CokeDrinker · 19/05/2021 19:47

YANBU that new neighbour really is not backward coming forward for a newbie is she? She sounds obsessed. If you can't clearly hear the radio from her place then she must be deliberately listening for it outside her door and is causing trouble. Tell her you've never had any problems with any of the neighbours before and as it's a terraced house, she chose to move here and as far as you're concerned, you've done all you can and can't do any more. Leave it at that.

Merchymor · 19/05/2021 19:48

@CokeDrinker

YANBU that new neighbour really is not backward coming forward for a newbie is she? She sounds obsessed. If you can't clearly hear the radio from her place then she must be deliberately listening for it outside her door and is causing trouble. Tell her you've never had any problems with any of the neighbours before and as it's a terraced house, she chose to move here and as far as you're concerned, you've done all you can and can't do any more. Leave it at that.
We'll to be fair OP hasn't quite 'done all that she can'. She could actually TURN IT OFF!! Grin
FrozenVag · 19/05/2021 19:58

Turn it off

Totally pointless

Babygotblueyes · 19/05/2021 19:58

Why do you have a radio on in an empty house? And 11pm is way too late. Terraced houses are weird sometimes - something that seems ok volume-wise in your house can sound really different next door. You are being very unreasonable. And it is not unusual to want the phone number of the person who owns the house next door in case of emergency.

MyCatHatesEverybody · 19/05/2021 20:00

I wonder what protects the house during the allegedly long gaps in the daytime when the radio's not on?

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