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AIBU?

Package stolen? Help!

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foxyroxyyy · 14/05/2021 09:45

My DH ordered from an auctioneer site and the item has been delivered to our old address by mistake.

DPD sent us a picture of the person receiving the delivery and as we don't have contact details he popped round yesterday to pick it up. No answer so left a note.

Still haven't heard anything. DPD can't do anything. Auctioneer site can't do anything unless she agrees a time to be home so it can be picked up.

Hubby is worried she has decided to keep the item.

AIBU to say we know where she lives and that she has it so she wouldn't be silly enough to steal it? It's worth some money but not close to life changing amounts. And it's the type of item only certain people will like.
Wise mumsnetters, is DH right, should we be panicked?

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mam0918 · 26/05/2021 11:23

@Thatisnotwhatisaid

I honestly wouldn't accept a package in someone else's name that was for my address though! Strange!

I have been given parcels for neighbours and even people on completely different streets before without realising. I order quite a lot online so it isn’t out of the ordinary for me to get parcels hence me not realising the parcels are for someone else until I’ve accepted it. I even opened one for the NDN once because it was handed to me in a pile of other parcels that were for me. Luckily nothing embarrassing but I felt embarrassed explaining!

Anyway, I wouldn’t jump into accusing this woman of theft. Your DH cocked up with the address so it’s ultimately his fault really. Hopefully she contacts you soon.

This, there is a house a few streets away the has the same number and similar post code and street name (made up example: 5 Thornley street, SE1 7PA & 5 Throne Lea road, SE1 7PC) - sat nav brings deliveries to the general area and because my house is more visable from the main road they usually seem to end up here.

We are forever getting each others packages but at first it took me a while to learn and I would just accept what was handed to me assuming it would be for me but now I have to ask if its definately for me before accepting because things get mixed up regularly.

Theres also another house with the same number and street name but in the next town over and I have recieved their letters before too.

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KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2021 11:27

And it's unnecessarily 'sneaky' (for want of a better word).

How is it sneaky? It is showing that you know for certain she has the package and her faux ignorance isn't fooling anyone.

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mam0918 · 26/05/2021 11:36

@KatherineJaneway

And it's unnecessarily 'sneaky' (for want of a better word).

How is it sneaky?

It is showing that you know for certain she has the package and her faux ignorance isn't fooling anyone.

You do know she doesnt have to inform a nosey neighbor of anything going on in her home - there is no law that says you cant ignore a neighbors interogation.

If my new neighbor I didnt know started asking about my deliveries (and I hadnt taken a package in for them delierately) then I would change the subject and ignore it too and think them damn rude for sticking their nose in my private business.

No one in the right mind would hand it over to the neighbor who isnt the owner of the package. The lady who accepted it is known and people are already coming after her so if she hands it to neighbor and neighbor steals or loses it it the innocent woman who accept the package that will be liable - it has NOTHING to do with the neighbor.

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diddl · 26/05/2021 11:36

@foxyroxyyy

They haven't sent it back to the auctioneers not yet anyway.

One of our old neighbours has knocked for us a couple of times but she hasn't opened the door. DH is quite angsty about the whole thing

Why would they send it back to the auctioneers?

Perhaps contact the auctioneers & ask them to fetch it?

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KaptainKaveman · 26/05/2021 11:57

I just want to know what this item is, as does everyone else.

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mumsiedarlingrevolta · 26/05/2021 12:01

Just checking back in to see if there is an update @foxyroxyyy ??

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user1471541711 · 26/05/2021 12:11

So did you get your package?

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RLOU30 · 26/05/2021 12:23

To the last few posters.. OP updated at 10am this morning with a sad face so I don’t think she has the package yet.

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burnoutbabe · 26/05/2021 12:39

have you actually written a polite letter, explaining the whole matter and given various ways to contact you to arrange collection? (ie email, text, phone, option of giving it to the neighbour to pass onto you)

send that and give a week for them to respond before getting police involved. She needs to deny to you that she has it before you take that next step.

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GreyhoundG1rl · 26/05/2021 12:47

Perhaps contact the auctioneers & ask them to fetch it?
Why would they do that when they sent it quite correctly (from their perspective) to the address they'd been given?

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Ednadidit · 26/05/2021 12:48

The previous owner of my house did this - sent a parcel to our house which was delivered to the garden as we weren’t in. She accused us of stealing it. Never did anything nice for her again. We ignored all of her speeding tickets 🙂

At least you won’t make the same mistake twice, but this really won’t be at the top of her agenda like it is for you 🤷🏻‍♀️

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SoupDragon · 26/05/2021 12:57

It is theft now given the delivery photo proves she accepted it and she has denied all knowledge of it.

A person commits an offence if, intending to act to a person's detriment and without reasonable excuse, he opens a postal packet which he knows or reasonably suspects has been incorrectly delivered to him.

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MsSquiz · 26/05/2021 12:59

@Ednadidit

The previous owner of my house did this - sent a parcel to our house which was delivered to the garden as we weren’t in. She accused us of stealing it. Never did anything nice for her again. We ignored all of her speeding tickets 🙂

At least you won’t make the same mistake twice, but this really won’t be at the top of her agenda like it is for you 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Ednadidit you do realise the circumstances are completely different?!

The OP has a photo as evidence that she accepted the parcel 2 weeks ago and hasn't even bothered to contact the OP's husband to arrange a convenient time for them to collect it, nor has she contacted the company who delivered it to make them aware she has it "in error" that makes it theft!

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diddl · 26/05/2021 13:01

@GreyhoundG1rl

Perhaps contact the auctioneers & ask them to fetch it?
Why would they do that when they sent it quite correctly (from their perspective) to the address they'd been given?

Perhaps there's no reason that they should.

As there's no reason that the householder shoould send it back to the auctioneer or forward it on to Op.

It's unfortunate if Op hasn't been able to get in touch, but there's no reason why anyone else should be involved in sorting ot Op's husband's mistake either.

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KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2021 13:03

You do know she doesnt have to inform a nosey neighbor of anything going on in her home - there is no law that says you cant ignore a neighbors interogation.

If my new neighbor I didnt know started asking about my deliveries (and I hadnt taken a package in for them delierately) then I would change the subject and ignore it too and think them damn rude for sticking their nose in my private business.*

I think I found the woman who took in your package OP

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TakeYourFinalPosition · 26/05/2021 13:19

Oh god I did this once, years ago. With a piece of tech, worth a few hundred but a bit niche.

The new people who lived at my house never answered; the police visited but couldn't retrieve the parcel (they didn't explain why) and said that despite the evidence that it had been delivered there, including a photograph and the tracking info from the van, it wasn't theft as it hadn't been incorrectly delivered - it was delivered to the address on the label, which I'd forgotten to update.

I was advised that I could try and take civil action but I didn't, I wrote it off as a stupid mistake.

7 months later, it arrived at my new address... I have no idea how. It didn't seem to have been used. Baffling.

I hope it takes you less time to get yours back; or that the police are more helpful if you choose to get them involved!

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Mydarlingmyhamburger · 26/05/2021 13:26

No joy then op?

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Teapotsandtablecloths · 26/05/2021 13:43

You could always check local pawn shops or Facebook marketplace. See if its being sold anywhere

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jessycake · 26/05/2021 14:11

I wonder if she opened it and is now in an awkward dilemma , she didn't expect anyone to come asking for it , so will plead ignorance .

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CrazyCatsAndKittens · 26/05/2021 14:13

Hubby is super stressed about the whole thing.

it's crap but ultimately it's just a thing, sentimental or not. There isn't much you can do about it, I don't think.

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skirk64 · 26/05/2021 14:13

@SoupDragon

It is theft now given the delivery photo proves she accepted it and she has denied all knowledge of it.

A person commits an offence if, intending to act to a person's detriment and without reasonable excuse, he opens a postal packet which he knows or reasonably suspects has been incorrectly delivered to him.

We don't know that the person has opened the package though. Receiving a parcel and not replying to strangers asking about it isn't theft. That's why I said a few days ago that the way to resolve this is to get the sender to write asking for it back, the recipient shouldn't give it to anyone else and doesn't have to discuss it with neighbours.

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GroovyClementine · 26/05/2021 14:30

There are an awful lot of posters being shitty to the OP.

Bet they'd change their tune if an error caused hundreds of pounds worth of their purchases to end up in the house of someone who denied ever seeing them.

Is easy to pass judgement when it isn't your money and/or property at stake.

Mistakes happen. One should have the right to correct them where possible, so long as no one is harmed in the process.

No one should feel entitled to keep a parcel that is not meant for them because someone else "fucked up" an address change.

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intheenddoesitreallymatter · 26/05/2021 14:39

Try BT phone book?

If not all you can do is wait until she calls. I wouldn't advise rushing back today.

I would advise accusing her of theft even less. You husband is the numpty in this scenario. She may be away. Do you have any friends in the street who could let you know if she is in?

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Chumleymouse · 26/05/2021 14:40

You just need to leave her a note saying you have photographic evidence of her receiving the parcel if it is not returned the police will be involved. That will be enough to give her sleepless nights and she’ll soon send it . If dad have a photo of her she hasn’t got a leg to stand on 😀

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Chumleymouse · 26/05/2021 14:40

Dpd

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