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AIBU?

Package stolen? Help!

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foxyroxyyy · 14/05/2021 09:45

My DH ordered from an auctioneer site and the item has been delivered to our old address by mistake.

DPD sent us a picture of the person receiving the delivery and as we don't have contact details he popped round yesterday to pick it up. No answer so left a note.

Still haven't heard anything. DPD can't do anything. Auctioneer site can't do anything unless she agrees a time to be home so it can be picked up.

Hubby is worried she has decided to keep the item.

AIBU to say we know where she lives and that she has it so she wouldn't be silly enough to steal it? It's worth some money but not close to life changing amounts. And it's the type of item only certain people will like.
Wise mumsnetters, is DH right, should we be panicked?

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GreyhoundG1rl · 22/05/2021 20:36

The auctioneer is happy to get involved, despite having posted it to the address he was given? That's quite a position to take...
You could be the one attempting to steal it, as far as he knows 🤔

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katy1213 · 22/05/2021 20:46

This probably isn't a huge priority to the person who has taken it in.

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Beautiful3 · 22/05/2021 20:53

Oh no, I was hoping that you had it back by now. Thats awful, what a horrible woman.

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Hardertobreathe · 22/05/2021 20:59

@sbhydrogen

Not read the whole thread, but can you ask your old neighbour(s) to pop round and collect it? At least then you'd know it was safe with them, and can more easily arrange a time to pick it up.

If you don’t want to read the whole thread just click ‘see all’ at the bottom of op’s post then you will just see all the responses posted by the OP.
A neighbour has knocked, twice.

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foxyroxyyy · 26/05/2021 10:00

@GreyhoundG1rl

The auctioneer is happy to get involved, despite having posted it to the address he was given? That's quite a position to take...
You could be the one attempting to steal it, as far as he knows 🤔

My hubby has provided them with copies of his ID & letters from our current and previous address.

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foxyroxyyy · 26/05/2021 10:00

@Beautiful3

Oh no, I was hoping that you had it back by now. Thats awful, what a horrible woman.

@Beautiful3

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IntermittentParps · 26/05/2021 10:06

Call non-emergency police for advice.
And send a letter to this woman telling her you're involving the police.

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LagunaBubbles · 26/05/2021 10:08

Hope you get it back

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/05/2021 10:14

It may not be a priority for the person who took it in.

10 days of keeping something that you are well aware doesn’t belong to you though?

Shameful.

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IntermittentParps · 26/05/2021 10:19

It may not be a priority for the person who took it in.
No, but she's been asked about it by another neighbour and flatly denied knowing about it.
This must be 'intent to deprive' aka theft.
The OP needs to speak to the police.

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KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2021 10:33

One of old neighbours has seen her and she said she didn't know what he was on about!!

Sounds like she's decided to keep it and is playing ignorant. Maybe print out the photo of her receiving it and post it through her door?

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IntermittentParps · 26/05/2021 10:36

Maybe print out the photo of her receiving it and post it through her door?

She can ignore/throw out a picture posted through the door. And it's unnecessarily 'sneaky' (for want of a better word).

I think the OP should just make clear that she has a photo of her receiving it and say she's involving the police.

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Hardertobreathe · 26/05/2021 10:38

I would love to know what this item is as it’s worth stealing.

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LindaEllen · 26/05/2021 10:50

I once had a similar situation (we'd taken a package in for someone) and he came round hammering on the door yelling through the letterbox. I opened it and he started having a go at me saying I had to hand his property over now or he would call the police. He accused me of not answering the door when I was clearly in, as he called round for his package after work.

I'd been in the garden - where we don't hear the door.

There are lots of reasons people don't hear the door, and the immediate answer you come to really shouldn't be that they've stolen your package.

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IntermittentParps · 26/05/2021 10:53

There are lots of reasons people don't hear the door, and the immediate answer you come to really shouldn't be that they've stolen your package.
Sure, but now she's been asked about it by another neighbour and denied knowing about it.

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davidrosejumper · 26/05/2021 10:54

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mam0918 · 26/05/2021 10:57

I think your being pretty rude... you inconvenianced the woman and are now mad at her because shes not jumping through your hoops.

Shes allowed to go out - she likely has a job, responsabilities or a life... it not her job to sit home and wait for you to come collect stuff.

As for notes, we have parking at the back so exit at the rear of the house, I rarely get post but the post round comes at 1pm everyday unless I hear the letterbox go I dont even check. If I got post at 1pm or the postman past without delivering then Im not going into my front porch again until the next delivery comes so wouldnt even see a note delivered randomly at an unusual time while Im out.

Even if I did get the note Im assuming you are asking her to phone, Im partially deaf and dispise phones as I rely heavily on lip reading so dont phone people, for some reason people find this an exceptionally hard concept to grasp like they are owed calls... I might text if I got the letter with a mobile number but once again she doesnt owe you your own conveniance when shes the one being put out.

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theemmadilemma · 26/05/2021 10:58

I'm sorry you haven't had it back yet.

To be fair it's not always clear a parcel is for someone else. I've had several shoved at me recently only to close the door and find out it's actually for a neighbour!

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Ohhyeahright · 26/05/2021 11:03

I’d take the day off and wait at her house, honestly.

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TinyTear · 26/05/2021 11:11

for all the people saying it never happens and it's not theft, a few years back husband lived in

flat 5, bread building, toast street...

a replacement toaster (for a faulty item) was send THREE times to

5, toast street

and the people there accepted it EACH time

Husband ended up getting them to send it to work - but the issue was also the company sending stuff to the wrong address - but husband went to number 5 and asked for it directly and they always pretended they didn't know what he was talking about...

(it was a poncy £50 toaster, hence they probably kept them for sale)

so OP, i can imagine they are now selling your item on ebay or something... maybe check??

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longtompot · 26/05/2021 11:16

We moved to our current address in the Feb of the year, and I made a huge Christmas present order in the November from Boots to be delivered. Just afterwards I thought, oh what address is it going to, to discover it was going to our previous one! I looked all over Boots website and found it was too late to change the delivery details. I contacted Boots and they said if the people return it then Boots can resend it on to us.
I sent a letter to my old address explaining my mistake and asking if they could return the parcel. I enclosed my mobile number which thankfully they contacted me on and told me we had some post there, despite doing redirection. They returned the parcel and I got it sent to my new address. They also let me come round to pick up our post.
The panic was awful when I realised what I'd done. I didn't know what the new tenants would do, if they would keep the items, it had several electric toothbrushes in it amongst other things.
I would be inclined to post a letter to your previous address explaining what has happened and asking if it would be ok for you to come over and collect the item. Add a mobile number so they can get in touch with you. Good luck!

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FatCatThinCat · 26/05/2021 11:16

I think you need to speak to the police about how to proceed. She's taken your item and it looks like she has no intention of returning it.

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RaspberryCoulis · 26/05/2021 11:17

@viques

It hasn’t been delivered to your old house by mistake. It has been delivered to your old house because that is the address they had been given to deliver it to.

The mistake is yours, not the auctioneers, not the delivery people or the innocent woman who is now being accused of theft.

Exactly!

Someone has given them the wrong address, they haven't just stuck a pin in the phone book at random. This is YOUR cock up. Not theirs.

And as for the overdramatic "package has been STOLEN" bollocks, no it hasn't. We get all sorts of deliveries to this house, I sign and accept everything even if I don't know what it is as chances are DD has bought clothes on Shein or DS has ordered some game.

Just because the person who is in the house wasn't in when someone called round does not mean they have stolen your package. There could be thousands of reasons why she hasn't responded yet.

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HeidiHoNeighbour · 26/05/2021 11:17

My house often feels like a sorting office.
Various deliveries arrive in various names but all for my address.
I let some international student friends of my daughter use my address to ensure safe delivery from ‘home’

If you asked for a package delivered to my house to be handed over, I’d be asking for your ID and be giving you a very long mum lecture on making sure you do all address admin when moving.
Also, if you’d put a note through my door it would likely be scooped up with various pizza/handyman/driveway leaflets and recycled.

Give her a break!
You fucked up, not her.
You should be incredibly apologetic not accusing her of theft.

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TrickyD · 26/05/2021 11:20

It was rude of the poster to point out your misuse of ‘brought’.

But not as rude as labelling someone as a thief with minimal evidence.

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