Am curious .. do have any unreasonable bias ? ? ? . .. I know that I do and I am not proud😂

[Tiddleypoms]

I think that we all try to be reasonable and non judgemental. However, I do think we can be labelling and bias at times. I was just discussing in private,with dh , my own pet peeve. He was quite taken aback .. he never judges , is mostly fair . Its made me wonder if many of us have quiet little unreasonable ( and are aware of ) thoughts and judgements .. ?! Meant to be light hearted.😂

@RemyMorgan

I am judging the woman sat next to me in the hair salon right this second for loudly playing videos on her phone with no headphones, thereby subjecting the rest of us here who are relaxing quietly to whatever nonsense that she's into!

There is a nice quiet radio playing, a bit of gentle chatter, people are chilling and getting their hair done and Doris over there is totally oblivious!!

Oh no - is Doris now a name for a type of person (a la Karen)....

It's my nickname!!

(I used to - long ago - resemble Doris Day; but equally, worked at an Aminal Charity where we had a resident pig, also known as Doris - so make of that what you will.....)

Also, have a half-sister named Karen, so the whole "Karen"- thing bothers me as well..... (even though I never see her- and she is definitely NOT a "Karen" Karen....)

Sympathies re. the disturbance though - it's so selfish. The salon should have a rule

I mean "revert" vs "reply" grin
(I'm not so dumb - see name - that I need the "their/they're" misuse explaining to me)

It just doesn't work for me.....
Let alone, how differently they are generally used;
"revert to" - "to reply"

But no, I would not actually write it the way you say you do ocaasionally- as a spelling geek, why would you? especially as they actually mean different things. I always "excuse" it whe typed for the reasons I have said regarding meathod of input and autofill etc.

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Oh I see!

I don't deliberately write 'they're' instead of 'their', it's just a very rare brain fart.

'Please revert with any comments' is an example.

I often make judgements but I am also very flexible in my judgment. I have found some of the best people are often those I would have attached a negative judgement towards initially.

My husband and I, are professionals, high earners, and I nice cars on the the drive. We live in a small new development and two of the houses were bought by the housing association. One of the famines who live opposite us are what I initially would have described as a-bit rough, are lovely. A single mum, with three grown up sons. I can often smell weed coming from their back garden, they have people coming and going and are up all hours. One of the sons has recently been to prison. Initially I was horrid, and spent the first year telling husband we needed to move but they are honestly my favourite neighbours now. I have a chat with them most days. They are a pleasure to live near (other than the smell of weed).

Terrible spelling on phone... judge away :)

@DaisyDreaming

I judge those who have to point out peoples gramma! I understand if you’re reading an essay but not when it’s a random forum post.

Yes, I agree - as I have said earlier. It is in the same way that some people will i real life (looking you Father & Stepmother - who will instantly criticise the way you are speaking, the tone, or not using RP, or have some other complaint) immediately telling you to lower your voice or not swear (moi?) -- it instantly dilutes or even cancels out what you are saying.

Same with remarks solely about grammar or spelling "mistakes" without actually fully engaging with the post at all!

So much online - and real-life - rudeness, sel-centredness and dismissiveness these days.

I guess that's something I am judgmental about.

I was brought up with the not eating in the street thing. It was passed down, my Mum gets twitchy about it, because she can hear what her Mother would have said about it 🤣

Food is to be eaten sitting down with a knife and fork. Obviously we have relaxed the rules slightly over the decades, when my grandmother first went into a McDonald's she couldn't have anything to eat because there was no cutlery! But I absolutely couldn't buy a hot sausage roll from Greggs and eat it walking down the street. I have to sit on a bench if I buy an ice cream!!!!!

Picnics are allowed though 🤷

@mainsfed

I mean "revert" vs "reply" grin (I'm not so dumb - see name - that I need the "their/they're" misuse explaining to me)

It just doesn't work for me.....
Let alone, how differently they are generally used;
"revert to" - "to reply"

But no, I would not actually write it the way you say you do ocaasionally- as a spelling geek, why would you? especially as they actually mean different things. I always "excuse" it whe typed for the reasons I have said regarding meathod of input and autofill etc.

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Oh I see!

I don't deliberately write 'they're' instead of 'their', it's just a very rare brain fart.

'Please revert with any comments' is an example.

Well my own post - quoted here - is a mess of mistakes, but they are all typoops and spellos. Brain farts can happen - no judgement (even on this thread), I understand.
I suppose that it is when the wrong words are used when writing by hand that it is possibly incorrect usage.

"Please revert with any comments" -
That sentence would simply not compute in my brain, and I would think it was an autofill error, or that the sender did not have English as a first language.

It only makes sense in the sentence; something such as "please revert" - (I know this isn't quite right) the "R" of RSVP, standing for "revert" (ez?).
Sets my teeth on edge I'm afraid

If any OP writes the words "I would of" rather than the correct "I would have" or "I would've", I immediately go on to the next thread.

I get an instant image in my head of what they probably look like, what their home is like, their DCs, friends etc.

It makes me literally spiral off unnecessarily in a way no other grammatical mistake does for some reason!

@Lexilooo

I was brought up with the not eating in the street thing. It was passed down, my Mum gets twitchy about it, because she can hear what her Mother would have said about it 🤣

Food is to be eaten sitting down with a knife and fork. Obviously we have relaxed the rules slightly over the decades, when my grandmother first went into a McDonald's she couldn't have anything to eat because there was no cutlery! But I absolutely couldn't buy a hot sausage roll from Greggs and eat it walking down the street. I have to sit on a bench if I buy an ice cream!!!!!

Picnics are allowed though 🤷

I agree with your Mum - and being brought up by Grandparents, it would have been absolutely not allowed during my childhood. They were even more "old-fashioned" (born 1908 and 1912) - and now I am too.

Also - I do not see the enjoyment of eating and walking. (Full disclosure though - have some ED tendencies...) I personally want to enjoy - and savour - my food; and for that food to be worth eatiing.

With a Greggs roll - neither of those things would apply.

That said - as a daily bike rider, I love to punctuate my rides with a wee picnic or a sit on a bench with a Greggs latte. I would even have risked the bench-police during lockdown - but there weren;t any around these parts.

Oh, and also, now that every bench you might see is occupied, I actually bought a lightweight folding stool so that I can sit by the canal for my snack (fuel stop!) without getting a damp bum on the ground.

Someone pointed out to me that most people think of other with bad teeth as a bit stupid and or poor which is awful but I have before. No idea why but now I'm aware of that bias I do check myself

People who call me hun or call anyone hun.

@DaisyDreaming

I judge those who have to point out peoples gramma! I understand if you’re reading an essay but not when it’s a random forum post.

I agree with this. I only pointed it out upthread because a poster had judged the OP's punctuation but had made a spelling mistake of her own! Nobody's perfect.

I judge baby names all the time, ones I read in the news or on here, FB etc. and i tell my DH and tell my DM about the poor child with stupid name

@netstaller

Someone pointed out to me that most people think of other with bad teeth as a bit stupid and or poor which is awful but I have before. No idea why but now I'm aware of that bias I do check myself

My teeth are not straight (not allowed braces and very neglected in utero and first couple of years) - and even a bit wonky. Very white (and weak) though. Lived with very poor grandparents through formative years. Then a bad marriage put paid to what he called "vanity".

IQ 140, so not stupid. (Well, in some senses.)

I just do no know how people function with missing front teeth. I admit I have a friend who has this issue. I recently went to the dentist and saw her straight away afterwards, but did not feel able to mention it (a white filling to fill a gap between molars - yes, vanity). She wears a mask all the time, so I do forget. She has very pretty eyes though.

@JanuaryJonez

If any OP writes the words "I would of" rather than the correct "I would have" or "I would've", I immediately go on to the next thread.

I get an instant image in my head of what they probably look like, what their home is like, their DCs, friends etc.

It makes me literally spiral off unnecessarily in a way no other grammatical mistake does for some reason!

For some reason, I half-watched an old epsiode of Birds of a Feather a few weeks ago..... And Pauline Quirke's character said so very very clearly "would OF" - it was not even meant to sound like the "would've" contraction - she clearly enunciated it.

At that time, (the 80's) maybe it was maybe a regional thing?

To me, it sounds ridiculous - and written, is unforgivable (but happens so often)

Morgan12 - kids wearing full footie kit in shops etc is absolutely normal in Liverpool- I don’t look twice at it, they’re supporting their team. It’s how we are here.
What do I judge? Earrings on babies and young children. Appalling. And I once had to leave a travel agents as I couldn’t sit and look at the member of staff who had huge lips - I couldn’t take my eyes off them. It’s shameful to admit it I know, but she looked truly awful and I couldn’t get over the fact that she had paid money to do that to herself.
But it’s far less bad than people spitting on the ground and dropping chewing gum everywhere.

@DumbestBlonde No, Doris is just a random name that I pulled out of the air!

Sorry, everyone named Doris!

@askingrandomsonlinemighthelp

The way protesters dress (e.g. Extinction Rebellion). I usually agree with them. I'm a vegan, leftie, rad fem. But, the way they dress with their cheesecloth layers and green dreadlocks and bells on their toes and mooncup earrings means nobody will listen to them. Say what you have to say without setting up meditation tents and dancing around with tin whistles and rollies. Take your nose ring out, you're on the fucking telly! You don't look like you're talking any sense. You look like you believe in crystals and fairy folk. Nobody will listen to you. It's a pity it's like that, but it IS, so dress the part and leave the dreamcatchers at home for the weekend.

Too right.

@Thewiseoneincognito

I am hugely judgemental instantly. I have done a top to bottom once over of everyone I meet within a few seconds, from unkempt nails, dandruff and dirty shoe analysis.

I believe it’s a gift, others may disagree 😂🤣

Same with people’s homes, my DP will openly tell whoever we’re visiting they’re honoured I accepted the offer of a drink or food because it’s so rare 😂🤣 call me Hyacinth 👀

I was like this when I was a child. Yes, a child. It's a gift.

@majesticallyawkward

I'm super judgey, so many things irritate me it drives my dh crazy! People who say hollibobs, famalam, fillum and the like People who use your/you're, they're/there/their, seen/seeing, been/being incorrectly Anyone out in public in PJs Anyone using or saying 'making memories' or any other twee bullshit Gin/wine lover accessories 'Eee I'm mad me' will automatically make me assume you are lacking in any personality An adult who can't make a phone call Using speakerphone instead of just holding the phone to your ear or using headphones when in public Reality TV, anyone who has been on it or watches it (with the exception of the great American bbq showdown, nailed it and the GB sewing bee) Kids named utterly shit names like Nahveah MLM involvement in anyway Parent who dress their dc in overly frilly/spanish clothes, more points deducted for frilly pram liners with the name embroidered

Hello, are you me???

Another one who dislikes huge clean SUVs badly driven. Parents parking badly and dangerously at schools (see previous)

Bad grammar - but then the teachers who taught my DC weren't great at spelling themselves.

Litterers. I used to litter pick pre Covid. When I saw a young girl drop a cigarette pack I put on my best face and asked her "is this yours?" She said " yes, but you can keep it if you like." I had to laugh.

[quote RemyMorgan]@DumbestBlonde No, Doris is just a random name that I pulled out of the air!

Sorry, everyone named Doris! [/quote]
Haha - Forgiven.

Taking a risk with any names these days.

My real name is one that is often used for "chavs" - one on Silent Witness last night and a definite one on Home & Away a while ago; but it was considered quite unique XXXX years ago, and has quite a lovely origin to the name itself, and rather dramatic origin to the of it use over here from the US.
I still hate it though. Much prefer Doris

It is always always always mispronounced - even by computers!

One of my rules: Never give your children names that they will need to spell out or correct pronunciation for people.
And I do think this is happening now more than it used to - just happened that my Father was ahead of the game.

People who swear at their children in public.People who smoke whilst pushing a pushchair or pram

As an aside, I fitted a dashcam yesterday. My judgement of other people's driving "skills" will now increase by 100% - and I was already very very judgemental about driving.
Another side note - I think my next door neighbour passed his test today (yes, nosey me), he can now at last go out driving alone without L plate. Oh wait

People with fat dogs. It's not cute to feed them human junk food and I really judge people that have dogs that they don't walk enough.