Female weekend hobbies

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Frequently men having "hobbies" that take them away from their family/house at the weekends is frowned upon.
But surely what we should be doing is encouraging women to also maintain a sense of self and own interests away from the family? IMO it's good for the family and for the individual.

So wise MNetters - hit me up with your weekend hobbies where you make your husbands/partners/SO weekend widowers.

Is martyrdom a hobby?

I disappear for hours to play golf. My partner loves the peace and quiet 😁

fairlygoodmother what are silks? I think it is what Fat Amy in Pitch Perfect (?3) was using. "She's turning, she's turning".

If you like a lot of chocolate on your biscuit, join our club!

Never trust a highland, @krustykittens. They're all bastards. Lovable, fantastic, fence-destroying bastards...

Sea glass hunting and beach combing are my thing.
I go on solo trips, including three and four day road trips, and trips with friends for days out.
It's my thing, it is my therapy, exercise, and I always come home feeling good.

CaptainThe95thRifles Oh, mine doesn't just destroy fencing, he takes it with him as he fucks off over the horizon in case it gets lonely. But I luffs him. So much so, it looks like we might be buying another, God help me.

I have relatives who LARP and do SCA, they go off and spend regular weekends being damsels in distress or living in the Middle Ages. Other weekends are spent crafting the stuff they need to do that.

I'm in the reading in bed camp myself

Watching murder mysteries with a cup of tea and a sticky bun.

Horses
Kayaking
Crafting

Don't do it, KrustyKittens. You'll never keep the buggers confined if you give him an ally. They're even more monstrous when they're allowed to form regiments.

(I speak from experience, I bloody love mine too, and they're worth all the fencing in the world. The destruction of which is, I fear, their ultimate goal!)

Rowing. Also running, Nordic skiing and cycling, but I could take the dc with me for those with the right accessories. Luckily the manufacturers of chariot trailers have not come up with a rowing adapter and I mainly single scull at the moment, so I get to do that alone.
Sewing, knitting and music at home.
The dc are happily following in our footsteps (& ski tracks?).
Our house is not very tidy.

Going to football home and away when we are allowed.
Listening to football on the radio .

I've always had my own time to follow my own interests at weekends (as has DH), I enjoy volunteering and am also a church goer (DH isn't) so that takes up Sunday mornings, I love mooching round different towns, when I was younger I was more into swimming ...actually I love a day at a Lido (on my own) .. so yes, I have plenty of things to do at weekends and having time for own interests and hobbies has never been an issue between us.

Outside of lockdown, going to the rugby, getting awfully drunk and playing beer pong.

But surely what we should be doing is encouraging women to also maintain a sense of self and own interests away from the family? IMO it's good for the family and for the individual

In what way are "we" not doing that?

I would LOVE to try wild/open water swimming.

Currently the only thing I do is run - 5k three times a week, I get up at 6am to do it.

When everything opens back up I’d like to do yoga or take up dancing again - I taught Salsa pre-kids but would like to just go back to just dancing, not teaching.

I’d dearly love to start riding again too, I haven’t sat on a horse for over 10 years and I miss it dreadfully. I work in horse racing so I get my horse fix seeing them on a daily basis, but it’s not the same (I don’t have a sufficient death wish to want to ride racehorses!).

Pre-Covid I'd volunteered at museums for years. First with handling tables and kid's activities and most recently at the information desk/as a greeter. I loved it and miss it so much! We used to get private tours with curators and invites to fancy openings as a thank you for volunteering, so it keeps me in touch with the arts even though I no longer work in the arts.

Other than that, I love Yoga and going on long exploratory walks where I live and finding weird events to go to.

I really, really want to try paddleboarding, but I'm irrationally nervous about it!

@Thehop

I would LOVE to try wild/open water swimming.

You should, its amazing. I do it every day.

I don't really have any weekend hobbies now but I do occasionally go out for meals (lunch/brunch/dinner) and nights out with my pals on the weekends. I am about to start a pregnancy exercise class but that will be on a weeknight - my previous exercise class was also a weeknight and the one I went to pre-lockdown I did on my work lunchbreak. Likewise I have a very part time volunteering role but all of that work is virtual atm and in daytime's and weekday evenings not at weekends. I do think it's important to maintain a sense of self and socialise sometimes and do other things just for me but equally I work 4 days a week so I really value my time with my toddler and our family time together with DH and wouldn't want to spend too much weekend time regularly doing my own thing anyway. Likewise DH doesn't do anything regulary on weekends either though so we are pretty even. Sometimes he will go to see friends or family or play golf. He swims regularly but he does that on a weeknight.

SeaFog that is a lovely thing to do. I really, really, really want to go to the seaside. It's been such a long time since I smelled the sea.

I sing in a choir. Rehearsals are normally weekday evenings, but concerts are a full Saturday of rehearsals and performance, which is wonderfully all-consuming.

Pole (including competitions)
Yoga
Running

[quote RoseEmelie]@countrygirl99 Not sure if such a group exists virtually but my DH is definitely part of this group in real life (widowers of horse lovers). In one of our groups of friends most women and DDs ride, which usually takes up a good part of the weekend and holidays. Men keep moaning about how much time it takes and the cost but at least they’re doing their own stuffs together and since he’s found these like minded friends DH stopped hassling me, asking me to come back early etc[/quote]
My DH is well aware that he comes below the horse snd the dogs. DC are adults now so at least he doesn't have to vote with them now, though DS2 was often riding with me. But he had taken up globally now do in a normal year we barely see each other at weekends.

Would love to try open water swimming too.
Is it just a case of getting in @coldswimmer88? Do you need to do a course or anything first? Guessing you have to already be a fairly good swimmer?