TW: would I be unreasonable to report my dad after finding potential child/non consentual porn

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I (21f) have broken my phone, I'm visiting my parents for a few days due to my health. My dad (58m) has 3 phones, I always found it weird he said he used them for gaming. Mine broke and I asked if I could borrow one until I get a new one and put my sim in it. He did relutantly, I opened Google and there were loads of open tabs including quite a lot of porn. The searches include puberty, youngest girl, spoilt vigrins, punching, incest and non consentual ect. I am disgusted, background I was sexually assaulted when I was a teenager by a friends brother, my whole family know this as it went to court. I dont have a brilliant realtionship with my father anyway, he used to hit me as a child and I would have to try and placate him to stop him targeting my brother too, I went to therapy for this as I had to almost act as an adult while my mom was at work. WIBU if I report what I found? I'm tempted to talk to my mom but she's been through a lot lately.

@Nonmaquillee At no point did I condone what he’s done. Like I said it’s appalling and I wouldn’t have him near my children. So what is it I said that’s rattled you? For a start what’s worse than watching such content is participating in it and again people do forgive their family for some outrageous things, doesn’t mean I’m telling op to forgive her father just stating the fact that it happens

@Kkj3

It's because you said this upthread that some of us found shocking:

Hopefully what he was watching was just on the side of legal and you can all move past this.

@youvegottenminuteslynn So you want me to hope he was watching illegal material again by all I meant op and her mum you literally can only take issue with the fact I hope it wasn’t illegal.

[quote Kkj3]@youvegottenminuteslynn So you want me to hope he was watching illegal material again by all I meant op and her mum you literally can only take issue with the fact I hope it wasn’t illegal.[/quote]
Of course I don't want that. You're being snarky and sarcastic when you asked what people took issue with and I answered your question factually.

The way you've just explained what you meant is different to how it came across in your original wording, so people didn't know what you meant and took issue with it thinking you meant something different.

There's no need to be arsey about it at all.

@youvegottenminuteslynn I understood how it was misconstrued initially hence why I explained that by all I meant op and her mum. Then I’ve had this continuous recall over something I’ve already explained so rtft comes to mind. There most definitely is when im being accused of sympathising with a man like that

Ok @Kkj3 I tried to be helpful and explain where people took issue with what you said. You seem to want a back and forth but I'm out 👍🏻

OP I'm so sorry he's put you in this position - I hope you have some support IRL as it's a terrible, shocking thing to be faced with. You've been really brave and it sounds like you've been brave for a long time, with some horrid toxic behaviour from your family and going through what you did as a teen. Well done for being so strong

And as a PP wrote up thread: please stop saying “underage girls”. They’re children

Indeed they are children, but in over two decades of working trying to repair the physical damage of sexual violence inflicted on women and girls by men* I have never once met a girl who wished to be referred to as a child anymore.
These revolting actions rob girls of their childhood, and I will refer to my patients as they wish to be referred to, which in all of the cases of minor females I have ever treated is as "underage girls". I always ask my patients how they wish to be referred to, both when speaking to them in person and in their absence, and I abide by their wishes.

If referring to them as "underage girls" distresses anyone, they have my genuine apologies. I have been a victim of CSA myself, thankfully not incest, and there is no way on this Earth I would ever want to be referred to as a "child" again after that.
"Underage girl" is infinitely less triggering for myself, and many others, please be respectful of peoples differing triggers.

*In case anyone brings it up, I have never, not once, treated a woman or girl who has been sexually abused or raped by a woman. It has always been violence inflicted by men. That is of course, not to say it doesn`t happen, but the vast and overwhelming majority of the time men are the perpetrators.