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To be in pyjamas on a Sunday afternoon?

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Rose789 · 09/05/2021 16:54

Went out this morning for a walk with the kids and got absolutely soaked. When we got in I had a shower and put on clean pyjamas and planned to spend the rest of the day lounging and eating and watching films.
The door went and it was a neighbour picking up a parcel that was left. Never really spoken to her much since she moved in. When I answered she immediately said oh my goodness have I got you out of bed. I said no and handed the parcel. She took a deliberate look at her watch and then asked if I was ill.
Surely it’s not so odd to be in pyjamas on a miserable wet Sunday?!

OP posts:
PinkElephant7 · 09/05/2021 22:38

Don't worry about it. Pyjamas are the best thing ever! I don't actually sleep in mine generally, just use them as loungewear. That woman should mind her own business!

U2HasTheEdge · 09/05/2021 22:54

I am only in 'proper' clothes if I am out of the house. Or if I have people visiting, although my mum often gets me in my PJs. I see no point sitting in jeans (which is what I wear) when I am at home.

My PJs are loose trousers- think fatface type lounge bottoms, and a T- shirt, or a PJ hoody.

I don't wear them in bed, I am always clean, and I give no shits if I have to answer the door in them. It also doesn't mean I am 'slobbing' about all day. I can manage to keep busy at home in Pjs, although I am not against days where I do very little.

Ontheboardwalk · 09/05/2021 23:03

Today I’ve been in my PJs had a bath at teatime then got back into clean PJs. Nowt wrong with that

I'd have dropped kicked her parcel to the end of the garden and told her as she was dressed she could collect it from there

Saying that she could have been genuinely worried she had woken you up if you had been in bed. I'm always wary of my neighbours nightshirts

Ontheboardwalk · 09/05/2021 23:04

Night shifts not nightshirts FFS

Kidson · 10/05/2021 03:22

It’s amazing how judgemental people can be about people they know not a single thing about other than they enjoy wearing pyjamas at home. Doesn’t that make you think? Hmm

Maggiesfarm · 10/05/2021 05:20

I'd say it was quite normal, there's no point in getting yourself fixed up if you are going nowhere and actually, you had been out.

However my parents and in-laws always dressed 'properly' whatever day it was so I wonder if your neighbour is quite a bit older than you. I can clearly imagine my mum saying, "Aren't you going to get dressed today?".

Don't think about it any more.

Meruem · 10/05/2021 05:34

And the award for most condescending post goes to motherloaded.

You can be sociable and active and also enjoy a pj day, the two are not mutually exclusive. In fact op was in pjs as she’d been out and active with her DC’s that morning, or did you miss that part?

I find it more odd that there are people who can’t seem to handle spending any time in their own homes without “climbing the walls” (current pandemic aside). Ok if your living conditions are awful then maybe but otherwise why don’t you have a home you enjoy being in?

Marypoppins19 · 10/05/2021 05:42

Totally normal but I’m sure it’s why I’m gaining weight! Over eating as super comfy at home

CoalTit · 10/05/2021 06:48

I think it’s lazy to lounge around in Pyjamas all day. Bad example to set to kids too , I think it’s really slobby. Just get up , make beds , get everyone dressed ready to face the day.

You can't accuse other people of being slobs if you make your family's beds without airing them! That's a horrible, dirty practice.

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 09:28

Meruem

hahaha, sorry I touched a nerve with you Smile

My house is great, thank you. It doesn't mean I have to enjoy being indoors or all day? ESPECIALLY in the context of the pandemic. When people work full time, and kids are in full time schooling, we already spend more than enough time indoors, the last thing anyone in my family needs is to be home in pjs.

Again, each to their own.

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 09:32

@CoalTit

I think it’s lazy to lounge around in Pyjamas all day. Bad example to set to kids too , I think it’s really slobby. Just get up , make beds , get everyone dressed ready to face the day.

You can't accuse other people of being slobs if you make your family's beds without airing them! That's a horrible, dirty practice.

you realise airing your bed and actually making it are compatible, don't you 😂

Leaving it as is when you get up is probably not the best way to air it anyway...

LillianGish · 10/05/2021 09:47

Dh had never seen his elderly mother in nightwear ever. She wouldn't be downstairs in anything other than full dress. Good for her. Sounds like my mum who at 83 is always smartly turned out even if she's not going anywhere. During lockdown she even upped her game saying she had a wardrobe full of lovely clothes and accessories so she might as a well wear them. It definitely kept her spirits up and I would say that attitude is what has got her through lockdown in such a good mental state. Slob around in PJs if you must and if it makes you feel good, no judgement here, but I'm guessing the reaction of the neighbour collecting the parcel was more one of worrying she'd disturbed you than anything else, especially if you don't know her that well.

LST · 10/05/2021 09:52

@LillianGish

Dh had never seen his elderly mother in nightwear ever. She wouldn't be downstairs in anything other than full dress. Good for her. Sounds like my mum who at 83 is always smartly turned out even if she's not going anywhere. During lockdown she even upped her game saying she had a wardrobe full of lovely clothes and accessories so she might as a well wear them. It definitely kept her spirits up and I would say that attitude is what has got her through lockdown in such a good mental state. Slob around in PJs if you must and if it makes you feel good, no judgement here, but I'm guessing the reaction of the neighbour collecting the parcel was more one of worrying she'd disturbed you than anything else, especially if you don't know her that well.
Why use the term 'slob' around though? That is so unnecessary. I was in my pjs all day yesterday but I didn't 'slob' (what does that even mean??) Until I'd done tea and showered and dressed into fresh pjs.
vodkaredbullgirl · 10/05/2021 10:02

Well this is the 1st day of my annual leave, my dd has gone to work. I'm going to have a bath and put some clean pjs on. Lazy around till I have to pick her up later.

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 10:08

I think it's better for kids if they associate pjs with bedtime once they start walking.

Putting pjs to have to change for clean pjs after your evening shower makes no sense.

pumpkinpie01 · 10/05/2021 10:16

@motherloaded I'm completely with you . I know lots of people who put pyjamas on when they get in from work but it's not something we do in our house but each to their own. When I had 2 sprained ankles a while ago and couldn't go to work I had to spend a day in Pj's and I felt lazy and grotty. But I'm the kind of person who likes to pop out a lot so if I put my Pj's on at 5no doubt I'd be swapping them for jeans at 6 to go out

LST · 10/05/2021 10:18

@motherloaded

I think it's better for kids if they associate pjs with bedtime once they start walking.

Putting pjs to have to change for clean pjs after your evening shower makes no sense.

Why? My kids love wearing pjs if they haven't got to go anywhere. They just don't get dressed and then have a shower or bath before bed and into clean ones. Where is the problem?
KurtWilde · 10/05/2021 10:26

@motherloaded

I think it's better for kids if they associate pjs with bedtime once they start walking.

Putting pjs to have to change for clean pjs after your evening shower makes no sense.

I don't understand why you think it's better for kids?? I've managed to successfully raise 4 to adulthood and have 2 still to raise (toddler and 10yo), plus 3 stepchildren. No one has been damaged or become a 'slob' because they see mum in pjs on her downtime.

I certainly don't 'slob' around even on my day off. I just do normal tasks in the house in my pjs instead of getting all dolled up for nothing.

Meruem · 10/05/2021 10:39

I grew up with one of those mothers who made us all get up and be fully dressed early each day. I hated it. It even happened on Christmas Day! Washed and dressed before we could open presents. One of my childhood dreams was the be one of those families sat round the tree in our pj’s. Everything always felt so stiff and formal.

I don’t think anyone would argue that people should spend their lives in pj’s, but everything in moderation as they say. Sloppy parenting isn’t good, but neither is running your home like a boot camp. There’s a happy medium.

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 11:00

Why? My kids love wearing pjs if they haven't got to go anywhere. They just don't get dressed and then have a shower or bath before bed and into clean ones. Where is the problem?

same reason why screens are bad in bedrooms. A nighttime routine has long been proven to be better. Pjs = bed and sleep.

Mine don't even think about pjs, I wouldn't let them slob around all day anyway but that has never been an issue.

LST · 10/05/2021 11:07

@motherloaded

Why? My kids love wearing pjs if they haven't got to go anywhere. They just don't get dressed and then have a shower or bath before bed and into clean ones. Where is the problem?

same reason why screens are bad in bedrooms. A nighttime routine has long been proven to be better. Pjs = bed and sleep.

Mine don't even think about pjs, I wouldn't let them slob around all day anyway but that has never been an issue.

@motherloaded poor kids.
GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 10/05/2021 11:17

I often wear jogging bottoms or leggings with T-shirt / top but wouldn’t dream of putting PJs on in the daytime.

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bananaboats · 10/05/2021 11:33

If I'm in the house I'm in pjs and will happily answer the door in them. Neighbour sounds rude I wouldn't be taking packages in for them again

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 11:47

LST

poor kids.
😂😂😂

oh yes, my kids need to be pitied indeed 😂

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