If you don't have or want children, why are you here?

[pepsicolagirl]

Disclaimer: I do not mean this in a rude way. I just couldn't think of a better way to phrase it.

I have seen a few messages across the mumsnet forums from women who are happily child free which is great and of course there is nothing wrong with at all.

But it always makes me wonder why you would be a member of a website called mumsnet if you are not and have no wish to be a mum?
So, if this is you, do you mind me asking why?

@unwuthering

I understand the pull for you to reply to things you think are stupid.

No. To quote you again, "that is just your interpretation".

So you responded because….?

Mumsnet is still biggest for ttc / infertility / relationship support which I imagine is how most users without children find them themselves here.

So you responded because….?

Oh, for heaven's sake.

Do not let me interrupt you in your important work in policing this thread for any views, opinions, interpretations, and readings that do not precisely mirror your own.

You don't have to have had your own children to be qualified to give advice, that seems like an unreasonable judgemental viewpoint.

It doesn’t.

What about child care professionals such as nannies, social workers, medical professionals, experienced family members like aunties/cousins who have lots of extended contact with children - would you disregard all and any of their advice simply because they haven't given birth?

Professional viewpoints, language acquisition, developmental whatever, stain removal, gift ideas, best salt dough recipes, 200 diverting activities to do on a beach, sure. All input welcome.

Parenting advice, commiserations or what have you can only come from parents. Parenting is a state of being.

Not the that’s the issue under discussion. Mumsnet isn’t only for parents. OP gracefully bowed out eons ago having got her explanation, and it’s all sorted.

@MrsTroutfire

They should change it to Peoplenet. 😂

Oh no. It would turn into piston heads. 😏

As for the beans on toast... Doesn't that make the toast really soggy with the sauce ? I mean literally anything else sounds like a better option. An egg, a sausage, bacon, jam, just plain butter... The combination of bean on toast is just bizarre (almost as bizarre as peanut butter and banana).

I butter the toast, cut it in half diagonally, put it on a plate with a gap between them and pour the beans into the gap so they are only just touching the toast. That way I get to enjoy beans and crisp toast. I hate soggy toast.

@MrsTroutfire

They should change it to Peoplenet. 😂

Urgh no this is a place for women to chat without men sticking their dicks in the middle of every conversation.

I get your point, OP. I don't think I had ever heard of Mumsnet prior to coming here for fertility advice. And I think I would have assumed (wrongly) that it was a parenting only forum and avoided it like the plague if I hadn't joined and looked around.

For PigletJohn’s infinite wisdom. And sometimes recommendations for undiscovered supermarket treasures.

@CounsellorTroi - I hate soggy toast too - apart from when I have beans on toast/spaghetti hoops on toast. For some reason, I love buttery toast with the sauce from the beans/spaghetti soaked in.

Sadly all the manufacturers seem to have changed their recipes, so what used to be a lovely, rich, tomato-y sauce is now thin and tasteless, and my occasional treat of beans or spaghetti on toast is but a memory now.

I've only seen this question asked a couple of times before. And when it's repeated I assume that the OP is relatively new to the site so hasn't seen it asked before.

I hate it when people who've belonged to a forum forever, assume that everyone else has, and so respond to a question that's been asked before with such contempt.

Some of us have only been here for a year, a month, a week or a day, and don't share your encyclopaedic knowledge of every question ever asked.

I hate it when people who've belonged to a forum forever, assume that everyone else has, and so respond to a question that's been asked before with such contempt.

These threads can turn into a bun fight so, over time, you assume some are posted to provoke reaction rather than a genuine enquiry.

I think the influx of people posting from a non parenting standpoint is what has led to this place being as batshit as it is.
Back in the day, when it was all fields round here, it was much more supportive. It was smaller and friendlier and kinder.

I started here because of the famous "Daily Fail" - it kept mentioning stories that made me think "that sounds like a bunch of interesting people, I'm going to take a closer look" And here I am!

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

I think the influx of people posting from a non parenting standpoint is what has led to this place being as batshit as it is. Back in the day, when it was all fields round here, it was much more supportive. It was smaller and friendlier and kinder.

Eh? So it’s the non-parents who are the batshit posters??

Gosh, yes, I got such opprobrium heaped on me for being surprised about the role religion plays in school admissions (there are threads about it quite often). It was something I was vaguely aware of before having children, but like most people, school admissions didn't really affect me till I had a child needing a school place.

Same shit, different day. Its not just a parenting site. ffs.

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

I think the influx of people posting from a non parenting standpoint is what has led to this place being as batshit as it is. Back in the day, when it was all fields round here, it was much more supportive. It was smaller and friendlier and kinder.

the discussions here are usually intelligent, wise and witty - I can see why that would appeal to people without children.

That's a bit of an odd statement when you begin to unpick it.

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

I think the influx of people posting from a non parenting standpoint is what has led to this place being as batshit as it is. Back in the day, when it was all fields round here, it was much more supportive. It was smaller and friendlier and kinder.

Riiiiiiiiight!

I came for the free bar.

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Because I have a Mum.

How would they know everyone was welcome? If it’s not clear from the name or tag line?

'NotForMumsNet.com - By people who aren't parents, For people who aren't parents'

Not suggesting they should in any way, but it would be theoretically very simple, were somebody to target non-parents only.

Your post really does come across quite aggressively!

I originally came here because I was considering trying to get pregnant, dealing with infertility and then considering adoption. All a long time ago.

I stuck around because I don't have much female company in my day to day life and so like reading female opinions.