I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

*Chapped????? [mm]

Knocked (on) It's dialect. Not sure why the

God the posts on here trying to blame you OP are completely ridiculous. Oh poor poor children with meanie OP not opening the door. These posters really need to get a grip.

Of course OP didn't have to answer the door to two children leisurely chatting and laughing. I'm sure she knows the boy next door and assume him knocking on the door to ask about her cat wasn't particularly out of the norm.

The neighbour's behaviour was outrageous. How dare he make demands of you, shout at you and stop you closing the window? I would be completely shaken by that.

It definitely warrants a follow-up of some sort. Either; report him to the police, tell him you will not tolerate this intimidating behaviour if it happens again you will report him (this would be my choice but you may not feel comfortable and that's completely understandable), get your partner (if you have one) to tell him if it happens again that you will report him.

How do you get on with him otherwise?

In your circumstances I would have called out that I was working and not able to come to the door then pulled the windows closed.
The father was totally out of order to behave the way he did.

If it was my nearest neighbours child I’d wonder why he’s walked 20 miles to my house and definitely open the door though!

I used to wonder how so many of these aggressive arseholes have multiple children. The flood of excuses for his shitty behaviour says it all. The bar is set so bloody low still isn't it.

Hold men to a better standard, they are not wild animals and most manage to behave decently. If he can't control his temper he needs help not excuses.

Urgent requests for help don't generally come from giggling, chatting children either.

I find it very strange that neighbours are allowing 6 and 7 year olds to knock on doors to ask random questions of adult neighbours. The only reason children knock on my door is to play with my son. The neighbour sounds unhinged as well as failing to keep his children safe. I'd be keeping a close eye on my possibly vulnerable cat if it is attracting such interest.

I cant come away from my computer when I'm working from home - I wear a head set and calls come through all day. If I miss one or it rings out it's on the next days report. As is my productivity. I wouldn't have answered it either.

I can see why, with neighbours like that, you didn’t answer the door. Thank goodness you didn’t, imagine if you did and said the wrong thing what the fathers reaction would be... yikes

What an entitled shithead you must be to think someone IS OBLIGED to open the door to your poorly educated children.

For goodness sake, do some people not think the police have anything better to do with their time.

And I know not answering your door is a thing on here, but in the real world folks don’t just sit there staring out the window when they know two young kids are at their door.

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

The age of the boys is irrelevant. If OP had answered the door the CF man would find something else to rant about - that’s just the way he is. I would call police and report any threatening behaviour.

You were rather mean to 2 young children.

His behaviour was appalling.

Yet again would this dickhead have gone storming round to a 6 foot 4 inch, build like a brick shit house , rugby players house shouting and screaming?
No don’t think so.
Entitled sexist twat.

@MargeWhereDidMyFingersLand

I used to wonder how so many of these aggressive arseholes have multiple children. The flood of excuses for his shitty behaviour says it all. The bar is set so bloody low still isn't it.

Hold men to a better standard, they are not wild animals and most manage to behave decently. If he can't control his temper he needs help not excuses.

Urgent requests for help don't generally come from giggling, chatting children either.

Absolutely agree with this.

I want to know more about the cat.

@Bomchiccawick

Why couldn’t you open the door to the children? It could’ve been an emergency that they needed an adult to help with. He was awful for that reaction though, there was no need.

It obviously wasn’t an emergency.

Agree with above- I do think it was a bit mean to not answer the door to two young kids- even to tell them you were busy and working. In real life people answer the door.

His behaviour trumps it all though- ridiculous reaction. I’d probably just assume you were a bit odd and tell them not to bother you again.

If you wouldn’t do it to an adult then don’t do it to a child!
If you have the brass neck to ignore two adults on your doorstep then fine, but if you expect children to exhibit good manners then display good manners yourself.

However, your neighbour sounds deranged

"Call the police. Twat"

Oh dididums.....do the police really need to be called to go and tell your own neighbour off for being nasty and upsetting you. Fgs haven't they got better things to do?

You don't have to answer your door to anybody - children, Jehova Witnesses, salesmen or anyone else. You are not in the wrong here! They sound dreadful neighbours and I'd let the whole thing drop - have you got a 3-legged cat? Can we have a pic?

I'd have lied and said I was on a
Zoom meeting. I wouldn't want to have to chat with 6 year old boys either

The age of the boys is irrelevant. If OP had answered the door the CF man would find something else to rant about - that’s just the way he is. I would call police and report any threatening behaviour

Is there something missing in the post, do you know the man and the op? Because otherwise this is bizzare thing to write.

I would have answered the door
That was rude as you weren't busy. However he should have just spoken to you about it, instead of shouting.

@catpoooffender

He sounds awful, but I don't think it was very kind of you to ignore the children. As a PP said, what if they had needed help?

I don't think they would have been giggling if they needed help.

OP, despite what some people appear to believe, you're under no obligation to open your door unless you want to.

YANBU; your neighbour was massively out of order and I dread to think what sort of adult his son will grow into with that sort of example set for him.

I wouldn't have opened the door either if I was in the middle of work and two giggling kids rang the door bell, even though I adore kids and am generally really willing to go an extra mile to entertain them when I have time. And this would apply to work other than Zoom /phone calls. If I was in the middle of reviewing a document, getting up and answering the door for something unessential would usually mean I'd have to start from the scratch just to make sure I didn't miss anything and that would have lost me more than just a few mins to open the door and answer questions. This job feeds my family and I would not be willing to make an interruption to entertain an obvious non-emergency/fun call.

There's more work that can be done on the computer that cannot easily be interrupted than just calls/meetings. YANBU and I would report someone preventing me from closing my own window.