I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

@RichPetunia, how can getting on with your work conceivably be selfish? If anything it's the reverse since OP is clearly putting her employers' and/or clients' interests first.

They clearly didn't need help as they were giggling. YANBU.

It’s your door OP so it’s up to you to answer it or not for ANY reason.
I only answer my door if I know who’s on the other side. Since when is not answering your door to nosy annoying neighbours considered rude, surly these kids were rude for annoying a neighbour unnecessarily.
While I wouldn’t report I would set up a sprinkler system outside that window.

I thought that on Mumsnet it was compulsory foe any one knocking the door to have made an appointment to do so?

OnceUponAMidnightBeery
Think you’ve got me mixed up thank you, i was quoting another poster..

Not sure you've quite understood but ok
No quite understood, it’s op’s fault if she’d just done it none of this would have happened

Can’t quite believe all the posts excusing this bloke.
Op does not have to interrupt her work, nor does she even need to answer her door!
None of this excuses this abusive bloke!

If I don't know who is at the door I don't answer it. If I know who it is and don't want to speak to them, I won't answer it. I have social anxiety and if I don't want to answer my door I won't answer it. Why should OP put herself in a position where she's doing something she doesn't want to do just because someone else wants her to answer her door?

I can't believe she's being called unreasonable for not answering the door. Surely the only place where you should be able to do whatever the fuck you want or don't want is your own home?

YANBU, your neighbours a dick.

@SakuraEdenSwan1

Answer the door then instead of being rude and ignorant to children.

Eh? What makes children so special?

@Hankunamatata

Well he was a prat but you were also weird sitting watching them, when they could see you and not actually answering the door.

Yes. Do you have a three legged cat?

People suggesting closing the window on the guys arm are totally unreasonable.

With someone's arm in it a window may only have another couple inches before it's at maximum height so closing it won't do much damage.

What you should do is pull the arm through to the elbow, and hold his wrist to bend the arm back in the wrong direction. You have leverage, and can easily shatter a bone with a good thrust up, or alternatively hold it there while you give them some advice about being more courteous in future.

Just an FYI 😉

No one is under any obligation to answer the door at any time or for any reason unless its the police with a warrant! Since when was an adult obligated to leave her work to discuss trivia with inquisitive over entitled children? There are too many over indulgent parents teaching their kids to be princes and princesses and its time they were put back into their box.

@MoominFeatures exactly, I don’t understand why it’s rude to not answer your door?! I’m confused, I don’t want to live in Gilead 😖

Why should OP interrupt her work to entertain two giggling children?!

Would people expect this is of a male neighbour?

I wouldn’t have answered the door either, and would have felt vindicated when I found out the silly reason they’d been knocking. Perhaps this will help the children learn not to bother people in this way, although it doesn’t sound as if they’re being set much of an example.

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

Why should she? She was working and didn't want to be disturbed. I wouldn't answer my door to children if I am working.

The dad is a twat, thinks the sun shines out of his kids arse I suspect.

Yet another example of a man telling a woman how to behave.
For the record I have a ring doorbell. I do not answer the door if I don’t want to.
I would go round and bang in his door constantly until he answered it, then shout annoying isn’t it ? In his face. I would also say don’t ever approach my property again or I will call the police.
There again I don’t give a fuck about people like this.

Also the op is working ffs.

He was in idiot but I honestly do not get the sitting in the open window at the front of the hour and ignoring the door. A simple “can I help you, I’m on a work call” from the open window would be enough.

I'm only here for the 3 legged cat picture 😊

The op was busy and didn't need to answer her door. Nothing wrong with that. Her neighbour was very much out of order

The poor op didn’t deserve to be verbally abused and possibly physically threatened because she chose not to answer her front door.

The victim blaming on this thread is hideous. Do you tell rape victims it probably wouldn’t have happened if they’d just done the normal thing and agreed to have sex ffs?

He was a prat for shouting. However, I think you were also in the wrong for not answering the door to two primary aged kids. What if they’d come over to tell you that their mum had collapsed and they didn’t know what to do? You could have easily asked them to leave once you realised it was about the cat rather than making a big drama about it.

Why should she answer the door if she doesn’t want to? She’s not the fourth emergency service. L

@LagunaBubbles

Well obviously hes a nutter but normal people tend to answer their door when it's chapped.

Chapped?????

Even if you weren’t working , you don’t have to open your door to anyone .