I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

Ignorant again... 🤣🤣🤣

I regularly ignore phone calls and the door if I'm not in the mood to talk. It's nobody's business what I choose to do. As if people are so entitled as to say you have to come to your own front door! Mumsnet is the strangest place.

Mumsnet is the strangest place
You can say that again.

@RichPetunia

You should have answered your door to the kids. Pretty ridiculous that you didn’t and makes you seem selfish and ignorant. I’m quite puzzled by your (in)action to be honest.

Ah! One in the wild!

@RichPetunia how is not answering the door "ignorant"? I genuinely want to know. It just isn't a word that works with this circumstance, whatever you may feel about the OP's actions.

Do you actually have a 3 legged cat?

You should have answered your door to the kids

Why? If some people (and there are clearly many of them on this thread) haven't taught their children that it's rude to knock on someone's door just because they feel like it, that's their lookout.

What a bunch of simpering pleasers some people are. OP, you are a Bad Woman, not jumping up immediately to pander to the whims of some children. Chastise yourself and Learn Your Place.

The amount of people here who think OP is in the wrong for not pandering to some children when she was busy and in her own home just makes me realise why some children grow up to be entitled brats.

I never answer the door to anyone unless I'm expecting them or they are delivering something. Too many charity muggers, religious converters, window salesmen etc. Even if I'm just watching tv I won't answer it, there's nothing rude about it. It's far more rude to to make someone come to their front door and waste their time just because you want to flog them something or ask about their cat.

You were working, sensible to not answer the door

@TheCrowening

The amount of people here who think OP is in the wrong for not pandering to some children when she was busy and in her own home just makes me realise why some children grow up to be entitled brats.

Agreed... you wrote my thoughts down a lot more politely then what I would’ve commented.

Not sure why so many think OP had to drop everything she was doing to give kids that aren’t hers attention... and then to think it’s acceptable what the dad did... Glad some of you aren’t my neighbours with that attitude.

I don't always answer my door. It's my space and if I don't want to answer the door - for any reason, then I won't.

I’d be going and knocking in his door and explaining how rude he is and you were on a video/phone call and that he needs to teach his kids if someone doesn’t answer it’s not a reason to then come around banging even harder!

When I was WFH I was on many phone calls/videos and often didn’t answer the door.

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

Really ? why should the OP do anything other than what she did ? No one has to open their front door to anyone if they don’t want to & your not being unreasonable OP and the neighbour is a twat so I hope you report him.

Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now?
Having a better night now?? Wtf?

You should have answered your door to the kids. Pretty ridiculous that you didn’t and makes you seem selfish and ignorant. I’m quite puzzled by your (in)action to be honest.

Why should she HAVE to answer. Jeez do you have no backbone where you just do what everyone else wants regardless of what you want?

I once went and knocked on my neighbour's door. I knew they were in, I could see them moving around. They didn't answer.

Oh well, their loss. I only wanted to tell them their outbuilding was on fire.

Get a ring door bell so you can politely tell them to fuck off.
Who randomly lets their DC knock and disturb a neighbour anyway unless their pal lived in the house or they're close friendly term neighbours otherwise not happening kid.

Your neighbours sound like nutters, I wouldn't have answered the door to a pair of precocious kids either.

You were well within your rights not to answer and when you see him tell him to twat off.

@Bomchiccawick

Why couldn’t you open the door to the children? It could’ve been an emergency that they needed an adult to help with. He was awful for that reaction though, there was no need.

They were giggling and chatting. Hardly indicative of children desperately needing help to deal with an emergency.

@SakuraEdenSwan1

Answer the door then instead of being rude and ignorant to children.

Deciding not to interrupt your work is neither rude nor ignorant. OP could have been in a meeting, could have been dealing with an urgent deadline, could be working to a time recording system. Why should it be assumed she was able to drop everything just because she was at home?

The contortions people will trust themselves into to make op look like a nutter 🤣

The kids could have need help! The cat could have needed help!

Listen to yourselves...

You are most definitely not being unreasonable. Your neighbour is nuts.

But Jesus, I'm intrigued be some of the replies you've had. Why would an adult feel compelled to answer the door to anyone in their own home, what's that about?

I get a non-stop parade of chuggers, boiler replacement, garden work, solar panels sellers plus Jehovah witnesses, and deliveries for my neighbours. If I answered the door to everyone I'd get nothing done.

@PinkiOcelot

Wouldn’t have hurt you to get up off your arse and answer the door.

So how did it hurt the children that she didn't? Come to that, who the hell lets their 6-7 year olds wander around the neighbourhood on their own pestering working neighbours with inane questions about their pets?

I know it's been said up thread, but,
You do not have to answer the door if you don't want to.
You do not have to answer the phone if you don't want to.
You do not have to talk to anyone if you don't want to.
This country of ours is a FREE country.
So you lot who are wittering about the poor little dears, should think about the spoilt little brats of your own who you are no doubt pandering to.