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Original poster

To think this is a bit rude?

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:21

I sent a whatsapp message to head of nursery yesterday (which is the usual platform of communication, they regularly text on weekends so it's not unusual) asking whether or not they will be open on Monday with it being bank holiday.

I needed to know so I could adjust my plans accordingly.

My message was read but not responded to, meanwhile she is posting on social media both yesterday and today.

AIBU to think this is a bit rude?

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TheVolturi · 02/05/2021 14:22

I think all nursery are generally closed on Bank hols?

NeedNewKnees · 02/05/2021 14:24

Let the poor souls have a bank holiday weekend! They don’t have to respond in their time off if they don’t want to.

It would be nice extremely unusual for a regular nursery to be open on a BH, unless it’s one attached to a workplace like a hospital or other service operating on a BH.

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:24

@TheVolturi

I think all nursery are generally closed on Bank hols?
I'm not sure, DC is the first child I've had in nursery. I'm told some private nurseries stay open but it largely depends.
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Lockheart · 02/05/2021 14:25

Presumably there is have a website or calendar or contract somewhere which tells you the opening hours.

She's on her weekend off, she doesn't have to respond to work queries.

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:26

Let the poor souls have a bank holiday weekend! They don’t have to respond in their time off if they don’t want to

They regularly text me on the weekend. A quick yes or no isn't much to ask for is it? Especially when they're posting lengthy paragraphs on SM.

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WaltzesWithSnobs · 02/05/2021 14:26

I'd be very surprised if they were open on Monday. Ours WhatsApp'd the group on Saturday night though just to remind people.

Odd that they didn't reply OP. Surely the person has forgot rather than deliberately ignoring? Maybe comment under their social media post - if that would be appropriate.

Toombumber · 02/05/2021 14:27

You've left it quite late to think about Monday, plus they might text on weekends because it's convenient for them, but at the same time not want to be contacted on weekends when they didn't initiate it. So no I don't think it's rude not to respond when they're not working. I've stopped doing it this year.

spanieleyes · 02/05/2021 14:27

There's a difference between posting on social media and answering work related queries. There's also a difference between initiating work related issues and responding to them!

BackforGood · 02/05/2021 14:27

Surely you should have considered this long before Saturday if you need childcare for Monday?
Also, if you knew you were needing childcare for BHs, this is something you would have taken into account, or at least clarified before signing up to the Nursery.

Overwhelmingly, Nurseries will be closed on BHs. It would be exceptionally unusual if they weren't.

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:28

@Lockheart

Presumably there is have a website or calendar or contract somewhere which tells you the opening hours.

She's on her weekend off, she doesn't have to respond to work queries.

I can find nothing about bank holidays unfortunately.

They've regularly text me on the weekends and even disturbed me by calling when I'm at work rather than calling OH, even when DC isn't in, so it's not as though I'm a pest. It just so happens that I need clarification on this occasion.

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 14:28

Especially when they're posting lengthy paragraphs on SM.

Our sm have posts on even on my days off. There is number of pre planners for that. It's not an indicator of person being on. Possibly read the message to see if it was something that needed tp be dealt with asap. Questions about days off should be asked before nlt on the bank holiday weekend

Geamhradh · 02/05/2021 14:30

Did you only think of what to do with your child tomorrow, yesterday?

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:31

There's no issue of childcare on Monday, but I don't want to get up super early and walk all of the way there if they're going to be closed. I have HG so mornings are hard enough as it is.

I'll take on board what you've all said about not wanting to reply to parents on the weekend, it's just strange as that's the opposite to what they always do.

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ChunkyBird · 02/05/2021 14:31

I agree you've left it very late to ask.

If the nursery has a FB page can't you post on there and see if any other parents know?

MissMaple82 · 02/05/2021 14:32

Look on their calendar/newsletters/emails instead of harassing them on their days off!

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:32

@Geamhradh

Did you only think of what to do with your child tomorrow, yesterday?
DC only goes goes Monday's and Tuesdays so hasn't been there for a week.

I didn't realise there was a bank holiday coming up this Monday.

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AmbientLighting · 02/05/2021 14:33

It might be a quick query but yours might not be the only one they've had. They could have had other work queries they haven't replied to yet. If they are closed / not working then I think it's fair enough that they might want to enjoy the bank hol weekend

MissMaple82 · 02/05/2021 14:34

Nurseries are also always shut on bank Holidays!

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:34

@MissMaple82

Look on their calendar/newsletters/emails instead of harassing them on their days off!
Harassing? Grin

One short message that warrants nothing more than a yes or no reply is not harassment. It's frankly bizarre that you feel that it is.

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:36

I've checked everywhere and there's no indication of what happens on BH's on their social media or otherwise.

If this has been deemed harassment I'll remember that when I'm getting 3+ calls during work hours when my DC isn't even in on the day.

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BlackCatShadow · 02/05/2021 14:37

Well, just assume it’s closed and check on Tuesday. It doesn’t sound like a big deal. People often don’t want to think about work stuff on holiday.

insancerre · 02/05/2021 14:38

Social media posts can be scheduled so they are written during work time and then posted automatically at the time and day set.

converseandjeans · 02/05/2021 14:39

I always used to get charged in full for Bank Holiday Monday by childminder as that was a day we used. Otherwise it was half rate in school hols & as we're both teachers we never used her. It was annoying as we would only be charged half for other days we didn't use. I reckon it will be closed.

LittlestBoho · 02/05/2021 14:39

Why post on AIBU if you are so convinced that you are right?

Look up the nursery calendar, or ask on the Facebook page so another parent might answer. Don't harass the nursery staff to respond to your queries at the weekend just because you have no idea what day it is.

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Umizumi2 · 02/05/2021 14:40

@BlackCatShadow

Well, just assume it’s closed and check on Tuesday. It doesn’t sound like a big deal. People often don’t want to think about work stuff on holiday.
Yes that's the approach I'll take. It's not a huge deal really I just wanted to avoid a wasted journey if I could.
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