To think this is a bit rude?

[Umizumi2]

I sent a whatsapp message to head of nursery yesterday (which is the usual platform of communication, they regularly text on weekends so it's not unusual) asking whether or not they will be open on Monday with it being bank holiday.

I needed to know so I could adjust my plans accordingly.

My message was read but not responded to, meanwhile she is posting on social media both yesterday and today.

AIBU to think this is a bit rude?

Oh dear, what a big issue,about a non issue. You should know when bank holidays occur in the year, and get clued up about the necessary open and closing times at a nursery.

Why did you wait so late to find out

Do you reply to work emails over the weekend?

I reply to work emails/team message/WhatApps on weekends when I want to. I'm not obliged to and when I don't reply nobody says anything, I wouldn't expect anyone if sent them a message to reply.

I'm going to hide the thread now as it's just going round in circles

No it isn't.

OP: "AIBU?"
MN: "Yes."

1. She shouldn't have to reply to work messages on a weekend. There is probably a policy on the appropriate amount of time to leave a message before answering.
2. Check their website/FB page/other platform.
3. It's a bank holiday, they won't be closed.
4. It's the woman's weekend, she's entitled to share it online as she wishes without responding to a work related message.

So yes, you're being unreasonable.

Easter Monday was only a month ago so unless your child has literally started in the last couple of weeks, just work on the basis that the nursery will be closed/open based on what happened then.

@Moonpeg

Maggiesfarm Plenty places are open on a bank holiday, not just essential work as you say nurses. I work in retail and we are open, also hospitality and so on.

That's true and I've just found out my milkman is delivering tomorrow.

However one would have thought the op would have found out last week whether or not her child's nursery was open on the bank holiday, not left it until the last minute.

Op, what do you do with your child if you have to work on a Saturday or Sunday?

Well - as I said earlier - maybe she forgot to check, or forgot the Bank Holiday was approaching - she is only human and is juggling a toddler and Hyperemesis Gravidarum!

I'm not sure why you are upse that they contacted you at work - are they only supposed to contact your OH not you?

@Umizumi2

I sent a whatsapp message to head of nursery yesterday (which is the usual platform of communication, they regularly text on weekends so it's not unusual) asking whether or not they will be open on Monday with it being bank holiday.

I needed to know so I could adjust my plans accordingly.

My message was read but not responded to, meanwhile she is posting on social media both yesterday and today.

AIBU to think this is a bit rude?

Of COURSE you are being unreasonable! It's a bank holiday weekend FGS.

I would have ignored you too,

And why on EARTH did you not bother to find out if they were open before they closed for the bank holiday weekend?

You're being ridiculous!

@Umizumi2

'I'm going to hide this thread now, as it's going round in circles...'

Translated... 'People aren't saying what I want to hear, so I'm flouncing.'

Maggiesfarm
One wasn’t talking about the op, One was stating that it isn’t just essential workplaces open on a bank holiday. But since you ask yes she’s a bit late in the day to find out if the nursery is open. But then did say she didn’t realise it was a holiday weekend.

Maggiesfarm
I didn’t work a Saturday or Sunday

You're not being unreasonable. I reply to work messages/emails over a weekend, it's 20 seconds out of your day. Between a 60 hour working week, child, dogs, house, hobbies, family - sometimes I forget things too. I bet it's fun up there today, on that high horse

I get that a simple yes or no would be so easy to do. But there could be a million reasons why she hasn’t replied: busy with her own children, someone else read the message, not her personal phone number, read it and forgot to respond, or maybe she doesn’t want to get into the habit of replying to people out of work. You say she contacts you during work - but your contacting her when she’s not at work so it’s different. She may be annoyed that you’ve left it so late to ask.

If it was me I would reply to you but I know from personal experience how with some parents giving them an inch they’ll take a mile. You may get a response later on when she’s not busy.

The person running the FB page may be a different person to the social media page. 🤔

Yes YABVU to think somebody is rude for not dealing with a work related query at the weekend. Certainly my default assumption would be that a nursery would be closed on a bank holiday and if I wanted to check, I would do so during office hours, not the weekend before.

@comedycentral

The person running the FB page may be a different person to the social media page. 🤔

They also may be off. Planning posts ahead is fuck easy on facebook pages. They publish by themselves at the set time and date

Um, it's the weekend? And surely you'd have planned this & asked ages ago. It's not exactly a surprise Bank Holiday.

Nursery management have to monitor communications 7 days a week at the moment due to the potential Covid-19 notifications. They don't have to reply to general messages out of office hours. If they start to then parents will begin to expect this as standard and that's not fair. Social media posts will be scheduled for a time when they will reach the best audience.
As for them contacting you, you don't have to reply until convenient to you, it works both ways. Neither party should expect the other to be immediately available, emergencies aside.

Most businesses on social media batch create and schedule social media during business hours.

They might even have contracted the work out to a virtual assistant.

YANBU to expect clear communication about bank holidays ahead of time.

YABVU to think that because messages are appearing on social media that there is someone online at work or even that the person you are trying to contact is online at that moment.

I couldn't ignore a call from nursery even if I was not supposed to be first contact. I would explain to them again & again if I must, that husband is to be contacted first...but I wouldnt ignore call just in case it was an emergency. I get employers don't like personal calls & people having chats during work...but nursery is on the urgent & important call list for me.

As other posters said, just ph tmrw morning at usual opening time & you'll know then whether or not they are open for business. As for her not replying...excuse it for now & ask what is the nursery policy of informing about closed days going forward or notification on a Sunday, for example if DC is ill & won't be in on the Mon.

Talk to people?maybe?

@spanieleyes

There's a difference between posting on social media and answering work related queries. There's also a difference between initiating work related issues and responding to them!

And the social media posts might have been scheduled in advance anyway.

There’s probably no info on being shut for bank hols as it’s so obvious that they are!

"During my working day where I should not be using my mobile or taking unnecessarily calls."

It sounds like you have a very strict workplace. Many workplaces don't mind parents having a phone call about childcare during working time. Or maybe you work somewhere you can't easily use the phone?
However, they are calling you during their working time, which is completely normal and is a problem when dealing with any 9-5 organisation when you yourself work 9-5.
It's not the same as you expecting an answer from them on the weekend when they're not at work.