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Neighbour’s parasol overhangs our garden

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ToxicNextDoor · 01/05/2021 15:00

My neighbour has a wall mounted umbrella. I haven’t seen it being used until today but have noticed it totally overhangs our garden.

Really pissed off tbh, it’s bad enough that they’re always in their garden (think all day every day at the weekend, hot tub etc). It just looks awful and feels like a massive encroachment on our personal space.

I really don’t want to fall out with her as she’s a generally a good neighbour otherwise. I’m so surprised she thinks this is ok though, I wouldn’t dream of doing similar!

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mistermagpie · 01/05/2021 16:24

The people saying 'so what? It's only hanging over a storage space?' but it's the OPs space and she doesn't want half a bloody great umbrella in it, she's not being unreasonable!

Good suggestions up thread so I'll not repeat, but yes, this would annoy me too.

MrsEricBana · 01/05/2021 16:27

Yes that's encroaching into your garden, across your window etc. You store stuff there now but might want planting, trellis or whatever and can't do that with her umbrella there.

Tistheseason17 · 01/05/2021 16:28

YANBU

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/05/2021 16:28

The area the parasol is overhanging - you use for storage - so its not impeding you.

YOu don't really know that as you don't know exactly how OP and her family use that space. And anyway, that's not the point. You can't build any part of an extension so that it overhangs a boundary. You are also allowed to cut back any branch etc overhanging from a tree next door if it's over your boundary, so why the neighbour assumes it's ok to do this I have no idea. What if OP has plans to grow something there, or has pots etc. There are quite strict boundary laws precisely for cheeky fuckers like this.

Killahangilion · 01/05/2021 16:29

I’d be fairly direct and ask them to move it away from the fence a bit further as it’s currently encroaching over the garden.

Cheeky fuckers only exist because they push their luck and you should always firmly assert your boundaries, both physical and metaphorically.

Thewinterofdiscontent · 01/05/2021 16:30

@cricketmum84

I'm sorry but this is totally a non issue! Are you likely to be trying to catch the sun day on top of your storage space??

And complaining that they are sat in their garden ALL DAY! Seriously?? Why shouldn't they enjoy their own bloody garden.

I think you need to get a grip to be honest.

I think it depends on how much garden you have you be honest.

My garden is 5m wide and 8m long so that parasol would be intrusive in terms of encroachment of space and block the light.

If I had a bigger garden, say a longer one to escape to it would e a non issue.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/05/2021 16:30

Mistermagpie: it's the OPs space and she doesn't want half a bloody great umbrella in it, she's not being unreasonable!

Exactly, why are people so dense or self-centred as to not see anything wrong with this?! Mind you, they're probably the sort of people who play loud music in their gardens all afternoon while they're painting a fence instead of putting some headphones on. Some people just seem so unaware of others in the world.

Billandben444 · 01/05/2021 16:33

It wouldn't irritate me because I'd have already asked them to move it as it's overhanging my garden. Boundaries are there for a reason.

AllThatisSolid · 01/05/2021 16:34

what I really want to know is of this were your garden would it annoy you too?

Yes - that's a fair overhang. Drop them a note asking the to adjust it so it doesn't hang over the fence.

YoTheGinPussyOfStMawesOnThigh · 01/05/2021 16:35

OP that's the very place you were going to put your new fire pit isn't it? Shame if the flames got out of control wouldn't it........

NeedNewKnees · 01/05/2021 16:36

I would definitely say something. It’s overhanging by over a foot. It also bisects your view from that window.

DinosaurDiana · 01/05/2021 16:37

That would piss me right off. Tell her to shift it.

Itsokthanks · 01/05/2021 16:39

That's an odd thing to do, are the gardens really small? Looks like they need a smaller one if they want it in that area.

CovidCorvid · 01/05/2021 16:42

Tell her you have just purchased the trellis for some new climbing plants and could she pls move it so you can sort the trellis.

77kidsandcounting · 01/05/2021 16:44

What the actual fuck 'its bad enough theyre in the garden all day everyday'

Ummmm Hmm

WallaceinAnderland · 01/05/2021 16:45

@CovidCorvid

Tell her you have just purchased the trellis for some new climbing plants and could she pls move it so you can sort the trellis.
You need to actually tell them not to let it overhang your garden though as otherwise they might just move it along a bit.
HedgePutty · 01/05/2021 16:48

Fuck no!
I would hate this. Have had so many cheeky neighbours and boundaries.
Just go and tell them that can they move it as they haven’t realised it’s overhanging your garden. Which of course they have they are cheeky fuckers. Then trellis this weekend which if they damage they can replace.

campion · 01/05/2021 16:48

I would be straight with her op. Just say that her parasol is encroaching on your garden and needs to be moved. If she argues, just repeat. People like this need it spelled out in black and white otherwise they continue their piss taking behaviour

This.

You don't need to make excuses, give reasons or ingratiate yourself on her. It's a boundary that she's not legally entitled to cross.
Just be polite but firm.

QuitMoaning · 01/05/2021 16:51

@BraveBraveMouse
I empathize with the neighbours being out all day OP. It really grates and is hard to understand if you've not experienced it. Was actually thinking about starting a support thread somewhere on here for people with annoying, low level CF neighbours (as opposed to real antisocial behaviour)
Your paragraph reads as if someone using their own garden is a CF. You can’t mean that surely? It may be annoying but how on earth is it CF behaviour

Blindstupid · 01/05/2021 16:55

That would annoy me ... and I think they’re being quite cheeky.

On a separate note, whose fence is it? If it’s theirs, you can’t legally put trellising up without their permission. If it’s yours, great.

IEat · 01/05/2021 16:56

A person uses their garden.. call the cops

Twilight7777 · 01/05/2021 16:59

At first I thought oh that’s not a big deal, but no matter how big of deal it is or if it doesn’t impact you, it’s your garden and you are entitled to have a boundary between your garden and your neighbours. If you allow this to continue, what else will they try to push against your will

BingBunnyIsAnnoying · 01/05/2021 16:59

Have a bonfire under it?

Enough4me · 01/05/2021 17:01

It would annoy me.

I wouldn't ask her to please move it, I would ask her when it is being moved across. If she then say "oh we'll move it now" then problem sorted, if she said it's not I would say you don't want it to be damaged when you are using powertools in that area for your new wall fixtures and had assumed it would not constantly overhang your garden. If it still stays there then you can take the end off and pass it back.

GreyhoundG1rl · 01/05/2021 17:01

That's very cheeky. Have you spoken to them about it? It's hard to believe they haven't realised, but you never know.