Shouting at kids, want to stop

[Ncbecauseselfloathing]

I know I ABU.

I can’t stop. I don’t know how.

I am traumatising my DD. She is 3 and so wilful and difficult but she is just 3.

Shouting doesn’t work I know (occasionally it does but mostly it doesn’t).

I am at a loss. I feel like I have been lobotomised and just can’t catch a break between 3 year old and the baby. I have it quite easy compared to others.

I asked GP about help for anger management a while ago and it sounds like you basically have to be seriously fucking up your family and SS involved and then you might be sent to parenting classes. I don’t need that, but my reading books and articles isn’t working.

And I have sworn at people, use a lot of swearing and anger behind the wheel etc.

So you have road rage too?

You need anger management. Its horrible for a child to grow up in a household with a parent like you.

OP I read on a different thread similar to you about a mum that was struggling to control her temper (shouting) around her baby. Someone suggested singing! Everytime you feel that urge to shout rise in you, just start singing. Quietly to yourself or as loudly as you want, it helps redirect that feeling and also gives you an outlet. If your childrens behaviour is generally out of hand then I propose you take up the advice of others and work on techniques towards that. Also another big one is walking away. Remove yourself from the situation(if possible) only for a second. Just to take a breather and remind yourself you dont need to shout. Goodluck op, being a mum Is hard. If anything I really highly suggest the singing, its helped keep me sane

@Kittykat93

You need anger management. Its horrible for a child to grow up in a household with a parent like you.

Unhelpful. OP has said she asked for anger management from her GP already.

@Ncbecauseselfloathing I have been reading this thread in desperation after shouting again like a psycho at my poor DS just for waking up early. I just wondered if you were still around to see if things changed for you and what helped?