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To be shocked at what’s just happened on the school run

422 replies

Molyka88 · 28/04/2021 15:34

So today after picking DCs up from school/nursery a car that was parked up close behind my car put their car into accelerate instead of reverse and ended up pinning me between my rear bumper and their front bumper whilst I was putting bags etc in the boot.

Mum in question did not realise one of my legs was taking the brunt of this until I was shouting to tell her to reverse.
She did apologise at the time, but didn’t get out of the car to ask if I was ok or anything like that!

I’ve got home now and my knee already is swollen and starting to bruise.. I’m also thinking this could have been a much worse accident if this was DS stood in between the car.

Fortunately a parent came over to check if I was ok and he did catch the incident on his dash cam.
So would you put this down as an unfortunate accident or do anything about it? I’m not even sure who or if I would report it too.

OP posts:
Lalliella · 29/04/2021 07:59

Police definitely. Hope you are ok OP.

MrsClatterbuck · 29/04/2021 08:04

Also note there is a time limit to make a claim injury. There may not be any problems with your knee now but something could develop a year from now due to this accident.. So it needs to be documented now.

ouchyouchyow · 29/04/2021 08:08

I would leave it if no harm done. I do course if you have sustained a genuine injury then that's different. Sounds like you're ok though?

The woman was obviously not thinking straight and possibly a bit anxious that she made such a mistake. Sending the police to her house is serious and if you're actually fine, is it worth it?

Stickytreacle · 29/04/2021 08:10

I can't understand those saying the driver shouldn't be reported because she apologised, an apology is also an admission of guilt, her driving is extremely dangerous. Hopefully the op's knee isn't too badly damaged, a young child would have have been much more vulnerable. But hey ho, she apologised so that's alright Confused

mogsrus · 29/04/2021 08:13

dashcam footage is absolute gold,get it if you can & let authorities see it.

Ginuwine · 29/04/2021 08:23

@ouchyouchyow

I would leave it if no harm done. I do course if you have sustained a genuine injury then that's different. Sounds like you're ok though?

The woman was obviously not thinking straight and possibly a bit anxious that she made such a mistake. Sending the police to her house is serious and if you're actually fine, is it worth it?

The woman left the scene of an accident without giving insurance details.

That's an offence. It doesn't matter how in shock someone is initially, they need to woman up and take responsibility.

The law is very clear:

There is an extra requirement when there has been an injury. You must provide your insurance certificate at the scene. If you can’t then you have to report the accident to the police.

Just because we're all nice in Britain and worry about driver's feelings too, doesn't mean they can propel a 2 ton weapon forwards into someone's knee, not leave the car once to check if she is ok, and then drive off and break the law.

HTH.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 29/04/2021 08:30

My thought is that she was under the influence. You absoloutley should persue this.

Ginuwine · 29/04/2021 08:30

Can I ask a question on here?

For all the people saying "leave it, don't embarrass or scare her by having police come to her home" ..:

If someone drove forward into your knee, pinned you against your car, failed to leave the car or provide insurance details, and there was a question mark over what pain you're experiencing ..

.. would you "leave it" if it was you?

SoupDragon · 29/04/2021 08:31

I don’t blame the woman, it was an accident.

Regardless of whether it was an accident, the driver is entirely to blame.

SoupDragon · 29/04/2021 08:32

Sending the police to her house is serious and if you're actually fine, is it worth it?

What she did is serious.

Clymene · 29/04/2021 08:38

@ouchyouchyow

I would leave it if no harm done. I do course if you have sustained a genuine injury then that's different. Sounds like you're ok though?

The woman was obviously not thinking straight and possibly a bit anxious that she made such a mistake. Sending the police to her house is serious and if you're actually fine, is it worth it?

Well the OP hasn't been back since yesterday afternoon when she said she was going to get it checked out. So I'm not sure how you've come to that conclusion, particularly when she was clearly injured anyway.
Physiometric · 29/04/2021 08:45

I wonder if she had been drinking.

mabelandivy · 29/04/2021 08:48

Definitely report it to the Police and school. I can't believe she didn't even get out of the car to check you were okay.

MsTSwift · 29/04/2021 08:58

I’d assume she was utterly pissed. That is not normal behaviour and explains shooting off

Chillychili · 29/04/2021 09:13

Good luck with your knee, hope it has been checked out. As others have said report. I was involved in a car crash, had slight whiplash the next day. Over the course of a few months I ended up with a frozen shoulder, shoulder impingement and two herniated discs in my neck. 5 years later I still suffer from shoulder/neck issues. I accepted just over £2000 compensation, but 5 years later I have lost that/spent that on physio already.

LagneyandCasey · 29/04/2021 09:19

Wow some full on victim blaming going on here.

If there's a person close to my parked car I wait for them to move or ask them politely to move before I attempt to pull away. It's simple common sense surely. It happens all the time in car parks with people loading cars up etc. I'd rather sit and wait a few minutes than potentially hurt someone. If the worst ever did happen and I hurt someone I would do everything to ensure they are helped first aid wise and then provide all my details and inform the police. I certainly wouldn't drive off and think 'oh well, they didn't ask me for my details, their fault'

I hope op is OK Flowers

poppycat10 · 29/04/2021 09:21

an apology is also an admission of guilt

no it isn't

EverythingRuined · 29/04/2021 09:43

Ouch, that sounds painful. I don’t think the other driver was that bad to drive off. You spoke to her and got in your car so she probably thought apologising was enough. I don’t think it’s a ‘hit and run’. I’d follow it up for sure. You might need physio or something and her insurance should pay. TBH. I wouldn’t be angry at her. I’ve made mistakes driving and I don’t think it’s necessary a mistake she would have made because she was being reckless.

Blindstupid · 29/04/2021 09:44

ouch ... REALLY?? Have you even read the thread? Obviously not! You fool.

As someone has just said, if someone drove into you and trapped you between the 2 cars, would you genuinely really leave it?? Hmm ... no is the answer.

I hope you’ve gone to A&E OP ... I hope you’re ok. I hope you contact the police. I hope you get the dashcam footage.

MsTSwift · 29/04/2021 09:52

Jesus. Some of the responses do make me slightly nervous to leave the house?! The minimising of frankly dangerous cavalier driving and then not giving a shit who you hurt as long as your own schedule is not disrupted by one minute is sobering (and quite depressing)

ComDummings · 29/04/2021 09:52

@MsTSwift

Jesus. Some of the responses do make me slightly nervous to leave the house?! The minimising of frankly dangerous cavalier driving and then not giving a shit who you hurt as long as your own schedule is not disrupted by one minute is sobering (and quite depressing)
It’s quite shocking!
Macncheeseballs · 29/04/2021 09:53

It's like drivers who complain about bad cyclists or scooters, just drive safely and don't hit them, that's what mirrors and brakes are for

Peachee · 29/04/2021 09:54

Absolutely report it!!!!

Womencanlift · 29/04/2021 09:55

Mmm.... either @ouchyouchyow is the driver or drives just as carelessly

Macncheeseballs · 29/04/2021 09:55

Driving is about looking out for vulnerable road users, not being right