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To be shocked at what’s just happened on the school run

422 replies

Molyka88 · 28/04/2021 15:34

So today after picking DCs up from school/nursery a car that was parked up close behind my car put their car into accelerate instead of reverse and ended up pinning me between my rear bumper and their front bumper whilst I was putting bags etc in the boot.

Mum in question did not realise one of my legs was taking the brunt of this until I was shouting to tell her to reverse.
She did apologise at the time, but didn’t get out of the car to ask if I was ok or anything like that!

I’ve got home now and my knee already is swollen and starting to bruise.. I’m also thinking this could have been a much worse accident if this was DS stood in between the car.

Fortunately a parent came over to check if I was ok and he did catch the incident on his dash cam.
So would you put this down as an unfortunate accident or do anything about it? I’m not even sure who or if I would report it too.

OP posts:
Happyhappyday · 29/04/2021 03:57

To put it in context, that’s a hit and run which here is the states is a felony, ie, a serious goddamn crime! 5 years and 10k fine! Report her to the police. She might’ve been in shock... but she could’ve come back, tried to find out who you were through the school etc and do the right thing.

sykadelic · 29/04/2021 03:58

As someone who works in insurance, this is a reportable accident on her auto policy and her insurance needs to be involved with your bills/expenses.

Also, absolutely report it to the police. You were a pedestrian struck by a vehicle.

She also needs this on her record. You CANNOT be that careless with kids around!!!

SD1978 · 29/04/2021 04:45

I'm not sure if you can say it's a hit and run if she did talk to you, you spoke back, and then she left? It's bloody poor form not to have talked to you face to face, and she should have got out the car, but to those saying it's a hit and run- why? There was a clear conversation. She absolutely should have done more and physically checked on you. Hope your knee is ok.

HarrietYeti · 29/04/2021 05:18

How did you get on with getting your knee checked @Molyka88?

I fractured my tibial plateau years ago in a relatively low impact fall - the implications of which carried on for several years and required follow up surgery (all fine now!) so please don't delay in getting it checked and if in doubt ask for an X-ray. I was told by one doctor he'd put money on my knee not being broken (I already knew it was as I'd had an X-ray at minor injuries but the machine had then gone down and the images couldn't be sent over to the main hospital where I'd been sent). I told him this but he was sure the nurse had got it wrong - I'd seen the crack and piece of chipped bone myself but what did is she/I know) he couldn't have got out of the cubicle quicker when he had to come back and tell me the CT scan showed a break. Utter wankbadger. Digressed a bit there Grinbut the point remains, you can badly injure your knee quite easily and you must get it seen to. Good luck!

Oh and agree, report it to the police and your insurers.

rwalker · 29/04/2021 05:35

She wasn't aware and you made her aware .You walked over to her she apologised .
I'm assuming you didn't say anything else so the woman presumed it was dealt with .
This is not a hit and run .

RBKB · 29/04/2021 06:01

Phone the police. She could kill a small child next time she forgets how to fucking drive. She is unlikely to get into much trouble but she needs to own what she did.

One of my pupils was knocked off her bike by a school run mum who dashed straight off to collect her own, more precious kid. My pupil's arm was fractured. The mum now has a criminal record.

School run mums are a cliche for a reason. Yes, I had to drive my kids to school but strangely enough, it's possible to do it safely...who knew.

custardbear · 29/04/2021 06:12

That must have been terrifying ! Glad you're contacting the police - she needs some sort of follow up for that - hope the knee is better this morning

GLTM · 29/04/2021 06:23

Get a solicitor to and get compensation and costs covered for private treatment of your knee.

drpet49 · 29/04/2021 06:28

I would report to the police. She couldn’t even be bothered to get it of the car- what kind of person wouldn’t get out the car in that situation?

indiakulfi · 29/04/2021 06:31

Report it to the police. Don't bother reporting it to the school, they can't do anything.

redcandlelight · 29/04/2021 06:32

yep private physio will do wonders for your knee once you know how they are injured.

AlmostSummer21 · 29/04/2021 06:38

@Pinkpaisley

You need to report the incident.

I also have to ask, was this on school grounds or on the street? Our drop off is on school grounds and they gave an extremely strict rules about people walking between the cars. Drivers have to stay in the car. Children are only allowed to exit on the side of the curb (which means you have to arrange your car seats accordingly). You also aren’t allowed to have things in the boot. It’s all to keep people from getting hit with so many cars coming through in such a short time.

Mostly sensible, but 'you aren't allowed to have things in the boot'??

GTF if they think they can dictate what's in my boot.

SoupDragon · 29/04/2021 07:02

@rwalker

She wasn't aware and you made her aware .You walked over to her she apologised . I'm assuming you didn't say anything else so the woman presumed it was dealt with . This is not a hit and run .
She left without leaving her insurance details and car registration number before leaving the scene and has not reported it to the police (presumably. It seems unlikely).

I don't think the term "hit and run" is a legal one anyway.

Mistressinthetulips · 29/04/2021 07:06

Almostsummer I think they can dictate that you can't pull up and open your boot in their carpark (since you haven't any "right" to be in it) I don't think pp meant they care about what you keep in the boot! hoping it's not a body

longwayoff · 29/04/2021 07:15

Report it. What if your child had been alongside you? This could have had a very different outcome. Dont minimise it because 'just me, don't want a fuss '.

whoopsicle · 29/04/2021 07:23

Did you manage to get your knee checked out op? Hope you're ok!

Nith · 29/04/2021 07:33

Whether you call it a hit and run, or whether you call it leaving the scene of an accident, that is undoubtedly what this driver is guilty of. By law if you are involved in an accident that causes injury or damage you must stop and exchange details with the person concerned, or report it to the police. Apologising doesn't take away that duty.

Ginuwine · 29/04/2021 07:36

@SD1978

I'm not sure if you can say it's a hit and run if she did talk to you, you spoke back, and then she left? It's bloody poor form not to have talked to you face to face, and she should have got out the car, but to those saying it's a hit and run- why? There was a clear conversation. She absolutely should have done more and physically checked on you. Hope your knee is ok.

A "clear conversation" - what does that mean for the OP? Does that mean it's all ok now and acknowledgement was all that was required to resolve things?!

A "clear conversation" isn't mitigating, it doesn't allows the perpetrator to get off their responsibilities to provide insurance details at the scene.

The person who hit her is hoping that the world supports CF views like this, that basically say "if you acknowledge the wrong, you don't have to pay".

Fuck their insurance premium - insurance exists for situations such as this.

Wonderingwhatwhere · 29/04/2021 07:38

Can’t believe you didn’t think.
Any injury in a road traffic accident is reportable.
I don’t blame the woman, it was an accident.
But you should have got her details,or asked someone to, or they should have volunteered, as you would have had a shock.
And you should gone straight to hospital if able to drive, to get your leg checked, or been taken

Pippioddstocking · 29/04/2021 07:45

Similar happened to me years ago. Although the initial injury seemed ok it resulted in a year of physio which in the end their insurance company paid for, good job really as total physio bill came to £1500. I’m still not 100 percent on that leg.

HarrietYeti · 29/04/2021 07:47

@wonderingwhatwhere That's a lot of 'you should haves' when in the same sentence acknowledging the OP had just been injured and was likely in shock Hmm

Lumene · 29/04/2021 07:50

I wonder if she was entirely sober? Certainly doesn’t seem a safe driver.

MyOtherProfile · 29/04/2021 07:53

Wow scary. Hope you are ok OP.

MyOtherProfile · 29/04/2021 07:53

@Wonderingwhatwhere

Can’t believe you didn’t think. Any injury in a road traffic accident is reportable. I don’t blame the woman, it was an accident. But you should have got her details,or asked someone to, or they should have volunteered, as you would have had a shock. And you should gone straight to hospital if able to drive, to get your leg checked, or been taken
Not helpful. Have you had an accident and been in shock?
Ginuwine · 29/04/2021 07:56

@Weirdlynormal

I understand the Anne Sacoolas was 'mortified' that she hit that poor lad on his motorbike. It was an accident. Yes and she fucking killed him.

What do we need for people to realise that bad driving costs lives.

Spot on.

There's a weird thing about serious injuries and fatalities when driving, where the right of the driver to continue driving without penalty is considered equal to the rights of the injured, or surviving family of the deceased.

"She must have been in shock after she hit the person"
"She can't have known she hit them"

All of this may be true. But then you give your details. You face up to responsibilities as a driver.

A lot of drivers want it a one way street. The act of driving a car means everyone else suffers the consequences of the risk involved and they throw their hands up like "couldn't be helped am sorry".

Again that's what insurance is for.