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What would you think of a father in this situation? Is it the system or does it reflect more on the man?
moralduty · 27/04/2021 14:03
Man pays over £1000 per month for the lease hire of a luxury brand new car and pays a quarter of this for his two children with his ex. This is calculated by the CMS. He doesn't pay towards school uniform or any extras, just the calculated amount. How does this system work? Do they really think that teenagers cost less than £10 a day? Is it fair that a father can spend four times as much a month on his car than his children? I know that some don't give anything at all and that's worse but the system stinks.
JustLyra · 27/04/2021 14:22
It's impossible to say 1--% without more detail, but it's likely he's a dick.
I do know someone who pays an obscene amount for a hobby compared to his child maintenance because CMS doesn't take into account the fact that he has practically zero normal adult living costs because his parents fund him (lives with them rent free, no bills, they buy the food) like he's 8.
HorridHamble · 27/04/2021 14:27
As a parent in a similar position due to DC’s dad paying himself in dividends instead of salary, I agree that it’s extremely frustrating. There is nothing I can do. We have an informal agreement because he would pay even less via CMS. The system is flawed. I count my lucky stars I didn’t sacrifice my career as he suggested, and I am able to provide for the children myself, but it’s not the point.
FetchezLaVache · 27/04/2021 14:52
@GilbertsLuckySocks
Child maintenance isn't spending money for the children, it's the NRP's contribution towards the costs incurred by the RP for feeding, clothing and housing them. And in this case, the RP is getting less than a tenner a day for two teenagers. HTH.
CarrieBlue · 27/04/2021 15:01
@GilbertsLuckySocks
Breakfast - £1
School dinner - £2.50
Tea - £1.50
So for two kids, there’s your £10.
Everything else - clothes, transport, utilities, roof, hobbies etc will be far more expensive and down to the rp. HTH
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