To want the babling toddler next door to be quiet.

[DeeSeeMee]

Next doors toddler talks constantly in the garden - that in itself would not be so bad but her parents constantly answer her! So it just a contant stream of nonsense loud chatter coming from the garden next door. I'm not going to say anything, but surely I'm not BU to find this annoying?
I appreciate little ones chatter but surely the parents must be aware they are being really noisy. I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

[Eileen101]

YABU. You live in a community, not in the middle of nowhere.
Toddlers do chatter and babble, and parents respond. It's how they learn speech and conversation. I'm glad you're not my neighbours.

[Nannewnannew]

Well OP I have to agree with you I’m afraid. My neighbours have a toddler who can only communicate by SHOUTING, Indoors or out, she’s not fussy and it’s constant. I’m sure no one has ever told her to talk in an indoor voice. It makes working or sitting in the garden unpleasant.

[Bloodypunkrockers]

@Musmerian

Perhaps this toddler, through babbling and interacting with her parents, will become articulate and literate unlike you. You are being hugely unreasonable.

In what way is the OP either inarticulate or illiterate?

[Hardbackwriter]

I would no more ignore my toddler talking to me than I'd ignore an adult, and I certainly wouldn't do it so our neighbours had silence . It's our garden! If they're shouting that's different - and I do ask my toddler to be quieter, out of consideration for others - but if they're talking at a normal volume then you're being unbelievably unreasonable.

[CandleWick4]

This thread has made me so sad. You actually want a parent to ignore their toddler when they talk? Tell them to be quiet and ignore them when they’re trying to communicate? Jesus you absolutely miserable thing. If you can’t handle people talking in their own back garden - move! Move somewhere far away where your miserable thoughts can’t poison other people.

[Redskyyy]

I didn’t realise this was a problem until now...my twins (just turned 1) babble and I always talk back. Is that not normal?! Genuinely interested to know if this is not what other people do...

[lottieproject]

I have two toddlers and soon to move to our own house with our first very own garden! Was planning on spending every sunny second in the garden since spending all the lockdowns in a flat but now I'm scared about pissing off the neighbours 🥴 are they really loud or is it normal speaking level?

[SparrowNest]

@Redskyyy

I didn’t realise this was a problem until now...my twins (just turned 1) babble and I always talk back. Is that not normal?! Genuinely interested to know if this is not what other people do...

It’s not a problem!! It’s what all good parents do, and most people understand that. Many even enjoy children chattering.

Please don’t let self-absorbed miseries like the OP stop you don’t what’s best for your kids.

[Mellonsprite]

Christ, and I thought I was a right miserable tw*t

[Iliketeaagain]

@Redskyyy

I didn’t realise this was a problem until now...my twins (just turned 1) babble and I always talk back. Is that not normal?! Genuinely interested to know if this is not what other people do...

It is absolutely normal for toddlers to babble and for parents to talk back.

It might well be irritating if you want a silent garden and to hear nothing but the birds. But most people realise it's a normal thing for toddlers to do - it's how we learn to talk. Even for those children who are non-verbal, it's important to to hear speech and speech patterns.

Honestly, I'm glad our neighbours have children similar ages to ours - neither of us worry about the noise in the garden (except both of us try to stop the shrieking - that irritates me from my own DC never mind anyone else's)

[Jumpers268]

@Redskyyy

I didn’t realise this was a problem until now...my twins (just turned 1) babble and I always talk back. Is that not normal?! Genuinely interested to know if this is not what other people do...

Oh it's completely normal and it's definitely not a problem. My 6 year old was discussing the repercussions of Brexit today in the garden and I could hear my neighbours chuckling 😂😂. Most people with neighbours don't find it annoying when their neighbours talk in their own garden!

[IvysPoison]

@Liverbird77

My child is under speech therapy. One of things we need to continue to do is to repeat back what he says and then build on the language.

If you lived next door to us, and told me it was bothering you, I'd be mindful to not take over the whole day and give you some quiet time.
Have you spoken to the parents?
Yabu to be so critical of them because they are doing exactly what they should be doing to assist their child's development.

If my child was under speech therapy (or not) and regular talking was essential for my child's development then I would carry on talking with my child in MY garden, and think anyone who objected to a toddler talking in their own back garden a complete and utter twat.

There are so many adults out there who talk loudly and incessantly with no consideration for others (or benefit to themselves) and we all have to put up with it, yet it's a child learning to talk who should shut up.

OP, you sound really exhausting, miserable and a complete fun sucker.

[DrunkOnOneSip]

I am confused at the responses on this thread.

Where in any of OP's posts has she complained about the babbling from the toddler or expressed that the parents should shut the child up.

She has complained that the parents responses are over the top and performance level so would like them to tone it down.

It looks like another thread where reading comprehension is absent and makes this site appear to be full of over opiniated types who don't pause for two seconds before they go off on what they think they have just read.

It is very concerning that an awful lot of people on apparently six figure salaries, from their very important intellectual jobs, cannot fucking read properly. Perhaps their parents should have spent more time on assisting their education as it pertains to written communication.

[Jumpers268]

@DrunkOnOneSip . I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones. It's in the OP.

[Confusedaboutlots]

obviously YANBU to find it annoying

but YABU if you expect them the situation to change - it’s what toddlers do

[Maggiesfarm]

It surely cannot be all day every day. We haven't had that much good weather yet.

[SparrowNest]

@DrunkOnOneSip

I am confused at the responses on this thread.

Where in any of OP's posts has she complained about the babbling from the toddler or expressed that the parents should shut the child up.

She has complained that the parents responses are over the top and performance level so would like them to tone it down.

It looks like another thread where reading comprehension is absent and makes this site appear to be full of over opiniated types who don't pause for two seconds before they go off on what they think they have just read.

It is very concerning that an awful lot of people on apparently six figure salaries, from their very important intellectual jobs, cannot fucking read properly. Perhaps their parents should have spent more time on assisting their education as it pertains to written communication.

How did you have all that time to type such a long response, but not to actually read the OP? She says right there that she wants them to tell the toddler to shut up or to ignore it.

[JeanClaudeVanDammit]

It’s good to hear that answering your children when they speak to you is performance parenting now. I thought it was absolute bare fucking minimum.

[CandleWick4]

@DrunkOnOneSip

I am confused at the responses on this thread.

Where in any of OP's posts has she complained about the babbling from the toddler or expressed that the parents should shut the child up.

She has complained that the parents responses are over the top and performance level so would like them to tone it down.

It looks like another thread where reading comprehension is absent and makes this site appear to be full of over opiniated types who don't pause for two seconds before they go off on what they think they have just read.

It is very concerning that an awful lot of people on apparently six figure salaries, from their very important intellectual jobs, cannot fucking read properly. Perhaps their parents should have spent more time on assisting their education as it pertains to written communication.

OP literally says ‘I wish they would ignore her or tell her to be quiet’ maybe you should learn to fucking read properly

[Levis501star]

I think OP can want the best for neighbour's child (parental interaction etc) AND be annoyed and the babble

I loathe hearing toddlers bable in silly voices so I totally get you.

Get some wireless noise cancelling overhead ones. You will hear very little with some decent music. 😀

[Belladonna12]

It is annoying if it's all the time but that's life. It's better than the noise of people partying or children screaming. One of my neighbours would put their child outside to scream and cry last year. My teenage DC shouted at them to shut up a couple of times! They haven't done it this year...

[MiddleParking]

I hope people like you get all the misery you’d look to inflict on everyone else in spades. Pathetic behaviour.

[tillytoodles1]

I have two kids, now adults, but when they were young their constant wittering got on my nerves, never mind the poor neighbours having to listen to it.

[toastfiend]

My toddler and I chat all the time in the garden. I do try to model volume control, but my DH is deaf as a post so all bets are off when he's out there (I do frequently remind him to keep it down). I don't feel bad about it tbh, better for him that we're outside chatting rather than me sitting on my phone ignoring him. Fortunately, most of our neighbours also have kids so we all just tolerate each other's children's noise. The ones who don't have kids might hate it, but I hate listening to their crap music in the garden every time the sun makes an appearance, so we all have our things to put up with. I'd rather listen to a happy toddler than 'Mysterious Girl' on a loop with accompanying "singing"/wailing.

All that being said, I do hate feeling like I'm sharing my garden every time we're all outside in our respective gardens, because they're packed in so close together. My main criteria for our next house is that it's more isolated so I can be a miserable prick about other people's music/karaoke/all-night drinking sessions, without it affecting anyone. For now, I just grind my teeth, mutter a lot, but put up with it, as I (admittedly foolishly) chose to live in a new-build with other people at close quarters.

[Mrsmadevans]

Put ear buds in OP they hide a multitude of horrors lol