To want the babling toddler next door to be quiet.

[DeeSeeMee]

Next doors toddler talks constantly in the garden - that in itself would not be so bad but her parents constantly answer her! So it just a contant stream of nonsense loud chatter coming from the garden next door. I'm not going to say anything, but surely I'm not BU to find this annoying?
I appreciate little ones chatter but surely the parents must be aware they are being really noisy. I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

You can find anything you want annoying but yabu to expect parents to ignore or shush their young child in their own back garden.

Why don't you soundproof your garden, then you won't have to listen to it?

I find my neighbours talking in their garden irritating too. Outrageously the husband says things and his wife answers rather than ignoring him or telling him to be quiet.

But talking in your garden is perfectly normal neighbour noise that you just have to live with.

Fine to be annoyed but you are being unreasonable if you want to ask them to stop. Can do anything in your own garden and comes with the price of living next door to others

You're not being unreasonable to find it annoying but it's tough shit really. Even if her parents told her to be quiet, she wouldn't. Have you met a toddler? Mine babbles all day long, it's how they learn.

This kind of conversation type behaviour, reflection and subtle correction from the parent is how children learn to talk. Sure the parent should just bung the child on an iPad instead, to suit you.

I’ve always wondered how people on Mumsnet would cope in a country where most people live in flats. All this ‘need’ for silence. Neighbours should be seen, not heard according to MN standards.

I have teenagers now. They only speak to me when they want food or money. I miss the toddler years and the constant questions/demands but enjoy the actual sleep

You're not unreasonable to find it annoying but you're never going to have full quiet in a garden in a street. It's always going to be something - people chatting, music, a loud TV, a hoover, a bbq, traffic.

@EileenGC

I’ve always wondered how people on Mumsnet would cope in a country where most people live in flats. All this ‘need’ for silence. Neighbours should be seen, not heard according to MN standards.

I am sure that many posters don't even want to see their neighbours

I’ve been subjected to loud Romanian folk-dance music since 9.00 this morning, combined with long shouty discussions. Swap with you?

YANBU to find it annoying, bit neither are they BU to use their garden and talk to their child.

They can't tell the child to stop talking, but you can block out the noise in a simple way. So that is what you should do tbh.

"Go and live in a retirement village with only the eerie silence of awaiting the grim reaper then."

Gonna get the popcorn out for all the ageism rage coming your way...

My child is under speech therapy. One of things we need to continue to do is to repeat back what he says and then build on the language.

If you lived next door to us, and told me it was bothering you, I'd be mindful to not take over the whole day and give you some quiet time.
Have you spoken to the parents?
Yabu to be so critical of them because they are doing exactly what they should be doing to assist their child's development.

When ds with autism cannot cope with next doors children (or anyone else for that matter) talking I have taught him to come in. Perhaps you could do that.

Reverse?

I quite agree with you OP, especially is it is 'baby talk'! However, I have learned to keep my mouth shut on these topics as if you dare to criticise any of the little darlings, you are soundly told off! Maybe it will start raining soon and that will solve the problem!

You're a misery-guts aren't you?

I feel sorry for you. What kind of person wants a toddler to be ignored? They learn to talk by babbling and being responded to. You had to learn to talk to you know.

To hear a toddler chatting and being responded to is so much better than "mummy... mummy... mummy...mum!"
"WHAT?"

You're annoyed a toddler is talking in her own garden? And you want her parents to tell her to be quiet? Surely this is a troll post.

Do you want her to just tell her child to shut up and stop learning to speak?

@IceSwallowCome

"Go and live in a retirement village with only the eerie silence of awaiting the grim reaper then."

Gonna get the popcorn out for all the ageism rage coming your way...

I did chuckle though.....

I don't think you're being unreasonable in the slightest (and I've had three chatty toddlers!).

From what you say it's not actually the toddler chat, or the parents' encouragement of it. It's the utter relentlessness of the fact that it sounds like they are in their garden pretty much all the time and talking all the time.

It's one thing to live in a neighbourhood with families and some noise is to be expected. But constant relentless noise is something else entirely.

Whether it's toddlers babbling, children laughing, adults talking, music playing, lawnmowers mowing, dogs barking - all normal part and parcel of living in a community - all of this is fine and bearable as long as one sound is not happening for hours on end, day after day. It can become incredibly stressful if it feels as if there is no let up in one particular sound.

For example neighbours of ours once spent two days' solid over a sunny bank holiday pressure washing their front and back gardens and by the end of day one I just wanted to cry. If they'd only used the washer for an hour or two it wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest but the hours on end phut-phut-phutting was just miserable.

It's not unreasonable to find it annoying, (I used to find my toddlers annoying - and exhausting- when they asked 400 questions a day) but it is unreasonable to think the parents should ignore them....and ignoring them doesnt always mean they will be quiet!