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To want the babling toddler next door to be quiet.

272 replies

DeeSeeMee · 25/04/2021 16:44

Next doors toddler talks constantly in the garden - that in itself would not be so bad but her parents constantly answer her! So it just a contant stream of nonsense loud chatter coming from the garden next door. I'm not going to say anything, but surely I'm not BU to find this annoying?
I appreciate little ones chatter but surely the parents must be aware they are being really noisy. I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

OP posts:
RickJames · 26/04/2021 16:22

Aw, I'm just sitting here listen to next-door's queen bee toddler boss her little mates about. It's hilarious and cute. She's so bossy! But on the other hand, she's keeping them busy and entertained. Alpha toddler Grin I think the mums are indoors watching them through the patio doors. YABU for getting cross at sweet toddler chatter but YANBU for getting sick of annoying parents.

Mittens030869 · 26/04/2021 16:43

I honestly never understand the number of threads on here where people are horrified by the fact their neighbours make noise in their own houses & gardens. Unless it's party music at 2am I just can't see how you have the right to be upset other people are daring to exist in your vicinity.

^This. It’s ridiculous to expect silence from your neighbours in their own gardens. Shouting is inconsiderate certainly, as is loud music, and children playing loudly on the trampoline. But not a toddler babbling and the parent replying for goodness sake.

Beetlewing · 26/04/2021 16:45

@ComDummings

At least the toddler isn’t screeching I guess?
Or playing on the grownups play equipment at the park
Greenmarmalade · 26/04/2021 17:09

My kids must really drive our neighbours mad. Amongst other not particularly quiet offspring, I have a loud toddler and a sweary teenager who has extremely loud meltdowns. Luckily most of my neighbours are bloody lovely so tolerate us... some even like us (weird).

KurtWilde · 26/04/2021 17:33

I was thinking the same @Greenmarmalade Mine range from babbling toddlers to teens - we're a large family. I also have dogs. Luckily my neighbours are nothing like OP.

KizzyMoo · 26/04/2021 17:57

That does sound annoying 😆

Greenmarmalade · 26/04/2021 18:48

@KurtWilde we also have a dog 😆 can’t apologise for just living a life, right?

KurtWilde · 26/04/2021 19:03

[quote Greenmarmalade]@KurtWilde we also have a dog 😆 can’t apologise for just living a life, right?[/quote]
Exactly

AWellReadWoman · 26/04/2021 21:41

If I ignored my babbling toddler he'd just get louder and louder and more persistent until he got an answer. So probably less annoying in the long run for me to just answer and acknowledge him the first time!

Thatisnotwhatisaid · 26/04/2021 21:45

If I stop and ignore I just get a very loud "mummy mummy mummy mummy" so I'm not sure which is more annoying?

This did make me laugh, it’s so true Grin. You sound like a miserable bugger OP. I love hearing my toddler talk, think it’s the cutest and loveliest thing ever. Of course I respond to him, how else do you think humans learn to talk in the first place?

Embroideredstars · 26/04/2021 22:04

Babbling I dont mind, squealing and shrieking of older kids gets me! Grin

I didn't allow mine to just scream like the kids behind me do, playing fine, shrieking no, if only because then one doesnt know if it's a real emergency or not.

therocinante · 26/04/2021 22:04

I find pretty much all noise from my neighbours annoying, does that make me unreasonable too? It doesn't mean I'm posting them poison pen letters threatening them to live in silence, but I still find it irritating.

If I ever win the lottery I'm going to buy a house in the middle of nowhere and I will never have to listen to children, noisy barbecues, shagger-next-door or anything else ever again.

Saoirse82 · 27/04/2021 00:51

YABVU. You sound like the kind of person who will always find something to moan about.

Remaker · 27/04/2021 01:03

I think YABU for being irritated by talking. They need to babble in order to learn. Unless you live in an isolated area you’re going to experience neighbourhood sounds and this is one of them.

My neighbours have a 5 year old whose default setting is screaming blue murder every time something displeases her, which is about every 10 mins. And her older brother is learning the trumpet! They’re still nice neighbours though so we just put up with it.

YellowPurple · 27/04/2021 01:05
Biscuit

Move....

Into a field or a tent !!

Gothichouse40 · 27/04/2021 03:17

In all honesty Id rather have the chatter than the constant high pitched screaming many toddlers seem to do now. The only ones that don't seem to hear it are the parents.

PerveenMistry · 27/04/2021 03:20

@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee

I'm sure the mum probably feels the same and has this all day and half the night in my case. If I stop and ignore I just get a very loud "mummy mummy mummy mummy" so I'm not sure which is more annoying? Hopefully now more places are open they will spend time in different places for everyone's sanity
Yeah well the mum had a choice in the matter.

Inflicting a babbling brat on others is obnoxious. She should take it indoors.

1forAll74 · 27/04/2021 04:23

I mostly see, and hear toddlers chatting to their Mums and even their Dads, and they get hardly any feedback, because their parents are always,always,on their phones.. Children can learn,and store up lots of words and speech,by chattering, and getting some conversation back from a parent/parents.

IncorrigibleTitmouse · 27/04/2021 04:29

As someone who needs a certain amount of absolute silence in their day for wellbeing reasons, I completely understand where you’re coming from. Unfortunately there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it though.

MiddleParking · 27/04/2021 04:59

Inflicting a babbling brat on others is obnoxious.

You’d have to be really, deeply, painfully miserable to talk like this about a chatting toddler. Good. Anyone who would deserves to be.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 27/04/2021 05:05

Yanbu, constant talk from children is bloody irritating. The child near us is allowed and encouraged to scream CONSTANTLY. Now, I like kids, j have 3, I look after them for a living, but ffs, they don't need toake constant noise. Teach them that they need to be quiet sometimes. It's like people are scared to tell their children no. It won't scar them for life, I promise.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 27/04/2021 05:09

@AWellReadWoman

If I ignored my babbling toddler he'd just get louder and louder and more persistent until he got an answer. So probably less annoying in the long run for me to just answer and acknowledge him the first time!
Why not just tell him to stop and be quiet?
Justa47 · 27/04/2021 05:37

@DeeSeeMee

It’s all about balance. If it happens all the time ie every day they weather is good it not ok. How would they feel if you decided to play music every day. Not very loud just loud enough. Children talking can be fun but also not. People with young children often think that their right to have kids means they have the right. It’s all about balance. It would appear they don’t have it. They should be more considerate and not just answer the child they should engage with it in doing things.

SmallPrawnEnergy · 27/04/2021 07:06

@MiddleParking

Inflicting a babbling brat on others is obnoxious.

You’d have to be really, deeply, painfully miserable to talk like this about a chatting toddler. Good. Anyone who would deserves to be.

I’ve seen this posters name on multiple threads and deeply, painfully miserable is a nicer way to describe them
Jellybabiesforbreakfast · 27/04/2021 07:19

inflicting a babbling brat on others is obnoxious

The child is in their own garden, not being inflicted upon others.

Unfortunately if we choose to live next to others, we need to put up with a bit of noise from their day-to-day living. If we think they're being unreasonably noisy, we can complain to the council or the police.

So that's your answer OP...report this babbling brat to your council as a statutory nuisance and see what they say Wink.