To want the babling toddler next door to be quiet.

[DeeSeeMee]

Next doors toddler talks constantly in the garden - that in itself would not be so bad but her parents constantly answer her! So it just a contant stream of nonsense loud chatter coming from the garden next door. I'm not going to say anything, but surely I'm not BU to find this annoying?
I appreciate little ones chatter but surely the parents must be aware they are being really noisy. I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

inflicting a babbling brat on others is obnoxious

What a disgusting way to talk about a little child learning to speak.

But then I scrolled back to see who posted it and ... well colour me surprised. 🙄

@Lknocsqq11

Are they performance parenting, OP?

In their own garden?!?! Maybe they just like interacting with their child....

I see the child haters are out in force now. I feel sad for your kids quite frankly. To speak like that about such a tiny child is thoroughly disgusting.

I hope you got what you were after, OP, a bunch of harridans picking on a toddler. Fucking mumsnet has gone to shit.

Maybe they just like interacting with their child

Heaven forbid.

Better to stick them in front of an iPad.

Oh wait, they’d be whinging about that too.

I’ve seen this posters name on multiple threads and deeply, painfully miserable is a nicer way to describe them

Oh yeah, the yoga mat freak. Never done whining (on a parenting website) about how it hates children and parents, as if anyone gives a fuck.

Wait till they start having friends around playing in the garden and then you get the noise and things appearing over your fence (balls, toys etc).

Then a bit further on its the music and other teenage disturbance.

Toddler is just the start.

I think if you want to enjoy silence or at least minimal noise in your garden then you should move to a detached house somewhere remote.
I live in a terrace house in London and hear noise from everywhere, that is the sacrifice I made when living here. If peace and quiet was important to me then I wouldn’t live here.

@Redsky.
Just saw this thread. Please completely ignore the OP and others who agree with her.
Talking to your little ones is essential for their development ànd you are doing a great job. Keep going as you are. 💐

@notthemum

I agree. It looks like some of them still hold to the belief that children should be ‘seen and not heard’.

@3WildOnes

I think if you want to enjoy silence or at least minimal noise in your garden then you should move to a detached house somewhere remote. I live in a terrace house in London and hear noise from everywhere, that is the sacrifice I made when living here. If peace and quiet was important to me then I wouldn’t live here.

Not everyone can afford to live in a detached house far from any others.

YABVU
it's fine to not enjoy it, its very unreasonable to suggest the parent should tell them to be quiet.
I have no children and have been wfh throughout the pandemic in a crowded london council estate with my main windows facing over the garden areas of my neighbours. Child play noise of toddlers (play I would add, not constant screaming, that's different ) has definitely made me cranky sometimes and has been a very difficult feature of the pandemic for me. Never in a million years though would I think that a parent should hush their toddler from playing/babbling in their own garden throughout the day (as I said, screaming is another matter. Luckily the kids in my block dont generally do this but are avid babblers, creative play etc). What else do you expect children to do? Wait inside just existing and keeping out your way until they grow up?

@DeeSeeMee

Interesting some of the comments effectively say it’s ok what they do. So why not if it winds you up get a sound meter and turn music on at the same volume

I think it’s always give and take. People shouldn’t do the same thing every day if they leave near each other.

YANBU to find it annoying but YABU to say anything or try to do something about it. But you said you wouldn't so don't feel guilty for your thoughts

Not everyone can afford to live in a detached house far from any others.

Ah well, then they’ll need to cut their cloth accordingly and put up with the rest of us plebs daring to exist within hearing distance.

@MiddleParking

Not everyone can afford to live in a detached house far from any others.

Ah well, then they’ll need to cut their cloth accordingly and put up with the rest of us plebs daring to exist within hearing distance.

I didn't say otherwise. I just disagree with the point that "if you want to enjoy silence or at least minimal noise in your garden then you should move to a detached house somewhere remote" as that implies that people have a choice. Most people don't.

People saying that aren’t really imagining that those people are making an active choice not to live in detached houses. They’re implying that if you can’t afford to live in a detached house it’s tough shit if you can hear people.

If you can't afford to live in a detached house, it is tough shit if you can hear people living their everyday lives.

I'd love a detached house, we can't afford one and I can hear our neighbour's dog barking. AIBU to request him to muzzle it 24/7. Yes!

YANBU to find it personally irritating; but I think YABU to expect the mother to ignore the child or shut them up. Toddlers do talk, and it's good for their speech and language development to have these early conversations. Over the last year, many children, who were less lucky than this one in having a responsive parent, have missed out on a lot of conversation and interaction, and schools are commenting on how this has put many children behind in their language development. Now that it's spring, of course neighbour noises in general are getting more noticeable due to more people being outside or having their windows open. Unless the child is screaming, or is out in the garden very early in the morning or late in the evening, I think you just have to get earplugs or headphones if it's bothering you.

@MiddleParking

People saying that aren’t really imagining that those people are making an active choice not to live in detached houses. They’re implying that if you can’t afford to live in a detached house it’s tough shit if you can hear people.

How do you know what everyone else thinks? The poster I was quoting and responding to implied that she thought there was a choice. The fact that you understand it isn't always a choice is irrelevant as I wasn't responding to you.

How do you know what everyone else thinks?

A thing called ‘context’. Do you think that poster really thinks everyone can afford detached houses?

@MiddleParking

How do you know what everyone else thinks?

A thing called ‘context’. Do you think that poster really thinks everyone can afford detached houses?

They may not think absolutely everyone can afford a detached house but they clearly think it is a choice for OP or they wouldn't state

"I think if you want to enjoy silence or at least minimal noise in your garden then you should move to a detached house somewhere remote." and "I live in a terrace house in London and hear noise from everywhere, that is the sacrifice I made when living here. If peace and quiet was important to me then I wouldn’t live here."