To want the babling toddler next door to be quiet.

[DeeSeeMee]

Next doors toddler talks constantly in the garden - that in itself would not be so bad but her parents constantly answer her! So it just a contant stream of nonsense loud chatter coming from the garden next door. I'm not going to say anything, but surely I'm not BU to find this annoying?
I appreciate little ones chatter but surely the parents must be aware they are being really noisy. I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

i'm not a fan of other peoples kids but i'd rather hear them than some stupid lost noise from a sound system,
Op is allowed an opinion though, just because some posters don't agree with her, not need to get bitchy,

If it’s just talking then yes YABU. If it’s shouting/shrieking/screaming then not so much. I have a 3 year old who barely draws breath from the second she wakes up. If I don’t answer her occasionally you’d just hear mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy instead and that would be more annoying.

My neighbours have gaggle of young children and are fairly vocal themselves. And they have a trampoline, and bad parking habits to boot, but really, the kids talking and playing is my issue if I find it irritating. I have to try to separate the annoyingness of the parents from the normal behaviour of the children.

I would say if that's the only problem you have with your neighbours you're very lucky.

I could give you a long list of things my neighbours do that would trump a chatty kid.

@EileenGC

I’ve always wondered how people on Mumsnet would cope in a country where most people live in flats. All this ‘need’ for silence. Neighbours should be seen, not heard according to MN standards.

From the reactions of people I've seen on here about what must happen for them, they would literally curl up into a ball and die if they can't get their way. High over reacting on here sometimes.

Why did you buy a house next to other people or where other people could be if you don't like the sound of kids op? We bought a house next to a school knowing we would hear the kids, don't suddenly start complaining about it though. We knew it was three. You knew there were other houses big enough to house a family, so it was inevitable. Don't like it? Move and isolate yourself, otherwise just ignore it. Hardly difficult.

Maybe you ought to buy a house on a remote island. I can think of a million things worthy of being irritated at over a chattering toddler and parents who don't ignore. Can imagine the alternative would be complaints about a crying child being ignored by their parents.

My neighbours have a frequently screaming/crying toddler AND a 5 yr old who shouts whilst bouncing on the trampoline

And they’re just finishing a whole house refurb which has taken since Jan last year

One babbling toddler sounds like a dream!

If you came over and told my toddler to stop babbling I would tell you to get a life! There are worst things in the world to worry about.

Are you serious?

I grew up in inner London with my next door neighbours music with the most explicit and offensive lyrics blaring out. I’m talking pro guns, rape, violence!! Did I mention the swearing in the lyrics??

I couldn’t get wound up about toddler chatter.

@DeeSeeMee

It is the over parenting that is driving me potty (which there has just been a long loud discussion about too).

So this is the same thread as before. Replies stopped so you began a knee thread. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sorry OP but YABU of course it would be nice to sit in a lovely quiet garden with only birdsong for miles but it's just unrealistic to expect that if you live in an area with adjoining gardens. There is always some noise and it's sheer luck if you don't have a noisy neighbour.

Yeah, I doubt they're out there all day every day doing it. Occasionally they do things like eat, sleep, go out etc.

And anyway, this is not your neighbours having a party. You're complaining about people talking FFS.

Totally unreasonable. You need to move to the middle of nowhere in the countryside if you don't want to hear people at all.

I'm finding you really annoying for finding it annoying quite honestly.

I wish they would just ignore her or tell her to be quiet. I've resorted to headphones.

Their child is at the age where they’re learning to talk. One of my children had a speech delay, and talking to toddlers is really important.

Keep going with your headphones.

I'm worried you're my next door neighbour. If you are, can I tell you that she wouldn't shut up if I ignored her, she'd just get LOUDER 🤣

@Hopdathelf

YANBU but someone will be along in a minute to say you’re a misery guts, the sound of children chattering is the most beautiful sound of all, it takes a village, etc.

But I get you. When it’s just a stream of consciousness babble all day it goes right through you.

Well no. But if you buy a house next door to someone else you can probably expect them to talk to each other in their own garden during the day.

I find noise annoying but I don't live in the wilderness with no neighbors for miles so I can't complain.

And I find it crazy that you actually expect your neighbours to ignore their talking child in case it annoys you.

Right so if they ignored her I'm sure you'd be on here saying shall I report NDN because constantly ignoring their child.

Get a grip, OP.

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@Cam2020

Get yourself a place in an over 50s estate and hope no grandchildren ever visit. Problem solved.

That’s what we did. It’s great. We’ve brought down the average age by about 30 years. But no kids 😄

When comments like this pop up I always think ‘thank god you joined the world fully formed age 25, and no one every had to wipe your backside or listen to you chatter’

Me too. Same with learner drivers, where some people who were once in the exact same position as they were will curse them with every name under the sun, just because they're a bit slower and more cautious.

The toddler stage can be challenging and noisy, but it's crucial for parents to engage with them. I'd a million times rather hear a giggling chattering toddler being interacted with by a loving parent rather than one who's ignored, shoved out of the parents' way and told to STFU every time they open their mouth.

Even if you don't care about the child and their family themselves, surely you realise that these are the kind of toddlers who are far more likely to grow up and be pleasant, helpful members of the community rather than the sort who make your life and neighbourhood a nightmare by seeking any kind of attention - because they never received it through the proper channels as they were growing up.

Essentially, you're asking:
There's a toddler behaving like a toddler - AIBU?
The toddler's parents are bringing her up with care and kindness, so that she feels loved, secure and valued - AIBU?

Sorry, YABVVVU.

Hahaha, like ignoring children really makes them quieter!! Good thought. You do realise that this is how kids learn how to speak and hold a conversation? In all seriousness I think you might need to think about how suited you are to living in an area with immediate neighbours, wait until they have 2 more kids, a paddling pool and a trampoline.

My neighbours were moaning about my nephew babbling in the garden earlier. I've spent years wishing they would go the fuck inside and shut up. They were given very short shrift. They do not get to police what we do in our garden.

They should tell their toddler to be quiet in case she disturbs someone in another garden?? Perhaps you need to live in a more isolated location? YABVU.