To think I was made to feel bad (and get into debt!) for no reason!!

[tatoowooo]

I have NC'd For this but to cut a long story short. About 3 years ago a best friend of mine was getting married, she announced the wedding would be abroad. (8 months notice) After a lot of thought I came to the conclusion that I couldn't afford to go. Anyway, after A LOT of conversations and persuasions..."please come, it won't be the same without you, I need you there, and I can't believe you won't be there to watch me get married" etc etc

I decided to get a credit card (my decision I know) and book the holiday.

Now back to today, I call round to my friend and she's moving house so I'm helping her pack. There's a frame beside her bed (with two characters made from pebbles etc and a date above it! I said awhhh look this is cute, yes she said dh gave it to me this year on our wedding date. I said....errm the date Is wrong though it's says x date and your wedding was on y date! Oh yeah she said, we did a registry office wedding before we went, we had too and because my Nan and my SIL couldn't come to the wedding and we had a dinner after!!! I said nothing...but my heart sank! They had a wedding TWO WEEKS before the wedding that they persuaded me to take out a credit card for when she just could have invited me to the real bloody thing!! I KNOW I'm being too emotional over this and what's done is done AND they are entitled to do it whatever way they want!! But I agonised over it, she knew my finances at the time. I just feel like I've been had

@osbertthesyrianhamster

You are not their lawyer, why would you remotely care? It's really not about YOU.

Who is saying it is? You really have a bone to pick over this, where you the OP's friend , sounds like it. An invitation is about YOU, as you keep putting it. It's addressed to you. So if you don't care to see a fake wedding, then YOU decline the invitation. It's what happens IRL. But marriage is a legal contract and the legal part is what makes it so, anything else is a play ceremony.

A birthday doesn't involve a ceremony.

oh so YOU don't go to wedding parties or any of the after "show", you just stick to the signature of the contract.

Weird friend you are.

It's funny that you accuse me of having "a bone to pick" but you keep trying to justify yourself . You are very invested in all that!