My 16yo DS and his girlfriend (Part 2)

[workworkworkugh]

Just opening a new thread as I believe the other one is getting full.
Will try and link the old one

It's part 4 thats been zapped I wonder if Op is able to ask MNHQ to reinstate it in relationship or somewhere other than AIBU

@AngusThermopyle there was a thread 4 that was deleted because of comments from posters about the gf.

@workworkworkugh glad to have you back - can I ask what does d &m mean? Best of luck to your DS starting his apprenticeship!

Deep & meaningful, her Dad was definitely not the person for it.

I can't believe your thread was deleted! a couple of awful posters derailed it and it got out of hand.

Hope everything works out ok OP x

[quote RonSwansonsChair]@AngusThermopyle there was a thread 4 that was deleted because of comments from posters about the gf.

@workworkworkugh glad to have you back - can I ask what does d &m mean? Best of luck to your DS starting his apprenticeship![/quote]
Ohh, ok. Thanks.

@Lockdownbear

Deep & meaningful, her Dad was definitely not the person for it.

Thanks! New one for me 😊

Ah OP I was wondering where you had gone. Hope your ok, I wonder if this is the calm before thew storm

Why on earth did they delete part 4!

Felt very unfair to me that mumsnet decided as it ran to four threads they said they couldn’t see what you were still getting from it surely that’s for you to decide @workworkworkugh

@workworkworkugh just read threads 1-3. So stressed for you!

@workworkworkugh, have you asked MN whether they would consider reinstating it, or at least let you have access to it for diary purposes?

Thanks for the update @workworkworkugh

Fingers crossed your son now moves on with his life.

It was very wrong of mumsnet to delete your thread. If mumsnet have any idea how abuse works they would know that it can take a long time for people to untangle themselves from relationships. There’s no maximum time limit for when support stops being helpful, men aren’t the only culprits and people who treat others badly don’t always wait until their 18th birthday to do so.

If you have access to a laptop I suggest you print your remaining 3 threads to PDF because mumsnet are bound to delete these too, as they have your fourth thread and other threads asking where your last thread has gone. Mumsnet have decreed that we are unable to speak of this and will be silenced. Makes me not want to use this site if mumsnet will dictate when women can and cannot have support and take it upon themselves to silence people who challenge them.

@workworkworkugh if you are still reading after your last thread was deleted, then sending you

I'm so sorry your last thread was deleted - that's out of order by MN and makes no sense at all.

Hope he does well with the apprenticeship and it helps him to see the light.

Stay strong Op

Just to add to the voices, I thought it was disgusting that @mnhq deleted your thread

Yes, also adding to others that @mnhq were very heavy handed in deleting your last thread.

As a moderator one needs to take a lighter hand, not a ‘delete all’ approach.

I've been following these threads since the beginning, really disappointed to see that some have been deleted. If you would find it useful to have the timeline, you might be able to look back at the threads on the Wayback Machine 😊 @workworkworkugh

Like others, I'm disappointed in MNHQ's decision to delete the last thread (although I can understand why) and therefore remove a vestige of support for you, @workworkworkugh

I'm glad to read, though, that your son seems to be slowly returning to your family's fold - and hope that she's grown bored of whatever little power trip she believed herself to be on with regards to you/him. I also hope that she doesn't repeat the behaviours with the next young man... although sadly, I suspect she will... and that she receives the help which she so blatantly needs (like others, having a daughter with a PD myself, the behaviours displayed are suggestive that the hopefully ex-girlfriend also has one). I also hope that your son grows from this experience and realises he deserves so much better.

Good luck.

I'm really glad to see this! I couldn't understand why the last thread was deleted although there were a couple of really nasty posts I noticed. Glad things remain calm OP. This is good news.

I've been following your threads in the background for ages, I'm sorry to hear that MNHQ deleted the 4th one. It appears that I missed a whole chunk of the saga on that thread but I'm so glad to hear your DS is no longer seeing her. What a relief and long may it continue!

@amusedbush

I've been following your threads in the background for ages, I'm sorry to hear that MNHQ deleted the 4th one. It appears that I missed a whole chunk of the saga on that thread but I'm so glad to hear your DS is no longer seeing her. What a relief and long may it continue!

I think he still is or I've missed something

@CassieJumped

The first line of the OP's update on the 18th November says "We're fine for now, DS took the apprenticeship and starts soon, he still hasn't seen GF" so I was just going by that.

[quote amusedbush]@CassieJumped

The first line of the OP's update on the 18th November says "We're fine for now, DS took the apprenticeship and starts soon, he still hasn't seen GF" so I was just going by that.[/quote]
I think this may be because she had to self isolate with covid and hadn't seen him since. X

She had done the self isolation, wanted to come and spend time at the OP’s home, op and DH had decided that will not be happening, so the GF decided that they needed a break from each other.

@Orangebonbon

She had done the self isolation, wanted to come and spend time at the OP’s home, op and DH had decided that will not be happening, so the GF decided that they needed a break from each other.

Oh that's great. I missed that update x